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BTW...SHAPESHIFTER always has the most awesome responses to blogs I read...gracias!

I wrote about this today!
I dont know how I feel...I think its easier for me to tell people and have the WHATEVER attitude. But I dont want my husbands family to know...THEY ARE SOOOOOO CRITICAL and they all have an opinion! But they are also the people who keep asking when we are going to have a baby, even after knowing we have a problem in that area and it's very sensitive!
If you know that it is what you want and arent going to let negative people sway you then SPEAK FREELY!
Although no ones opinion is going to sway me not to do it, I really dont want to be nasty with anyone and I can feel that coming on.

this reminds me of my failed attempt at 2 shakes and a meal a day.
After a week I was crying "i miss chewing during the day" and I am scared of the post-op diet...
I keep telling my husband, Yoli the b***h will be here visiting for a few days I will understand if you want to stay at your brothers house. I hope he can just deal tho...hes a big man however he eats like a little bird unless he is starving from not eating through out the day...he said he is going to try to do the post-op thing with me but with higher intake...lets see how that works.

Im dancing with you!!!i cant wait to be under 200 i havent seen a 1 starting number on the scale for about 7 years now!
GO LYRA...

YESSSS!!!!!
This is exactly what one of my blogs was about, to tell or not to tell, WHY CANT THIS BE WORN ON OUR SLEEVE...y a secret? EFF THAT...
Im doing it for me and just because you "wouldnt" then you cant judge. Ive had people say o i wouldnt do that and look at me crooked face and then i give them some schooling about it and all of a sudden they are signing up for the seminar...GTFOH!!
I love this blog!

Do you have an Alfred Angelo store close to you...the plus size collection is amazing. I had to go to 5 davids bridals to find my dress. They all have different stuff in stock and I waited to last minute too.

My office staff knows Im having surgery...
1. because we are extremely tight knit, I babysit people's children for whole weekends, they were at my wedding, etc.
2. because we are all overweight, and we complain and do WW and fail. There are some here who need to feel it is ok to go have SURGERY--it is necessary for some, I AM ONE and just opening up and saying Im going to the seminar, has had everyone doing their research. They can all make their own decision. We are all women here and we struggle together. Im SURE that if insurance covered tummy tucks a few people here would have it done in a blink of an eye!
To EACH her OWN
and 2 people are going to seminars to learn about it!and Im all about being informed!
I was motivated to do it by someone who i used to work with who had it done.
My work family is not a concern...actually its my husbands family who is! haha! They are all about body images and weight loss (yet most should be asking to workout with me instead of commenting) I already told my husband...U ZIP IT MISTER...no one is to know on your side! and my family doesnt know outside of my parents and sisters.
I just dont want the crap answers of oh you can lose that if you eat right and exercise...but are the same people who say "Why dont you want to eat" when they are trying to serve me a man size plate of plantains and fried chicken. Same people who go to Dominican Republic for a routine Lipo and breast lift but look down their nose at the mention of getting WLS.
My thing is why cant i wear this decision proudly as a badge of courage for taking my problem by the nuts!?
Why do we need to be so secretive?
I see this as my fertility treatment, I need to do this to move forward. I need to do this for me emotionally as well.
Do we look down at the person who gets a pace maker for their heart? This is my pacemaker...I need to do this to LIVE my life.

My office staff knows Im having surgery...
1. because we are extremely tight knit, I babysit people's children for whole weekends, they were at my wedding, etc.
2. because we are all overweight, and we complain and do WW and fail. There are some here who need to feel it is ok to go have SURGERY--it is necessary for some, I AM ONE and just opening up and saying Im going to the seminar, has had everyone doing their research. They can all make their own decision. We are all women here and we struggle together. Im SURE that if insurance covered tummy tucks a few people here would have it done in a blink of an eye!
To EACH her OWN
and 2 people are going to seminars to learn about it!and Im all about being informed!
I was motivated to do it by someone who i used to work with who had it done.
My work family is not a concern...actually its my husbands family who is! haha! They are all about body images and weight loss (yet most should be asking to workout with me instead of commenting) I already told my husband...U ZIP IT MISTER...no one is to know on your side! and my family doesnt know outside of my parents and sisters.
I just dont want the crap answers of oh you can lose that if you eat right and exercise...but are the same people who say "Why dont you want to eat" when they are trying to serve me a man size plate of plantains and fried chicken. Same people who go to Dominican Republic for a routine Lipo and breast lift but look down their nose at the mention of getting WLS.
My thing is why cant i wear this decision proudly as a badge of courage for taking my problem by the nuts!?
Why do we need to be so secretive?
I see this as my fertility treatment, I need to do this to move forward. I need to do this for me emotionally as well.
Do we look down at the person who gets a pace maker for their heart? This is my pacemaker...I need to do this to LIVE my life.

Surgery is not a Fix All, it is simply a tool we purchase to help us lose weight, kinda like a diet pill but WAY BETTER! I find some people even if they know you've had the surgery are timid about saying "oh you look great, Keep it up" they will tell a family member who is brave enough to pass along the compliment. And then you have folks who you've known for years who are not aware you have had the surgery and they EXCLAIM IN THE MIDDLE OF PUBLIC "OH MY YOU ARE LOOKING GOO, THERE IS ONLY HALF OF YOU LEFT, WHAT ON EARTH ARE YOU DOING TO YOURSELF" now when this happens you will be completely validated! This happened to me just this week and I've only lost 52 lbs....but this lady just couldn't help herself...and you know what?....It felt great to have such a compliment!
Good Luck

I told everyone, family, friends, and everyone at work because I didn't want to have everyone asked me why I was out for two weeks or you look like you losing weight what's your secret. I personally wanted people to asked me questions or express their concerns before the surgery and not after. My family and friends was very supportive (mostly)...work was also supportive except for 1 person but she was a big B to begin with so I expected it. One of my work friends had a lot of questions about my experience...later to find out he is having by pass surgery at the end of the month.
I am a very strong person and out spoken at work so I know most people wouldn't say anything negitive to my face which is fine by me. But people will talk and not always nicely...people still think this is a easy way out, which it's not...and some people will just think your sickly/pitiful/weak which is not the case because you are doing something that will hopefully extend your life and give you a better quality of life. To those people, I say "Yes, I cheated...cheated heart failure, high blood pressure, back and knee pain, depression, and an earily grave...so yes, I cheated".
But to be honest, if I had to do it all over again, I would only tell my family and closest friends but not lie if asked by coworkers.