Hello!
First off congrats on your date!!!! I will hopefully be sleeved in November as well!
I have had TMJ for 19 years (actually longer). I do not know what your doctor means by 'reset'. I had TMJ surgery and my life was much better after that!!! The surgery does not have a high success rate(at least at that time), but I was lucky and it worked real good for me. My jaw no longer gets stuck shut, no clicking, talking and chewing are easier, no ear pain, and headaches are less. If I talk for a long time like 5 hours or more I will have pain, but its not like it used to be. My surgeon was a plastic surgeon because they make two large incisions vertically in front of the ear, and lift it up. My scaring is minimal and people don't seem to notice unless it point it out.
Unfortunately, in 2004 I was in a pretty bad car accident and my temporomandibular joint hit a door jam. Since them my symptoms are creeping back. It sucks!!! However I say the surgery is worth the benefits!!!
Best,
Sannah