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Brazcan- Let's do it! I'm all for having a "take back the sleeve" suport group.

Brazcan- Let's do it! I'm all for having a "take back the sleeve" suport group.

Brazcan- Let's do it! I'm all for having a "take back the sleeve" suport group.

Sabrina- let's do this reset together!

I need a reset too!!!
I was sleeved 04/03/2012...not one complication and loved it! It's the best thing I've ever did for myself. I do tell my friends that it's the easiest but also the hardest thing...Easy because the weight just fell off but hard because it's always a mental game. Ahhh but I digress...
My lowest recorded weight was 159lbs...although I think my lowest was at 148lbs (after gall bladder surgery). I am now at 182lbs. GRR...I'm so disappointed in myself BUT I know that I can do it. I want this 20lbs off and I will get it off. I've been planning my meals and starting trying to get in my Water (emphasis on trying) and I start bikram yoga this weekend.
160..you're calling my name!
Wish Me Luck !
PS. If anyone needs an accountability partner...let me know

I was very glad to see this topic. I am about 2 1/2 years out, never made goal (by about 15 lbs) and this fall gained about 10 lbs back. I know the grazing has killed me. Also, being able to better tolerate carbs too.
I have been trying to figure out what to do to get back on track. This week I statted with shakes as meal substitiutes with a nice high Protein low carb dinner. Hopefully I can get back on the right side of the scale movement.

I'm not sure, bt I will give it a try. The cup size is determined based on the difference between the measurements of the lower chest area (band size) and the fullest part. In my case, I lost a lot of back fat, but my boobs haven't really changed in size or shape at all. I guess that might account for the difference as my lower measurement (band size) has decreased with the weight loss but the other number hasn't changed.

I want to chime in here. A month or so after surgery, my husband started referring to me as schleppy. I looked it and felt worse because I was in clothes that were only a size too big, and I didn't want to go out and buy some clothes at that point.
Well, I caved and went to Lane Bryant as they had a sale. I bought a shirt and two pants that fit- what a difference it made in my head. The biggest difference was the new bra I bought. I got fitted for the first time in years. It is amazing what a good fitting bra will do to your figure and your spirits. Let's just say the girls weren't the only things that were perky.
Do something small for yourself like picking out a bra or something. You will look and feel better. I now do my nails and hair and wear makeup on a regular basis. The "head" part of the losing process I think is the most difficult part. I still fight it as I continue to be in beween sizes.
I will admit I am not totally happy. My bingo wings don't thrill me. My biggest thing- my neck and hands look old. I catch myself staring at my neck and pulling it back so that i don't see the winkles. But you know what- I will live with it and fix it later on if I can. I have lost almost 100lbs and am no longer diabetic. I feel great and it is worth it, and I remind myself of that eveytime I catch myself feeling old or frumpy (in too big clothes).

I want to chime in here. A month or so after surgery, my husband started referring to me as schleppy. I looked it and felt worse because I was in clothes that were only a size too big, and I didn't want to go out and buy some clothes at that point.
Well, I caved and went to Lane Bryant as they had a sale. I bought a shirt and two pants that fit- what a difference it made in my head. The biggest difference was the new bra I bought. I got fitted for the first time in years. It is amazing what a good fitting bra will do to your figure and your spirits. Let's just say the girls weren't the only things that were perky.
Do something small for yourself like picking out a bra or something. You will look and feel better. I now do my nails and hair and wear makeup on a regular basis. The "head" part of the losing process I think is the most difficult part. I still fight it as I continue to be in beween sizes.
I will admit I am not totally happy. My bingo wings don't thrill me. My biggest thing- my neck and hands look old. I catch myself staring at my neck and pulling it back so that i don't see the winkles. But you know what- I will live with it and fix it later on if I can. I have lost almost 100lbs and am no longer diabetic. I feel great and it is worth it, and I remind myself of that eveytime I catch myself feeling old or frumpy (in too big clothes).

Mine uses a straw. With a piece of bubblegum on the end...

Sleeved 10/24 and down 75 pounds. Stupid scale is stuck at 200 and won't budge. Ok, maybe it is because I really want to see the one handle that I just feel that way.

