ChicagoRose

I am 100 lbs. overweight (getting banded on 3/4) and have now and have always had a very high libido. Right now working full time, two kids, etc, we are at about 3-4 times a week....I joked with my husband to "watch out" when I lose the weight I am going to be unbearable in a good way I too went through a phase where I felt too fat and ugly for sex and after about a year, I saw a therapist who helped me seperate my negative feelings with sex. YES...I am overweight....YES...I need to lose weight...YES...I will look and feel better when the weight is gone.......BUT YES....my husband still wants to have sex with me and the connection is super important so just GO FOR IT! Good luck =)

I am three weeks from being banded, and will start my pre-op on Feb 18th so technically I have one week left as "the old me." I'm just curious what you would say was your one regret from before you were banded (I'm not talking about the band being a regret, I'm talking about wishing you had _[fill in the blank]___ one last time before the band) or what you are glad you made time for before your banding. I'm so excited my mind is racing right now!!! I don't want to forget anything!

Yikes! Yes, you do want to focus on protien, but maybe pureed beef isn't the right way to go yet.I just ordered a supply of UNJURY protien mixes online and hope to add them to pureed fruits and vegetables, soups, etc. I'm not even banded yet but I know I am going to need emotional support the first time meat goes down the hatch!! Good luck =)

Thanks for being so frank Terry...that's just what we need! I too wonder about how intimacy will be impated but I have reason to believe the pros will still GREATLY outweight the cons and if that means a little port tenderness I'll take it. There are so many things I was able to do when I wasn't obese that I am missing so much and there are some intimacy things on that list as well! Good luck every body!

I will be banded on Mar 4 and I actually ordered the started kit from unjury protien online. My plan is to add this to fruit smoothies, ice coffee, soups, etc. to make them "liquid meals". I hadn't thought about sugar free syrup in protien shakes....a good idea too, I'll have to look into that!

Wow! That is inspiring. I am going to be banded on Mar 4 (start my pre-op) on Feb 18 and am only starting about 5 lbs less than you so I hope I have the same results!! Good luck on your journey and keep up the good work =)

We all make mistakes. I'm willing to bet that if you only cheated one time and it's still a few days away, you will be okay. Having patients ONLY ingest liquids for two weeks is completely unrealistic in my oppinion. I start my pre-op on Feb 18 and I am going to be drinking two shakes from the hospital, and one small "grocery meal" that I can prepare myself like an eggwhite omlet or soup. I am very releived by this, which I know I can do. That being said....I plan on gorging at our neighborhood hibachi buffet the night before this starts!! LOL!! Good luck, you are not alone.

I would be frustrated too. I had to do my supervised 6 month diet before I was even allowed to see the surgeon, and I finally got my date 3/4 after 10 MONTHS of appointments and paperwork. Hang in there, better late than never is how I looked at it. The supervised diet was just for recording and documentation purposes. I neither gained nor lost when I was on this diet, just went through the motions. Because I followed all the rules, my band will covered by my insurance, so I get a whole new life, and no debt to take with me there. Good luck, yes it is very frustrating at times, you are not alone!!

A human head weighs 10 lbs! (from movie Jerry McGuire) Thank you so much for the laughs =)

For sure! I have been on this website for months waiting to get my date so I could find people that will be on the same "schedule" as me...I think it's good to see how other people are doing it gives you perspective =)

OMG that sounds like a nightmare. I hope you get the help you need and i agree with the above comment, maybe you should look into a different surgeon!

When you feel down and crampy...just think, someone else on this website can't wait to be in your shoes!! Good luck!

I have been on this forum for almost a year now, since I first went to my PCP to start my application....9 1/2 months later I finally have my surgery date 3/4/13! I too come to this site for the "quick" answers to questions I have had....the answers from my wls peers that are also going through the same things when I'm just curious about something while browsing late at night. I take the advice as it is, and then follow the specific directions I have been given by my own surgical team. I have also noticed in the past year that many of those who have specific questions are self-pay, Mexico patients, or otherwise get a lap band and then never return to a surgery center. ( I am not discounting these patients, just stating an observation.) I am lucky enough to be going through a major hospital in Chicago, with insurance coverage, and am having my hand held throughout the process. I can call someone any time of day, and have an assigned nutritionist, excersice specialist, etc. just for my surgeoen's bariatric patients. Not everyone has this luxury, although we all need answers sometimes. So I say ask what you want and get the answers you want, or don't. Respond to what you can, or don't. If someone is ignorant enough to this life-changing, drastic surgery and wants to follow the advice of someone they don't even know, it's their choice. Good luck to everyone...you are my people and I could never have made it this far without you!!

