#MagicWithinme

exactly we are expecting to much of ourselves, we had surgery! we invaded our body and now it has to take take to get back to normalcy as it now will be. I was very slow to start exercising but yet like you felt guilty that I should be further along, It will take time, we have to stop and take time for ourselvesnot because we want to but because we need to.

You are right on track.. good luck!

I can relate too, I think Im doing so good and I mentally know I am, and dr says I am, nutritionist says I am, but it feels like Im overeating, or eating wrong things and Im gaining weight, but scale stays the same. Nutritionist told me Im obsessing and that puts me in that frame of mine that anything I eat will make me gain weight, yeah thats true, so Im trying not to stress about stressing!... lets not stop though girls, we've made it this far..

Donna,

Deep breath and relax, I can say that now 6 months out and over 50 lbs lost. Many of us go through it and if they say they don't well they aren't being truthful to themselves. I know my first week, I so regretted, I was crying and telling hubby pull it out, pull it out, like it was something from Alien or something, The more I thought about it, the more I couldn't let go of the pains and actually start living again. The pain is temporary, ou have to start living life go back to your routine, minus the foods we all so enjoyed and remember its not about learning restrictions really but learning new healthy habits.

Good Luck!

My doctor waits the 6 weeks and then depending on how your weight loss is going ,and of course how the patient feels, will decide to do a fill. I proudly say I have gone 6 months with NO fill and have managed to lose about 55 lbs. its getting harder , my portions are getting a little bigger but md said as long as Im still losing weight Im ok. We will see in 8 weeks

All doctors are different.

I would start Protein Drinks again

powdered Miralax for me, I mix a teaspoon in morning Protein Drink, so far been regular everyday.

and start as soon as you get the go ahead!

its ok to allow ourselves a reward, and our bodies will let us know what it will accept.

I was like that in the beginning, 18 weeks out for me, I was told its our body doing major adjusting, The insomnia for me was relieved when I turn certain medicine in the morning versus at night, drank more Water at night and malox. The more weight I lost, doctor took me off of one of my meds. Keep track of everything that you feel, and times you take meds, time you eat what you eat. how much time after when you go bathroom, and let dr know, mae you will see a a pattern. good luck

Only you can change the messages on those tapes...it just takes some practice!

I agree

Everyday will be a "struggle/choice" for those who have opted for surgical assistance with food. I am out 16 weeks and Im having more better days than bad. Remember to be consistent with food choices. I recently took some days off, and boy was I not ready for them. It seems to be easier to be at work, and eat on schedule than at home. I have to go back to work to get my diet back on schedule

good luck~

I drink a Protein drink for breakfast every morning because I simply would not get enough Protein otherwise. I don't eat much meat or other high protein foods so if I get a shake in each morning I don't have to worry about it too much the rest of the day.

I do the same thing, sometimes I can't eat in the am, boiled egg, or piece of waffle with Peanut Butter on it. but a shake with 1/2 banana will fill me. I use whey protein 50 grms of protein per scoop. Rite Aid stores also care GNC with a surprisingly large variety of shake selections. Which is great for me the GNC store is out of town and would have to make special trips.

oww.. please let us know how things turn out!

There is another post with same subject, sorry don't remember which one it is

research research research! I found out so much after the fact (and I lived on this site) . Make sure all your questions are answered.

start taking Calcium , so the hair loss isn't as bad. ( I was taking a daily vitamin) but it is recommended to take Calcium tablets. (this is for some, not all suffer hair loss) and it will grow back.

Good luck~

Thats great, just don't forget to give yourself more time to get to bathroom, first few times for me , I almost didn't make it to bathroom , my hands fumbling at my pants buttons like it was a fire I was trying to put out!, now as soon as I get an urge, I head to the bathroom,

Keep going!

my cousin's boss is like that, every guy she sees "wants her". I woulld say say it comes from the self doubt they have had all their lives and yes trying to catch up. i told hubby same thing, if I start acting like that, set me straight.

Speaking for myself, when I got the lapband I thought I knew what was going to happen, how I was going to feel, but right now being banded, 16 weeks, my minds is still unsure, its a clash, our fantasy meeting reality and there's areas that are not meshing.

