SleeveandRNYchica

So I had my pre-op nutrition appointment this evening. I really like the nutritionist and it was a plus because she spoke good English. Our convo went into Spanish several times, but I really like talking about all this health stuff in English. She took my height, weight, and measurements. It is confirmed I am shorter than I originally thought! 165 cm equals 5'5 ....Wow. I thought I was more like 5'6. So we talked about my history, she looked at my labs and told me how great and healthy they look. Again, confirmed I am healthy fat. If such a thing. HA! Anyway we talked about a variety of subjects. She did give me homework:
No Sugar
No Flour after 4 PM
Practice eating slower (I told her I am a fast eater)
No Calorie Counting
and she told my husband to HIDE THE SCALE!!!
Can I just tell you that I am a daily weigher, but after being on the boards for the last few weeks, I do believe it will be a great habit to break prior to surgery. My husband told the nutritionist he loves her for life.

I never expect someone that has been thin all their life to understand. It is a shame that she was "faking" her supportiveness to then turn around and TRY to call you out in front of someone else. I always say, when people show you who they are the first time believe them.

I am a mother and a wife, but can not relate. However, I did want to comment. You are being selfish? Why because now you have chosen to concentrate on yourself? It sounds to me like they are trying to manipulate you into not doing something for yourself, so that they do not need to take care of responsiblities that you have always taken care of. We as moms always tend to take care of everyone elses needs forgetting our own. I am sorry that you are going through this. I hope that you decide to proceed on with the surgery. By investing in yourself you will be better all the way around. As far as your relationship with your husband, from what you are saying it doesn't seem like he has been supportive of other things in your life? I am just guessing based on your statement. Maybe it is time for some couples therapy to get to the root of the issue.

I think my problem is I cannot invision what "small" is. I have never been "small." I was diagnosed as obese around age 6. I was always bigger than all my friends, the biggest on the softball team and an even bigger adult. I think I set my goal originally at 160lbs because I cannot imagine anything less. However, I know for my height 150# is a great target number. I just have no clue what it looks like. I think for ME having been obese (since childhood) the whole body image issues are extreme. I honestly have no clue what I should weigh or what looks appropriate. I figure I will take each day as it comes.
Good luck on your journey!

I am a mother and a wife, but can not relate. However, I did want to comment. You are being selfish? Why because now you have chosen to concentrate on yourself? It sounds to me like they are trying to manipulate you into not doing something for yourself, so that they do not need to take care of responsiblities that you have always taken care of. We as moms always tend to take care of everyone elses needs forgetting our own. I am sorry that you are going through this. I hope that you decide to proceed on with the surgery. By investing in yourself you will be better all the way around. As far as your relationship with your husband, from what you are saying it doesn't seem like he has been supportive of other things in your life? I am just guessing based on your statement. Maybe it is time for some couples therapy to get to the root of the issue.

I think my problem is I cannot invision what "small" is. I have never been "small." I was diagnosed as obese around age 6. I was always bigger than all my friends, the biggest on the softball team and an even bigger adult. I think I set my goal originally at 160lbs because I cannot imagine anything less. However, I know for my height 150# is a great target number. I just have no clue what it looks like. I think for ME having been obese (since childhood) the whole body image issues are extreme. I honestly have no clue what I should weigh or what looks appropriate. I figure I will take each day as it comes.
Good luck on your journey!

While I was a 'normal' child/teen, like you I cannot envision being SMALL. I mentioned on an earlier post that I am 52, and have been fat for about 27 years or so. The fact that I don't even really like food or eating anymore is CRAZY!!! So, yeah, I will learn to deal with being called TOO skinny!

You look great!

I am so sorry you are having such a tough time. I have not yet had surgery, so my experience is none. However, the one thing I have gotten and understand since joining these boards is that the stalls are very common. Everyone that has expressed their experience with the stall have later came out and said that the weight does come off. I don't think I have read one post of a person that said they did not lose weight. Just think your body has gone through a tremendous transformation. You have to give it time to heal and figure out just what is going on. Please don't get discouraged. You will get through this period. I think mentally (because I am sure I will go through it) we think the weight is just gonna fall off. But our bodies are so much more complicated than that. I wish you luck. Happy Anniversary.

I had my psych eval scheduled for September 10th; however, the doctor's office called today and asked if they could get me in 3 weeks earlier - don't mind if I do!!!!
Funny how things work out and start to fall together quickly. Here's hoping they can get me approved through insurance and on the surgery docket by the end of September - woot woot!

I am so sorry you are having such a tough time. I have not yet had surgery, so my experience is none. However, the one thing I have gotten and understand since joining these boards is that the stalls are very common. Everyone that has expressed their experience with the stall have later came out and said that the weight does come off. I don't think I have read one post of a person that said they did not lose weight. Just think your body has gone through a tremendous transformation. You have to give it time to heal and figure out just what is going on. Please don't get discouraged. You will get through this period. I think mentally (because I am sure I will go through it) we think the weight is just gonna fall off. But our bodies are so much more complicated than that. I wish you luck. Happy Anniversary.

