KellyGram

Fertility has been the unexpected benefit of weight loss for me. After 20+ years of infertility I woke up pregnant at 43 years old. Having a child has been a powerful motivator to continue to drop the pounds--he will be 21 when I am 65 and I want to be around to see that day. I'm down 140# and my bariatric doc says now is a good time to focus on maintenance but I feel that dropping another 30 to 40 will increase my chances of longevity.

Thrift stores are great. I also post on Facebook about needing new clothes and have gotten entire wardrobes given to me (latest were sizes 14 and 16) by friends and friends of friends. The great thing about donated clothes is I've worn styles and colors that are beyond my conservative, hide-the-fat-girl comfort zone and learned how great I look in them. Also, the WLS support groups are often great places to score clothes. If you like how someone in the group dresses, ask them if they still have any clothes in your size. Also, wear dresses and skirts. Pants look baggy very quickly and don't adjust well to being taken in, but skirts do -- some are as easy as taking in the elastic on a waist band. If you do prefer pants, get ones with draw-string waistbands. I've dropped 135# and have spent about $300 on clothes over the past 4 years. Most of that has been on bras and underwear.

If you don't want to exercise, don't get the Band! You will lose very slowly on restriction alone, get discouraged, and start out-eating your band. Get the Sleeve or the RnY instead.

My band had been empty for 6 months and I've dropped 50#. 4 years post-op I've made the behavioral changes necessary to drop weight without the need for band restriction. I know that I can have the band removed at any time -- it is one of the reasons why I got it -- but I'll keep it just in case I slip and need a tune-up. Good luck with getting your port repositioned. The tenderness is probably from your waistband rubbing against the port.

Start over with protein shakes and protein bars. I like the Aria protein shakes from Trader Joes and the protein bars from Costco. Pretend you're on your 2 week post-op diet and get back on track.

Stop eating fruit! You need protein and low glycemic index vegetables. Fruit has too much sugar and will stimulate appetite for more sugar. Protein FIRST is my agreement with my surgeon.

I had my surgery Labor Day weekend 2008. Two months later I had to move to another state -- away from my surgeon. I didn't get a fill with proper restriction until 2 years later. In those two years I dropped and kept off 20#. I really worked at eliminating junk food from my diet, and focussed on a protein-first hi Protein diet. I would have dropped more but I was terrible about exercising -- partly because at 330# I was worried about injuring myself, and partly sheer laziness. Moving my body at that weight was so exhausting! Once I experienced restriction I tackled portion control. I was eating right--just too much. I dropped 12# in three months and decided to up my activity level -- I started walking everywhere I could. After 9 month I was down to 298#. It was a big deal to me to get below 300# and I was determined never to see that number on my scale again! It took me 3 years to drop 60#. But once I got below 300 and upped my activity level the weight started coming off faster -- I gained hope and momentum. 4 years and 5 months post-op I am down to 228# -- I've dropped 132#. I have 50# to go. I expect to reach my goal weight in 2014 -- 6 years post-op. Yes, it is taking a while, but that's ok. As to plateaus my personal trainer has me up my calories by 200 a day and my exercise by 400 calories a day. This always works. Why? When caloric intake drops too low the body goes into metabolic conservation mode. Upping calories and exercise turns the metabolism up. Good luck!

Jimmy, I highly recommend a book called Dr Bernstein's Diabetes Solution. I also recommend putting away all large plates, bowls, and glasses in your kitchen. Eat off dessert plates or cup saucers, as this helps with portion control while also helping trick your mind into believing you're eating a plate full of food. As for the lap band, the moral of this story is to never ignore pain. You should consult with your surgeon about what happened and the feedback from the surgeon who removed the band. Did he ever order an upper GI to look at the band placement when you were complaining about pain? If so, I would have the results reviewed by another surgeon. You may have grounds for a suit, or preferably, can work something out with the surgeon to get a revision surgery like Sleeve done at no expense. You could probably get him to reimburse all of your expenses in lieu of a suit. Take care of yourself!

Mercedes -- the difference between the Unjury chicken soup and regular broth is the protein content. There is a LOT more protein in the Unjury product.

MsRhonda, nothing is wrong with you or your body. It is important to lose that "there is something wrong here mentality". Your body lets go of fat in its own way and if you're patient and do the right things (eat less, exercise more, repeat as necessary) you -will- see results. The Lap Band is a tool, and like any tool, it has to be used properly until the job is done. Keep the faith, girl. I've been on my journey for 4 years and I'm still not done -- but I see the finishline!

If you're considering WLS then I'm assuming you're getting into nutritional counseling. I'd also recommend counseling to help learn new coping mechanisms to deal with the stresses and whatnot that cause you to eat. Bariatric surgery does not cure eating disorders -- people willing to do the work on themselves do. And many people who have undergone bariatric surgery go through periods of mourning and emotional rollercoaster because their traditional ways of dealing with their emotions and comforting themselves (food) is no longer available. These are the ones who eventually out-smart and out-eat their surgeries. Also, you have to be willing to exercise -- especially if you're going the Lap-Band route. The Band does not forgive bad eating the way the RnY does because there is no malabsorbtion. The calories you take in are going to stick unless you work them off. I've experience with three different bariatric surgeons and their staff over the years. In my opinion, its not the surgeon or staff that matters--its the availability and usage of support groups, and willingness to make the behavioral changes needed to drop the weight (eat less, exercise more, repeat for the rest of your life).

Welcome! You'll manage terrifically. IF you don't have the book The Emotional First Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery I strongly recommend it. Bariatric surgeries fail when people fail to learn new coping mechanisms and make the behavioral changes necessary to overcome their emotional eating patterns. This book is an invaluable resource. I also recommend using smaller plates, like dessert plates, or even cup saucers to keep your portion sizes under control. Pick up some nice, dense Protein bars. I like the Pure Protein and Premium Protein Bars available at costco. They stick to your ribs, so to speak, and you'll find you won't be hungry again for hours after eating one. Just remember to be patient and kind with yourself and you'll do great.

Remember, this is the time of year when people take vacation and holiday time -- so it may be that they're running with fewer staff and it's taking longer to handle the volume. Be patient. It's worth the wait