takingaleap

so sorry.. kick him to the curb.. you deserve better .

Have you spoken with him? Maybe its something entirely innocent. Confront him in a non-threatening way and find out what is going on with that. Maybe things just need to be talked out. People make mistakes all of the time and when they are called out on it, they realize they can't act on the fantasy. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Don't let it derail you, stay strong and take care of yourself.

I think men get insecure when they see their partners slimming down and feeling more confident, and making serious changes for the better in their lives. They may fear being leeft behind at the same time they resent your moving ahead - and yet don't want to do anything about it! I've seen it several times - but cheating won't help, nor is it excusable. I agree - talk to him and see if the conversation can be had in a non-threateneing way...if not, maybe he's not going to be able to go the distance.
In any event, take care of yourself and stay focused on your wise choices. Love yourself, and do it well! You're worth it.

am sorry....i hope it turns out its not what it appears to be

'this isn't the first time'... Texting a woman or cheating?
My heart goes out to you, honey. x

Takingaleap..... stay strong. You deserve better and you don't have to settle for less. Take care.

Wow...
As someone who almost gave up on my marriage years ago, went to counseling and 18 years later is happily married to the same guy, I just gotta say, slow down!
Things might not be as you think.
Time for a conversation, an honest one to figure out what's going on.
Hope things work out for you.

First of all him trying to and doing is two different things. If this is not the first time why let it even get to a second time. There are two things I despise and that is a liar and a cheater and if either then you have to go. There is no second chances for taking my trust and throwing it away. If you don't get away from him now he will continue if this isn't the first time. Just my two cents but once a cheat is always a cheat.

No one says anything to me. Only you lot on here.
As for when I noticed it? When I'd lost 43 lbs odd and went shopping for a pair of jeans. I was now in a UK 16 (US 12)
I practically needed to sit down I was so shocked!

I am down since surgery 50 but I lost 35 before surgery so a total of 85 and I can see a major difference. I went from a size 26/28 to a size 22/24 and my boobs went from a size 50DDD to a 48C. I see a MAJOR difference!

I had the surgery when I was 25, it's been 5 months now and I'm down 94 lbs!!

Atkins has been very good to me twice, and then I soon as I ate that first potato, it was all over and the weight quickly came back. So I know this time that carbs have to be let out of their cage on an extremely limited basis for me. Recently I have become familiar with the concepts of the Primal Blueprint, which is very similar to the Caveman approach to eating and exercise. Since I am already post-op low carb out of necessity, Primal is not such a stretch. One adjustment that I have had to make since my total calories are limited to 800, is to let green Beans and tomatoes become my fruit most of the time. Probably when I get to goal I can re-examine the whole plan for maintenance.
The exercise program makes a lot of sense too, and it is something I can do. You can check it out at primalblueprint.com.

Mellie do you have Instagram??

Well if it weren't for my Doc politely telling me I was MORBIDLY OBESE, I wouldn't have has this surgery, lost a sh*t load of weight, became healthier, walked threw a GYM door, put a smile back on my husbands face (if ya know what I mean), fit in an airplane seat, chase my grandkids around the yard, or walk 3 miles when ever I choose OR found this awesome site!!....hmmmm, what was that my Doc said I was...MORDIDLY OBESE??..thank you my sweet Doctor for caring enough to hurt my sensitive A$$...love him

Wow, a lot of over achievers here. I did my mile walk today and was all I could do. Hopefully I will get better at this.

Yes, there are times when I know I have not eaten too much, but either feel full like I did..or..the food was so satisfying that I keep thinking there is no way I didn't eat too much.
I've started using MyFitnesPal to track my food and exercise..that may the answer for you, too

You are on the general weight loss board. The site has started incorporation some of the threads on the right hand side recent topics with lap band threads. I kinda like it.

Yes. And I will go a little further and say there are still times I feel guilty for my food selections when really deep down they're not bad especially in moderation.

K so apparently my husband isn't quite as thrilled about my happy dances and singing of show tunes and whatever else comes to my mind today but I don't care. I have officially reached my surgeons goal weight! I myself wanted to get to 135lb and thought that was so impossible when I started this journey. I have officially reached 130.0! It's arrived and I'm so thrilled and gotta say there were days I didn't know if it would happen. Now the maintenance part begins. I feel so blessed. For any of you struggling out there..it does get better and it can and will happen! We all started this for a reason. Don't lose sight of that. My reason was to get past health issues brought on my obesity and also to make my kiddo proud of his mama. Don't lose sight

my fellow sojourners!

If you're on a PC, at the top and bottom of this page are search engines to find surgeons in your area.
Read here as much as you can but try to go to 2-3 seminars in your area. Most surgeons talk about all the different WLS techniques at these seminars and usually you can schedule a consult while you're there.

Yes Sharpie I just want to smack them I am watching Zsalynn right now. She needs to ditch that husband.

So lately I feel like I'm taking in to much food. I'm pre op. Surgery is in May. I'm doing well, I've lost 33lbs and i use the treadmill everyday. I fallow the pre op diet, but this week the scale has not moved, and today I ate 1egg+1egg white, with one turkey sausage. lunch was 2pieces of sliced turkey. And dinner was baked chicken, lettuce and Tomato with a low cal dressing, I did have a small scoop of mashed potatoes. But all my food comes to 677 cals. I feel like I ate like a pig!!!!

Plateaus are bound to happen. Just getting through one myself. I have a hard time with this same subject. I eat anywhere from 850 to 1200 calories a day, plus exercise 4 days a week. I looked back at my calorie intake the weeks I lost big and I ate closer to 1100/1200 calories the whole week. I don't know if I really believe in starvation mode, but it may be true. Also, the week leading up to my period is really hard to lose weight. Once I start, the weight starts dropping. So don't forget about hormones.
Just keep doing what you're doing. 33 pounds is awesome! That's the weight of the large bag of dog food I buy every month. Crazy! You're doing great.

So lately I feel like I'm taking in to much food. I'm pre op. Surgery is in May. I'm doing well, I've lost 33lbs and i use the treadmill everyday. I fallow the pre op diet, but this week the scale has not moved, and today I ate 1egg+1egg white, with one turkey sausage. lunch was 2pieces of sliced turkey. And dinner was baked chicken, lettuce and Tomato with a low cal dressing, I did have a small scoop of mashed potatoes. But all my food comes to 677 cals. I feel like I ate like a pig!!!!

Congrats on your decision to better yourself! You are on the right path with the pre op weight loss and exercise. Doing those things after surgery will help this tool work for you! Keep researching and learn as much as you can about this. It is the best thing you can do for yourself! Best of luck to you! Any questions or problems, ask!