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If you continue to tell yourself you "just can’t lose weight", you will start to believe it. Once you believe it, you will start to live up to it. You can do it. Giving up is an option for dead people only. Accompanying the "I can't do it" is a raft of very sneaky, tricky and ultimately self-tripping excuses. Here are some common ones: · "I can't lose weight. I'm just too tired.": Your tiredness is sourced in those Cookies, chocolates, fast foods and processed meals. Your tiredness is sourced in being sedentary all the time, from the office to the couch. Your tiredness is sugar-filled. And your tiredness as a result of these things is a bit of a vicious circle––too tired to plan healthier food, too tired to plan a diet program, too tired to get up and exercise, and on and on it goes. Wake up to the reality that bad food and little movement create the fatigue. · · "I can't lose weight. It's too boring to go without food.": Do your eyes glaze over every time you see the word diet or read a fitness schedule? Does "nutrition" mean "something dull people care about" to you? Are you stuck with visions of eating "rabbit food" for the rest of your life? If you see weight loss as a dent in an otherwise fun and exciting life, you've fallen into an excuse that losing weight will make life boring. This is an unfortunate excuse that blinds you to seeing the good things about weight loss (more energy equals more fun) and the fun and innovative things you can do with diets and fitness. · · "I can't lose weight. I don't do deprivation; it's just not pretty. Anyway, who cares, I'd rather die young and happy than old and deprived." This excuse is fallacious; nobody wants to die in agony from disease and nutritional deficiencies. It's a short-sighted attitude that sounds hip now but will definitely land all around your hips later. Lifestyle dieting is not about deprivation; it's about managing food and exercise to ensure you lead a happier and more energetic lifestyle overall. · · "I can't lose weight. I tried before and look, it all came back again." Sadly, most diets do this because fad diets and a diet frame of mind are destructive rather than helpful. What is important is to eat healthily for the long-term and to find a diet program in discussion with your health professional that is attuned to your lifestyle, not a temporary fix that you can only see an end for in a few months. Yo-yo dieting teaches little and actually ingrains bad habits by assuming that when the set diet time is up, the junk food can move on back in. It doesn't work like that––changing your eating habits is for life and moderation in all things becomes your new mantra, not "a little diet now, a lot of stuffing later"

nothing wrong with these items as every so oftens.....being processed, it has alot of sodium and other preservatives...

doing good MD, keep up the great work.

well how exciting is that. congrats to you and way to go GF....let this be your motivator to go all the way.....heck you are so close

you are so very newly out of surgery and your insides are swollen, bless your heart..its hard to get anything down...i recall that was the issue with me..(have no fear as the swelling subsides, it will get easier)..you need to sip and sip some more and then sip more,,staying hydrated is key.....SF popsicles saved me...and little sips of protein is important as that will feed/fuel your body until reg foods are started again....its hard yes, but its worth it...hang in there okay

i agree with missy and cheryl and love and donna throwing up is NOT good and it (sounds as if you are too tight)..but i am not a doctor...but eating chips/dip is not the way to lose weight in my opinion i see nothing of you eating veggies/fruit or lean filling Protein but cheap slider/processed foods..just because one can eat more than they are suppose to (in my case my dr advised about 1 cup of food)....does not mean they should....def go to your dr and advise them of what is going on and let them help you...problems can arise later on...hang in there okay

marci whatever you decide, just do your best as that is all you can do.

tmf, you should post this all the time, maybe it will eventually sink in

i agree esp with the part of some not caring or paying attention to the signs from the band that say, hey, i am here.....let me work...some seem sooo heck bent on losing 20+ pounds a week and stress if they dont...let the band work..... .let me add, i had my 10 month post op last week and asked why can i feel restriction with the band and some dont and he said he didnt have an answer as he said he didnt know...he said some do and some dont....i am one who does.

like IP and others, no fill here ether but i also have plication which helps me feel fuller on my allotted amount..i had my 10 month post op last week and asked why can i feel restriction with the band and some dont and he said he didnt have an answer as he said he didnt know...great job on the loss....it can be done without a fill .......i think of a fill in the future as an extra bonus

i have had major surgery before and it was exhausting completely and not just pain wise.....surely a newbie who never had surgery could be suprised....but i have read numerous posts in my year here where after surgery, some are completely shocked that it hurts alittle bit...seems like the dr's are not doing their job and the patient really needs to realize its major surgery at least.

agree with miss and maddawg and others, my dr and nutritionist advised me not too for various reasons. I chose to adhere to what they said. it works for me. I miss diet coke heck yeah.....but I love knowing I have lost 113+ pounds so far more....

TMF, I feel things happen in all WLS, good and bad. At least that is what I was told. Were you told that also? So it should not be a surprise to anyone that complications do and can happen. I was made aware of it. Its a shame dr's do not tell their patients or the patients don't listen and are on the say anything to get the surgery kick and no listening ears. You and Terry made some excellent points as did Elcee.

as long as you do what works for you, that is what matters...I have never smoked but I have heard stopping is brutal..my words of hang in there and stay positive most likely mean nothing but its true and from my heart....hang in there. you are way way stronger than those cigs

something to make you smile cawa:

It is hard to really make someone who hasn’t been there yet believe that is does get better. Most people get to the first few days, think it is too hard and therefore they are doing it wrong and just give up. Well, it IS hard. Sorry, I know that is not the answer you want, but it is the truth. You just have to remind yourself that the habits you are trying to break are ones that you have had for years – do you really expect to break them overnight and for it to be a piece of pecan pie? I can tell you though that it is so, so worth it. Once you get past those first few weeks and you are feeling amazing and loving the changes your body is going through, you will look back and thank yourself for pushing forward. You just need to start. Set small and realistic goals and make one change at a time. The main reason you should be doing this is for yourself and for your health. There are going to be negative people no matter what you do. Well sadly you can’t stop them having that opinion, but who cares what anyone thinks.

the first 4 or 5 days (in my world) was the hardest. i had to do 2 1/2 weeks of liquids before and 2 weeks after. my hub told me one day when i was whining badly.....he turned and said, you wanted this...so do what you have to do to make it happen and i did.....and so will YOU. its not easy..but it does get better and if you believe you can, you WILL.

no second thoughts.....only happy thoughts

i dont want any on my (neck--front/sides) or face either......not on my hands or visible arms. i have one on the back of my neck but hair covers it.. i'd love to get my belly pierced one day......dont see it happening anytime soon though

no hope......IT is and it WILL be.

congrats to YOU.....this is your year.

**sojo** one person who i have given credit to for helping me lose this much so far...nice to have a support person like that....

add me to the list of eating what i want (to quote TMF) to eat like a bandster...which means to me (in my opinion) small bites, chew alot and go slow.... having the band will help you eat less but my dr did not say nope CG you cant eat this anymore.....he just told me to make better food choices..life is too short to not eat a piece of cake on my birthday.

i remember well starting my liquid pre op. i had to do 2 1/2 weeks being a southern gal and lots of hubs biker friends over at the house on weekends and us (frying everything) i was thinking there is no way...but you know what.....i managed to pull through it and so will you. to me, the first 4 or 5 days were the hardest....it showed me that there is something called head hunger (i wanted to eat because they were eating) and i also found out quickly that i was stronger than i thought i was and so are YOU. keep drinking stay busy stay positive

as long as it is coming off, no matter how long it has been or slow. you be a sexy beetch.....keep going GF