Sounds good to me...my husband's christmas present was a spa day so now that I finally know my surgery, I can book my pre-op spa day LOL Good luck =)

Hi! I got my date today and it's March 4!! I haven't started a pre-op yet....waiting to get a packet in the mail now is my next step. I do know that I will do two protien shakes a day and one protien bar (mandatory purchesed from the hospital) and one small meal on my own protien/veg. I started my journey last April so I am so excited to finally have a date!! Good luck and let's be sure to keep in touch =)

I say why eat what you don't like? Try low-fat ricotta instead? Or even Greek Yogurt?

I, just like you, am a drive thru junkie. What I have been doing to prepare for my band is strategizing what i will NEED to do after I have my band. Here are some of my ideas I can share with you if you are interested. 1. Buy a "magic bullet" smoothie maker so that I can throw ingredients in in the morning and it already becomes a travel mug for my lunch. 2. keep an insulated bag in my car filled with band friendly foods. (be prepared AHEAD of time so I won't need the drive thru!) 3. Keep packets of instant soup in my glove compartment to mix with hot water at work. 4. keep a list in the car of things I can have from each place and making them my staples (like wendy's chili, McD's parfait, etc.) 5. Keep protien powder in the car, my purse, etc. to mix with ice coffee or other sugar free drinks in a pinch. (check out unjury.com) Good Luck!!

I was really freaked out going into this exam....it turned out to be very simple. I wrote a whole post about it on my blog called "just breathe" you should check it out. To no one's surprise then had to go to the sleep study and have sleep apnea and am now on a breathing mask. I have to do this treatment for at least 30 days before I can go back for the clearance I need which is 1/8/13. It's just been so much, this journey but I have faith it will be well worth it. Good luck!

Wow! Thanks for sharing! I am still in the waiting game to be banded and I look forward to hearing success stories =) Keep up the good work and keep inspiring us to do the same!

I just want to go off a diving board again at our local pool and not be humiliated trying to swim back up and to the side. I also want to race my kids up the stairs to the big water slide. My my biggest "secret" goal is to have my hip bone rub up against my husband when we hook up and not be seperated by inches of fat belly. No goal is to crazy!! Let's do this!!

Try to think of it more as a lifestyle change. Just like you, I am hoping that me and my band will figure out together what agrees with me and what doesn't. Also, something to consider is that this particular surgery works best for "volume eaters" that need portion control versus those that graze constantly or will cheat with ice cream, milkshakes, or other slider foods. Good Luck!!

Hang in there....if you have anxiety over eating but are struggling with other personal problems right now I understand how it would slow you down. Right now you are controlling what you are eating but not in control of the other stresses. One step at a time. Maybe add in some similar foods of similar consistency and work your way up to "normal" food again.....and help is out there for your other problems as well, take care of yourself =)

I am also pre-surgery and hear that the band is so fickle that there is no rule as to what you can or can't have....just that you have to find out for yourself. I don't plan on saying goodbye with any particular food but rather saying good bye to the amount of food that I'm used too....like the three unneccesary plates at the Chinese Buffet. Good Luck =)

I agree. There is NO WAY that your weight loss is not noticible. I plan on picking a simple outfit, like a black tank and shorts, and take my picture on the monthly marks even if it's just for me to see. I also can't imagine you still wear the same size so use that as a reassurance that you are loosing when you get discouraged. I too am pissed that I let myself go. I am also someone who has already lost 80 pounds just to gain it back and trust me, the guilt and hate I feel is dibilitating on some days. All i can do is look at where I am today, and if I can loose 42 pounds after my band, well, that's 42 pounds less of fat and baggage I have to carry around with me every day. Good luck and keep you head up!!

Honestly, chicken is my least favorite protien!! I am by no means a vegetarian, but I plan on sticking with soft and moist fish after my surgery, soft boiled eggs, etc. Good luck, just think that it sucks for you but others are ANXIOUS to get there!! Good luck =)