I can't wait to be not being too big bellied to have sex with the hubby while on top! Being short and big belly getting in the way make it impossible.
I can't wait to not being able to wear heels because my feet hurt and swollen. Also, I can't wait to not have to buy shoes in special widths unknown to man because of the swelling. Ladies 5.5EEE not an easy size.
I can't wait to not have to buy slip-on shoes only because I can't bend down to tie laces.
I can't wait to not be able to go to the bathroom in public places because the space is too small or the toilet too high to make cleaning myself possible. (Again, short & fat bad combo).
I can't wait to cross my legs. The fat and severe inflexibility that goes with it make it impossible.
I can't wait to not looking like a slob every time I eat something.
I can't wait to not having my fat roll on my desk and strike keyboard keys when I go to answer the phone.

I will help out.

Funny thing, I commute daily on buses, with narrow-ish center aisles. I dread walking up the aisle, because I have to either go straight up, and possible knock people with the hips/thighs, or try to go sidewinding up the aisle, in which case I might get them with the but/belly.
I also can't wait to not be the last person on the bus that someone is willing to sit next to, because I may take up some extra space. I usually sit on the inside and lean into the window, so rarely is there any overhang into the next space. This doesn't stop people from making the face and sitting elsewhere. I mean seriously, sometimes they choose to sit next to the regulars with BO, over me. When I see this, then I uncompact myself in the seat and just hang all over, so that they can't be comfy if they abandon the stinky seat (my way to be spiteful).

I can't wait to be not being too big bellied to have sex with the hubby while on top! Being short and big belly getting in the way make it impossible.
I can't wait to not being able to wear heels because my feet hurt and swollen. Also, I can't wait to not have to buy shoes in special widths unknown to man because of the swelling. Ladies 5.5EEE not an easy size.
I can't wait to not have to buy slip-on shoes only because I can't bend down to tie laces.
I can't wait to not be able to go to the bathroom in public places because the space is too small or the toilet too high to make cleaning myself possible. (Again, short & fat bad combo).
I can't wait to cross my legs. The fat and severe inflexibility that goes with it make it impossible.
I can't wait to not looking like a slob every time I eat something.
I can't wait to not having my fat roll on my desk and strike keyboard keys when I go to answer the phone.

I have no answers for you, but just wanted to say that I hope it all works out for you.

Sleeved 10/24 and down 75 pounds. Stupid scale is stuck at 200 and won't budge. Ok, maybe it is because I really want to see the one handle that I just feel that way.

Sleeved 10/24 and down 75 pounds. Stupid scale is stuck at 200 and won't budge. Ok, maybe it is because I really want to see the one handle that I just feel that way.

I was sleeved on Oct 24th. I am down 60 lbs total right now. I have no time for the gym (leave for work at 6AM and come home by 7PM) so I need to find a way to get some physical activity in because my thighs are really looking old lady scary. I eat mostly Protein, get in about 50 oz of fluids a day, and take B12 and Biotin regularly. My Vitamins make me sick to my tummy, so I am sure I will have some sort of issue until i can find Vitamins that I can toerate.
On the hair loss, I have tons of hair, thick and half way down my back. I always lose strands every time I run my hands through it, but even with the Biotin, I see more strands lately. Oh well. I hope it doesn't get too noticable.