-I will not miss my six year old telling me I have a big butt and when we fly she can put her arm rest down, because my butt is too big.
-I will not miss looking into my closet trying to figure out what to wear.
-I will not miss worry if I will fit into a chair.
-I will not miss my 54" hips.
-I will not miss working out and not seeing results.
-I will not miss being heavier than my husband.
-I will not miss feeling self conscience in my swimsuit.
-I will not miss Lane Bryant, Fashion Bug, Always for Me, and the Avenue.
-I will not miss my feet hurting from a 2" heel.
-I will not miss feeling winded going up a flight of steps.
-I will not miss people telling me I have such a pretty face.

I regret buying new clothes for a trip literally weeks before my first doctor's appointment!! Now, 7 weeks post-op, and all those beautiful clothes have gone into a donation box, because I was swimming in them! (Never mind I hadn't really contemplated having surgery prior to buying those clothes....I still regret it!! LOL)
I felt a little better about it yesterday...I went shopping and bought 2X blouses, instead of the 5X ones I gave away!! Its all good!

Yeah, I have been heavy since I was 6 and on every diet made to man.

We all have been scared sometime during this process. I personally I'm the biggest baby just ask my two sons lol. My biggest fear was dying on the table. I finally figured it out, If I die on the table at least I died trying to better my life and the life of my family. Or I could do nothing and die sooner or later anyway. I chose to go for it. I had all the support in the world from my friends, co workers and of course my family. Iam so thankful for that. If you are not getting the support that you need from people that are closest to you, I am so sorry. You will get all the support and positive feedback you need right here.
We all have that one moment when we make a decision that changed are lives. Mine came at a amusement park. Me and my youngest got on a ride and where about to get started but the safety belt was not long enough. I was so mortified, embarassed and ashamed that I had to see my son get off the ride because of me. It still took me a couple of months of soul searching before I decided to have the surgery. I am so glad I did. The day of the surgery I was more anxious than scared. They gave me some meds that I don't even remember the ride to the operating room. I am down from my highest weight of 489 lbs to 263. I feel so much better. I dropped 50 points on my blood pressure in the first month after the surgery. I am a better father, a better husband and a better coach. My wife and two sons can actually hug me and touch their hands.
The one thing you have to is come to terms with your eating problem. I had to. If your thinking about drinking soda or beer or doing other things that got you to where you are currently, You are not ready. I decided that my loved ones are more important than that big bowl of ice cream or going to a all you can eat chinese buffet.
These community helped me. The information and the support here is awesome. Give yourself a chance at a better life. Give your loved ones a chance of future memories. I am so glad I did. Sorry if I rambled.
Respectfully,
Joe

my ONLY regret is not having done this sooner!

I wish I would have started off right by not drinking & eating at the same time.
I am really having a hard time breaking the habit- wish I would have followed dr's orders from the get-go!!

Yep, yep can of worms....you must'd missed the diet coke thread LOL!

Something cute and tight and doesn't leave a ring around my stomach. I would like some type of skinny jeans with some kick your azz knee high boots :-)

That's what I'm wondering. How did it go from you putting in for it through HR or your supervisor to everyone knowing enough to ask you why you are going on leave?

I had to go back and re-read 44! No, way. Girl, you look amazing!

You look great! Congrats on your transformation.

I'm 3 years post-op today. Have absolutely zero regrets, and I'm a band to vsg revisioner as well. I live a very normal life in maintenance, and currently into my 2nd pregnancy post-VSG. The sleeve is the complete opposite of the band. It's pretty awesome to be honest. I enjoy a varied diet in maintenance, but I ate low carb, high Protein through my entire losing phase (6.5 months). I started at 263lbs at 5'2", and got to goal of 150lbs in 6.5 months, lost an additional 23-25lbs over another 4.5 months getting me into maintenance.
I delivered my daughter Tatum 30 October 2011, and I'm due with Nugget (a boy, we can't decide on a name) on 17 October 2012.

Is there anything in your pre-op experience that you wish you had done differently?

Well, I'm a mother of 2 (6 and 2.5) and a wife. My husband has always been very supportive of me, and things I wanted to do. But he was quite hesitant of me having this surgery. We actually fought pretty bad about it once. He wanted to know WHY I wanted the surgery. He never specifically told me it was the easy way out, but he did say that that's what people (who don't research) tend to think.
After that I fight I thought long and hard about all the reasons WHY I wanted to have this surgery. I'd researched this procedure for over 3 years. I knew the ins and outs of it. I was comfortable with my decision to have it. So I wrote him a long letter explaining every detail of what I felt about myself without surgery, the reasons for the surgery, why I wanted to do the surgery, what I felt like my girls would learn from it, what I expected out of myself afterwards, and that I hoped he would still support me in my decision. It was about a 4 page letter by the end of it.
In the end - I came to realize that this surgery was about ME. No one else. And I had NEVER made anything just about ME. Everyone else always came first. And that was something that was a little eye opening for me (and I think for him).
I had surgery a week ago. He took the week off and stayed home with our girls while I was in the hospital (ended up staying an extra night). Today was his first day back at work, and he has checked on me throughout the day. After giving him that letter, he understood they reasons why, and he has been completely supportive ever since.
Sit down and really talk with him about how you feel. And hear how he feels and what he has to say. But in the end, it's your body and your decision.