Jlewis229

So glad to see you guys using this forum! The other night I posted on Atlanta Craigslist on the M4M section looking for other guys that have had WLS and some FU*#ER flagged It so it was deleted! All i was trying to do was find others that were gay and had WLS so I could find locals to talk to!! Pissed me off but anyway, I hate to hear your friends are not wanting you to lose a certain amount of weight bc u identify with the bear community, other communities, etc. .
Honestly I've always been into the muscle bears anyway, just not other overweight guys, I've always liked thinner guys.
As you all probably know I had my surgery 28 days ago today(4 weeks ago July 26th) and ive lost 26lbs as of Monday this week. Feeling better about myself already and I think it shows in my personality bc I seem to be getting more attention already, I'm actually on my way to Mississippi now to meet someone I've been talking to for almost 3 years who is the most amazingly sweet and Absolutely GORGEOUS guy!!!
I myself have no problem not identifying as a bear anymore, I want to be thin! I want to feel comfortable walking around without a shirt, or getting completely naked and just strutting my stuff in front of other good looking men LOL...Bottom line no matter what, I'm me first, not a bear or anything else first, just me and that's most important, you all remember that!
I hope this works out with this guy, we've both wanted each other for a while, We both thought the other wasn't interested after he stopped talking to me when my brother was really sick and before he passed. He stopped talking to me bc he knew I was stressed but I sure wish he had told me how he felt lol. Anyway, wish me luck! I'll post later to update y'all on how it's going.

I'm not from LA but my bestie lives in Abbeville and she of taking care of me after surgery so that's why I'm having it done in Louisiana.
I'm using Dr. Borland in New Iberia. I've talked to people that have used him and they just love him.
He has a very reasonable cash price of $9800. it is done outpatient, if you don't live there then you have to stay in a hotel in New Iberia and he comes 2 days and checks on you, his nurse calls you daily and you also have the Dr's home and cell # in case of emergencys or a question arises. (letting y'all know in case anyone on here is looking for a good Dr for self pay)
I'm very happy with my choice to use him and my surgery is the 25th in 21 days! So excited!!
Anyway I just wanted to say hi and I'll be in your state soon lol
Johnathan

I smoke and filled out my paperwork and said I didn't bc I was afraid they would not band me.
I wasn't sure and hate lying so I had my grandma call the Dr's office and ask a few questions as if she was interested in the procedure and also asked about the smoking, and sure enough he won't do it If you smoke.
So I figured that if I bought an electronic cigarette and used it on days when I go to their office and make sure I wear smoke free clothes then they can't smell it on me, I also wash my hands and use a pumice stone to keep my fingers from yellowing so that their is no sign of smoking their either. With all of this I should not be ousted as a smoker!
My friend has a script for Chantix that I am getting tomorrow and will start it tomorrow because I really would love to quit and if I can AWESOME! If only before surgery awesome too but would love to quit forever!
Wish me luck with the Chantix because I want it to work. I know a lot of people that have had great success and are usually smoke free by the 5th or 6th day!

OK BETSY! You get those skinny jeans and hooker boots! I wanna see a picture of that when you make it!!!!
I like you have been overweight since grade school! I can't wait to be able to wear normal size clothes, shop ANYWHERE I DAMN WELL PLEASE!! Not have to ask to ORDER something in my size, or go into American Eagle and not find anything and have to go home and order it online since they don't carry for 40 or 42 in the store! Life is going to change so much for us and I absolutely can't wait! What a world it will be! Watch out for me is all I can say!
Johnathan

You lost 57lbs in a month????

You lost 57lbs in a month????

You lost 57lbs in a month????

Haha... this should be a real character! Don't bash us tall guys... I'm 6'3.