My rant, my opinion, right? Before you get started on how unsupportive and not nice I am, and how I should just dodge the posts I don't want to read, I'll kindly tell you to educate yourself on how I typically post and on my contributions to VST. (That's my nice way of saying I don't care what you think and that you shouldn't waste my time or yours telling me how mean I am.)
Because I cannot possibly be the only person so incredibly sick of these posts! Anyone else tired of the whining? I don't mind an occasional vent, but the outright whiny, childish and incredibly annoying posts just make me thankful I'm on VST (and on the other side of the computer) and not in an in-person support group. Because, really, people, this is getting stupid. I am not talking about actual complications or asking a valid question, either. I'm talking about the same cycle of wah-wah-wah about simple things that should have come up with only a few attempts at research.
Let's address a few of these annoyances that keep cropping up:
1) Oh my gosh, it's a travesty but guess what? You are NOT going to lose the weight faster than you put it on. I know - it's heartbreaking. I mean, surgery is supposed to be magical, isn't it? I, for one, got a free unicorn AND a leprechaun with my surgery. I get that you don't want to work at this. Really, I mean, taking advantage of a fraction of the stomach capacity and learning how to eat wisely so you can develop a healthy relationship with food and gosh, to live the rest of your ENTIRE LIFE not obese, not overeating and to have a chance to ditch the bad habits and emotional baggage...that's just way too much to wait for. You should probably just be angry at the world and vent on a public forum about how the surgery has ruined your life because you've only lost 20 pounds in three weeks. I mean, really! Those are some completely shoddy results, if you ask me. Because really, who thinks that a one to two year period of focusing on weight loss to lose the weight for good (especially after fifteen years or more of trying to lose the weight on various failed diets) is worth the time or effort?
2) Surgery hurts. I know, I know. You probably didn't realize that having anesthesia and being flopped around, pumped full of gas, sliced open, having an organ removed, having staples and stitches put in and having drains in your body would actually hurt. But it does, imagine that! I know, in most cases it lasts five to ten days before you're feeling better, but surely your world is ending, your pain is the worst ever and you definitely need to post about it here so we can all give you pats on the head and you can scare the people researching the sleeve away. Be thankful you're not one of the people with a REAL complication causing ACTUAL serious pain. Or maybe you are. We can't tell or guide people to their doctors because there are just so many suffering people posting that it's a challenge to weed out the ones with real issues and the ones who forgot to take their pain pills. I know, we all handle pain differently. But really, a teeny bit of research would help with expectations, wouldn't it? And let's not forget how tired you are post op. Who knew that eating less than 300 calories a day after major surgery and having to really work at staying hydrated would wear you out and make you tired? Ugh, it's completely unreasonable!
3) It's hard to eat when you only have 15% of your stomach. Who knew? I mean, sure, that's why we had surgery, but I know you figured you'd just have a smaller stomach made of cast Iron that could easily tolerate at least half a bacon cheeseburger within a week of your operation. All that sipping (of warm or room temp liquids!), all of that discomfort when you try to shovel in a cup of oatmeal in week three, the challenge of finding Protein you can eat easily, the challenge of finding a shake you actually like - I mean, who knew that was going to be part of the game? Oh wait, what do you mean everyone that actually researched their surgery knew about this stuff? Well, never mind that. Post about it so we can all hear how different and more difficult it is for you, because I'm sure it was a walk in the park for everyone else.
4) I'm sure your heartburn and acid reflux are terribly uncomfortable. It is for all of us. I'm sure the gurgling and healing stomach sounds are annoying and hard to get used to. They were for the rest of us, too. Which is why you should be on a PPI. If you did even a cursory bit of research on the sleeve, I am certain the fact that acid is an issue post op for almost everyone came up. So if you aren't on a PPI (think Prilosec or Nexium - Tums and Pepcid aren't PPIs) you should probably be on one. Even if your surgeon didn't suggest one. And if he/she didn't prescribe one or suggest one, I'd question that surgeon, because this is a known issue post op for nearly every patient. But it's your body and your suffering, so hey, why not be a tiny bit proactive and ASK FOR ONE if one isn't offered? While we're here, you should have done enough research to realize you'd need sublingual B-12, an Iron supplement and Calcium citrate as well as a multi until your doctor does bloodwork and tells you your levels are fine without supplements. I know, it's HARD to take all those pills...it's so annoying, too. But if you don't take them you'll be tired and sluggish and forgetful and won't feel up to par. But you knew that from all your research, I'm sure.
5) I doubt you're starving. Very, very few people do not lose the hunger post op. I have seen a few that struggled with this but they are few and far between. I know, you probably didn't do enough research to realize that you still have ghrelin in your system for a few days post op, or to find that acid gurgling in your belly feels exactly the same way as a rumbling tummy. You probably thought you'd be immune to head hunger, because you thought obesity was only caused by eating too much, not by any type of emotional attachment to food. You probably didn't realize that two or three (or more) weeks on a liquid diet would be challenging, mentally, even if you don't really want food. I know, I know, we already covered that surgery is supposed to be magical and you wanted it to control your feelings about food and your desire to eat for the rest of your life.
6) Diets don't work. Isn't that why you finally opted for surgery? Then why do you insist on treating the way you eat post op like a diet? Why do you insist on carb counting yourself into misery and allowing yourself only enough calories to sustain a ten pound cat instead of an adult human? Why are you surprised, after years of failed dieting, that the desire to binge and graze and eat emotionally show up when you restrict yourself the way you've always done on past diets? Why do you insist on eliminating entire food groups for fear of gaining weight, only to post at one or two years post op that you can't understand why maintenance is so hard and you can't stop eating junk? Oh, that's right, you thought the sleeve was part B of your diet and treated it that way...and got the same success you got from all those diets you did prior to surgery as a result.
7) It's hard to break bad habits and be healthy. We've covered this! Surgery is supposed to be magical - and therefore any emotional eating problems, baggage from your childhood, poor eating habits you're reinforced for years, etc. should just be magically erased when the surgeon slices out 85% of your stomach. I know, you don't understand why this is so hard! I know, you're so frustrated and you regret your surgery because you want to eat and you can't. Why won't your sleeve stop you from eating those Cookies or that big bowl of ice cream? This is completely unfair. I suggest you post about how the surgery is a waste of time and/or money because it didn't do the head work for you, cause this isn't supposed to be hard. It's magic.
8) Some people lose hair and get loose skin? AH, say it isn't so! If losing the weight and being healthy isn't worth a temporary trade off, surgery isn't for you. I know you already have diabetes, high blood pressure and are slowly killing yourself with your obesity, but you have an irrational fear of loose skin and thinning hair and aren't sure if this surgery is for you. I get that. After all, I'd rather die slowly with beautiful hair than compromise my vanity for a few months and extend my life in the process. I mean, really, we have to have our priorities! So please, as soon as you notice some hair falling out, please panic and post about it and ask if anyone else has experienced it. I'm sure you're the very first person it's ever happened to before and you should frantically warn everyone and work yourself into a frenzy envisioning your bald dome if it continues.
9) If you post stupid, tiresome, uneducated or ridiculous things to strangers on the internet, sometimes you get snarky, short or even blunt and (borderline) rude answers. I know, I know. You live in a world where everyone sings kumbaya together with genuine feeling before they start their day on the communal farm. Well, lots of us don't live there or have an infinite amount of patience and tolerance for those that think we should all be the same. I might answer one way and many other someones will answer another way and between all of us, hopefully there will be enough of an answer that anyone with the same question (but who doesn't necessarily have the same expectation on how it will be answered) can put together a solution. And then, in a perfect world, they wouldn't post the same question two threads down less than 24 hours later.
I love VST. I love that I found this site and researched my surgery for ONE WHOLE YEAR before opting to slice out my stomach. I love that it is full of resources, full of true experiences, full of warnings, full of advice for those that bother to search it out. Even four year old threads can still be relevant today! I love being able to come back here and "give back" in a way, by helping people with genuine questions and genuine concerns. I want to cheer other people on their journey and I want to help people approach this surgery in a sane way that will help them not just lose the weight but keep it off forever.
But for goodness' sake I simply have to acknowledge that I am only human and only have a limited amount of GAF when it comes to some of these posts and lately, some of these members.
It shouldn't be exhausting and aggravating to be here! I've been around the military too long, I think - I'm about a step away from yelling at some of these jokers like they need, instead of being diplomatic and polite.
My vent, my opinion, remember? Remember: you can always just skip over my post and not respond if it really bothers you!
~Cheri

