fat yes ugly no

I did not tell people out of fear for what they might say. I agree, to heck with them. I have not told people because I don't want to be remembered or thought of as that girl who got WLS. Getting the gastric sleeve is not my life and I don't want to be referred to as if it is. I also don't want to spend my days answering everyone's questions. I also do not desire to be considered a "former fat girl". When I hit normal weight, the less people who know the more people who just look at me as normal. There are even more reasons than this that I did not tell many people. None of them have to do with me being "afraid" of other peoples words. If I hurt someone because I chose not to shout out my decision to the world, that is their problem not mine. It is not my job to contend with the "stigma" of WLS. This is about me and my voyage of self discovery. I have spent my entire life worried about, and taking care of other people. It is my turn to just let people worry about their own business and not feel it is my job to make sure WLS is understood. If they want to know about it, they can do an online search.
Now, on the other hand. If someone came up to me and specifically asked me if I had weight loss surgery, I would not lie. I tell the truth and allow people to fill in their own blanks however they want. To date, this has never led to anyone thinking I have had WLS. Maybe down the road, but who knows?

Sadly i have to say yes! Listen to this sh*t: My best friend of ten years ( we are 24 n in college now) is also overweight. At her heaviest she weighed 260 and I 285. She always looked smaller than i because her bottom half is noticeably tinier than her top half ( i use to call her small bottoms as a term of endearment . it never bothered her) we both looked into the surgery together as for we work in the same place for the last 7 years and have the same insurance. She decided it wasn’t for her and I opted to get it done. She said she would be there for me and take care of me after the surgery. ( I live alone and have no family) she didn’t I had to ask a male friend to take care of me last minute and when I asked her to pick up my pain meds it took her forever bc she was WALKING THE TRACK! Lol she hadn’t worked out in forever but **** got real for her after my surgery and hey whatever motivates her to lose weight but couldn’t she drop off my pain meds first! I was there through her divorce in ways that no one has ever been there for me.

I work in an office of 6 women including myself. Out of those six women only one is thin. She and another fat coworker got together with my boss to tell her that I could only talk about my weight loss and that I have changed and am a mean person. Now I have always been sarcastic and made all kinds of jokes including fat ones. I did this at 285 lbs now that I’m 171 my jokes r rude and I am conceded. (How convenient) To top it all off my boss is very immature and like the gossip of the office and people are easily put on her **** list (a list u would rather be fired than put on) needless to say I am on the **** list!
When I approached her about why we growing distant she said “you don’t even compliment me on my 15 lbs loss. (really! I lost 70lbs and not a peep) l I told her why did she feel like she needed my compliment as affirmations when she couldn’t even mention or be happy for me that I was now wearing jeans ( I stopped wearing jeans when hit a size 24)

I have lost 115 lbs but it came at the cost of losing my best friend. I would do it a million times over! J

There's no such thing as a 40 INCH bougie. It's measured in millimeters and it's TINY. Your bougie size is not going to affect how much weight you lose, at least not significantly. The difference between a 32 and a 40 bougie is smaller than the lenghth of the word bougie on your screen!
Here's a picture that may help:

Princess I'm sure you will do amazing also! Thank you so much for your amazingly kind words

OMG! You have done such a GREAT job. You look AMAZING, you should feel that way too! How awesome for you. I can't wait until I get there!

ive lost 114lbs as of july 26. Aug will be very busy for me doing this now.

Congrats, you look amazing! I will be a year post op on August 29th! "Go All Stars"! I am in maintenance mode now, teedering between 133 and 137. I tend to snack more than I should and I struggle sometimes to keep my head in the game. I will continue to fight though! I refuse to ever let myself slip back to the way I was, I intend to keep my new found health and energy (and rockin bod)! Keep up the good work and stay strong! GOD Bless!
((HUGS))
Shell

Wow! You are an inspiration. Congatulations!

I love it! You were about my size/shape (before), so I love to see how you look/feel now. I can only hope to be as confident & successful as you look.

O My God
you are good example to me.
You look amazing.
I see that I can go this as well.

You better STRUT girl , You look FABBBBBB

Congrats! You look awesome. Truely amazing.

Wow you look great!!!

Awesome

You look great! I love everyones before and afters! I cNt wait to have one of my own!

that must feel incredible....congrats

That gives everyone hope that's about to start this journey, that's awesome you look amazing

You look freaking fabulous!!!!

You go girl!

Wow... what a transformation; I lurve the white outfit...only a slim person could wear that with the confidence you do!
Defo not ugly... beautiful before and after... congrats! =]

ive lost 114lbs as of july 26. Aug will be very busy for me doing this now.

ive lost 114lbs as of july 26. Aug will be very busy for me doing this now.

ive lost 114lbs as of july 26. Aug will be very busy for me doing this now.

Stopping smoking starts over tomorrow. Not gunna beat myself up because this is fricking HARD!!! Just pick myself off dust off the smoke and ash and start over.
:-/