My hubby and I bless him, communicate very well, right now we don't seem to be in sync moodwise, but its ok. Marriage is not based soley on sex, its based on the love you have for the person you chose to call your partner for life. We make each other laugh, n smile, we can sit in silence and not feel we have to fill in the silence. and we're ok with that too. If I never had sex again, we would be fine, because my husband is my friend as well,anyways

I agree , counseling, single and as a couple seems to be needed. Good luck!

Those charts aren't for everyone, foremost, I got the band to get healthier, I'm 5'1 and 235 when I would get a cortisone shot for allergies (makes you gain weight, that's my excuse) so I looked like a brown oompa lumpa. My health was horrible. I had no choice but listen to my body , I would tell myself tomorrow I'll exercise, tomorrow, I'll go for a walk but I never did. ,

Now I'm down to 170 and probably less, (we put scale away). Looking at the chart I should weigh 130+ but that is too small. I'm more concerned about being healthy and I've started that road. It was never about looking good, looking sexy. I have co-workers that tell me I should be wearing tighter clothes. Why I didn't before. I'm wearing smaller clothes.

Healthy healthy, , wishing you good luck!

welcome, you made the best choice, this is the best site you will ever find,to have any and I mean ANY question you may have answered before during and after. Everyone had the nerves the uncertainties, same reasons for having lapband done, thats why there is SO MUCH support here.

I wish you well!

very true, what's one fat free pudding why not two? I can't eat a cinnabun but I can have a cinnashake. (mall food place that sells huge cinnamin Buns fresh made) hamburger, I only ate the bottom piece of bread, I did cut it in half but ate the other half at home. yes eating out of bordom. It's easy enough to tell hubby that when he's opening cupboards looking for that late night snack , but I have to remember as well. It's so easy to slip right back into the easier habits of eating. I have to learn to put the fork down inside of shovel food in like someone is gonna take it from me, I eat the right amount, just not the right speed. I talked to another bandster I know and we were talking, and she said after awhile "it's not even about looking good right now" and its true, for me and her, we are so busy trying to stay on the bandster wagon, we don't realize we are the ones driving sometimes. good luck to all of us. I gots to get back in the drivers' seat!

I was taking estroven before surgery and it seemed to help like a dummy I threw them away because I didn't have them any more until starting thursday night, horrible, my body jerks awake and I have to :dose" myself with a piece of xanax , tylenol and a cold cloth.. It keeps going in the morning until I've had a cool shower and started my medicines again .

well done, I hope I'm as successful as you!

thank you for putting in to words again, how people need to open their eyes to weight loss and obesity, I hate the word morbid, makes me feel like I should be in a black gown the bottom dragging.. with white face paint on, looking like death. or so fat that there's a string tied to my foot because Im so round and fat I'm floating like a balloon. We didn't chose to be heavy. It happened. While I never got stuck in anything, being only 5 feet tall, the extra weight I carried did make me look round. The extra weight was not heathy. You can excercise did you drop, eat lightly but without the proper guidance that we need we are going in circles. I've been lucky to have the same m.d since I was 24. He knows my hypochondriacic ways, and knows what I need to hear. I will be alright, I will be healthy again, and sometimes just hearing it makes a world of difference. I don't need to have my hand held, I just need to have you point me in the right direction. The one thing I do remember, is going in for a cat-scan and the nurse handed me 2 gowns , saying oh you might need this. I didn't but I still put it on.. I can tell too when someone is making a comment about (or was) you feel their looks, the sense of shame and quick tears we try to hide , laugh it off, we don't hurt any less than anyone else. There's no need to defend ourselves to these people, I tell myself Karma baby karma) and go on my way.

good luck to all

if dr not available talk to nurse! You need to keep your Protein steady and up otherwise, you will be weak and it will be harder to get your journey started.

I was told by doctor that body is used to sleeping 7-8 hours , so if you go to sleep early its going to wake up early. She said stay up as late as you can, and you should be getting up a little later and no tv/radio.

It works for me when I remember to turn tv off.