OK- I'm in:
Pre-Op: 275
Current: 217
AFC: 185
Here's Hoping!

Mssion accomlished!
CGW= 225
CW= 220
Now to see what my next mini-goal will be.

One that I have developed recently, as my weight has gone up:
I can't wait to not have to check the weight limits on things: zip-lining, bungee jump rides, treadmills, chairs, etc....
Also, as a Coach bag-a-holic: I can't wait to not be disappointed that the new purse I fell in love with doesn't fit on my arm in any comfortable way, shape or form because the straps are too small for my chubby arms.

I suggest going to a Bliss spa, if there is one near you. It's expensive, but the blue wax they use is painless. If I could see down there I would by the poetic waxing kit (that's what it's called) and just do it at home. I used to go about every six weeks. The staff was nice and very professional. As I got heavier, they would sometimes ask me to help out by holding up the panny and stuff, but other than that no problems.
I plan to go back once I hit my mini-goal of 225.

Step away from the scale! It is not our daily friend. My scale says I am in a stall, but my clothes feel looser every day, so I know something is going right. Like PP said, measure yourself and look for the non-scale changes.
As for the big losses, I find that the really big losses were either people with lots to lose or guys. People with less to lose will lose it slower and guys lose weight faster anyway. Well, that's what I choose to think anyway.