I just wanted to post and say that I'm not "really gay," but my brother, my aunt and several of my very close friends are. I think it's great that everyone is here to post and support each other. I'm sorry that no one ever finished the story, I was excited to see where it went.
Good luck and CONGRATULATIONS to all of you! Both in WLS & family, bear, etc. stuff. I'll be checking back for that story...

lesbian here too!!!! Just more of a stalker on here cause don't see very many posts from the ladies!!! but have enjoyed the bear stories and non bear ones also

As much as we all like to talk this sure is a quiet forum!!!

Well, I've been getting more attention from guys who aren't into bears. That's always nice. But at the same time, I'm starting to get ignored by guys who like bears. Not sure if that's a good thing yet. Probably is. I guess it's nice to be recognized by the majority of our community rather than a subset, because, you know, being fat in the gay community is the #1 crime.

Ok so I read this post and it just really bothered me!
"Wow. I don't think your size has anything to do with finding love. It's the love and respect for yourself that makes people love you. You could be a size 2 and if you don't know how to love and honor yourself, you'll still be alone."
This is not all that true! Let's Face it, most people are attracted first by the way you look! They don't know your personality by looking at you! They don't decide to give you their phone # after seeing your personality lol
I think this is true of a LTR but dating, etc I just think it has very little merit. Fat people have a much harder time dating PERIOD!

Great post!!! It is definitely a new life, and a chance at lift at that!! We're so lucky bc so many will never get this opportunity and we do! I know I feel very blessed!!
Traceylynn we have the same date! I'm so ready!!

I had the Cappuccino Latte with Almond milk and ice blended and it blended up Perfectly!!! Was pretty good too. I liked that it was not thick and chalky At all!

Got the following:
2 strawberry Kiwi
2 vanilla Bean Torte
2 Cappuccino Latte
3 Fuzzy Navel
1 caribbean cooler
Free sample Cappuccino latte which is 1/2 size of normal sample which kinda blows lol
I'm headed to the Dollar Tree where they have individual packs of yohoo sugar free chocolate and strawberry which should be good to add to any powder that doesn't taste great or any unflavored.
Anyway, when I get home I will try probably the cappuccino latte with some sugar free caramel Syrup, ice and some unsweetened vanilla almond milk and hopefully have something close to a caramel frappe!
Johnathan

Thank you guys for wondering! I'm doing better! I've lost 12lbs since the day before surgery! Can't wait to eat some mashed potatoes or oatmeal or something with a little texture to it other than jello! Blah!! Tonight I was running a low grade fever but it's gone now. I've felt pretty good for theist part and appreciate you all for caring!
Johnathan

Thank you guys for wondering! I'm doing better! I've lost 12lbs since the day before surgery! Can't wait to eat some mashed potatoes or oatmeal or something with a little texture to it other than jello! Blah!! Tonight I was running a low grade fever but it's gone now. I've felt pretty good for theist part and appreciate you all for caring!
Johnathan

Thank you guys for wondering! I'm doing better! I've lost 12lbs since the day before surgery! Can't wait to eat some mashed potatoes or oatmeal or something with a little texture to it other than jello! Blah!! Tonight I was running a low grade fever but it's gone now. I've felt pretty good for theist part and appreciate you all for caring!
Johnathan

OK! I can't wait to just be able to fit into average sized clothes and not have to worry about seeing if i can find a size 42 pair of shorts at American Eagle and not have to go home to order them online because nobody carries them in my size in store!
I really think we have our age on our side! I plan on drinking good amounts of water, I like lotion anyway because I can't stand to feel DRY, and I am definitely going to be working out! I have 105lb to lose to be at a good healthy weight where I don't think i'll look too skinny and thankfully most of my excess weight is my stomach and i have man boobs lol...my thighs & upper arms can just use some exercise and they will be good to go thankfully! And my butt, well it's gonna get lots of exercise b/c it's gonna be a big bubble once i'm finished working out! lol
Good luck everyone!

Yep' it's that time!! 9am! So ready yet so anxious! On my way to see my Dr now.

It's our day tomorrow! Good luck Tracey Lynn!! Mine is at 9am. I'll be thinking of you.