imawhodat

I am 10 months post sleeve and down 100lbs since day of surgery. Unfortuntely my husband and I separated a few weeks ago. I'm in a very bad place mentally. I'm heart broken for my kids but I KNOW in my heart this is for the best. My husband does not want this. We've had problems prior to my surgery though and now I just can't take it anymore. It infuritates me that people think "oh she lost that weight now she is going to leave him." I've heard that comment about some of my friends that had WLS. That is sooo not the case with us.

I'm seeing a therapist and taking it literally one moment at a time. I'm scared and very upset with myself. I have been eating JUNK...lots of it. I KNOW this isn't what I should do and that is how I gained weight in the first place. I'm using food to self soothe. I don't need a kick in the ass...I know this isn't what I should be doing. I guess I'm here just to vent.

Since my WLS I've had a couple of health issues that I am dealing with along with the emotional crap. I'm feeling so overwhelmed.

I also do not know how to handle the attention I'm getting from people..mainly men. I'm not used to being looked at in positive way. When I was overweight it was RARE for someone to make eye contact with me, much less speak to me.

I feel like I am rambling. If any of you have gone through a divorce/separation post WLS feel free to comment.

I forget to mention my doctor kept telling me that week 6 will be a turnaround week for me....and he was right. I was in the hospital once a week for various issues. After week 6 I was like a new woman!

I drink the sugar free Carnation instant Breakfast for breakfast. I buy the individual packets and mix it in skim milk. I know its kind of high in carbs (24) but I can get in Protein and it tastes really good. I find in the morning I need carbs because I am so busy physically at my job. I do very low carb the rest of the day.

I hope you can find something that works. I had quite a few complications early out and I know it can put you in a bad place mentally. Just remember even though it seems like it won't it will get better. I found once I was able to eat soft cheese and have milk I did soooo much better. Thank goodness I'm not lactose intolerant.

Please keep us posted. Hugs!!

Myfitnesspal is making me crazy with this. Domino's website isn't that helpful. I don't think they calculate it by a square, more like a quarter of the pizza. Grr....guess I can't be OCD about this one food item.

When I typed in "dominos thin cheese pizza" into myfitnesspal, it comes up with several, it seems it varies on whether it's a large medium or small. I don't know how accurate it is cuz there are several that are different. One says for a slice of Large Thin, it's 200 calories, 20 carbs, 9 g Protein 10 g fat. Another large says 240 and 19 carbs and 9 g Protein. But then there's a medium thin cheese pizza that lists 285 calories, 29 carbs, and 11 g protein??? So quite confusing!

I had a 4x4 square of this tonight. Thin crust cheese pizza and cannot find the nutrtional value of this anywhere online. I've tried my fitness pal and Domino's website. If you have the stats on this please share! Thank you!

P.S. a few minutes after I ate I got such a full sensation and regretted eating that pizza for a good hour.

Let me know how that turns out. I want to make this but I do not eat bread and stay far away from crackers. I had wondered how your idea would work. Thanks

I am going to try putting the mixture in individual (Pam sprayed) ramekins, instead of any bread and see how they turn out. Thanks for the recipe. I loved the pictures and the humor on the website.

Is it normal to be able to eat more around "that time of the month"? I rarely get in 1000 calories but today I'm at a whopping 1300 cal, 66 carbs, and 85 Protein. I live in the area that is being hit by Tropical Storm Lee and maybe subconsiously I'm stressed about that. Weather is too bad to get out so I've been inside all day and bored.

Just wanted to say I hope you and your family stay safe. I live in hurricane country....Katrina...ugh.... and all of us down here are praying for those that are being affected by that storm. Please update when you can.

I have been storm proofing the yard, getting in supplies, cooking for the next several days because we will probably not have power. Now husband wants fresh baked bread... none of which I can have...

Khy

Meggie,

I loved reading your update! I am so happy for you Miss 68lbs Weight Loss Lady It's wonderful you are able to have a wonderful quality of life. I do hope you are pain free very soon.

XOXO

Leanne

What a scary experience! I'm glad you are ok. Definately talk to your doctor ASAP. For the first month after my surgery I was so weak I was admitted to the hospital several times due to dehydration and extremely low potassium. When my potassium was low I fainted a few times.

I hope you feel better soon! I'm at week 6 and can't get over how good I feel. It does get better!

I've tried to pull it "off" thinking it was a scab, but it wasn't coming out. It started stinging and I decided I'd let my doctor do it. Last thing I want to do is pull something out and then cause an infection...and you KNOW that would be my luck LOL. Glad to know this is common. I've had several surgeries and haven't ever experienced this.

I had the same thing happen. One tiny spot formed a little pimple looking thing that kept itching and when I accidently scratched it it popped and a little thread was sticking out. I could not help it....it was bothering me so i pulled it and it came right out with a little knott on the end. One of the disolvable stitches worked it's way out! Healed up great after.

Can you share the recipe for the low carb pizza? Thanks

B- square of leftover homemade low-carb pizza (cheese and egg only crust!)

L- square of leftover homemade low-carb pizza

D- square of leftover homemade low-carb pizza

Water Water water i'm so freaking sick of water

Thank you!! I had some crab legs today and was so happy. Each day does get better! How is your recovery going? I hope well

So happy for you girl you deserve it after everything you've been through!

I have a teensy tiny incision on my right side. It is very red and scabby. I've also been having some significant pain around it. Its not oozing anything, just real angry red and tender. I am not running a fever either. Well tonight I decided to investigate it further. Getting out of the shower part of the scab looked like it was coming off. Instead of it getting ripped off I decided to gently remove it. Soooo....I tenderly pulled..nothing except a bit of pain. I did get some of the scab off and I discovered a thread! It appears to be an internal stitch that is stuck. I have a follow up appt tomorrow at 1 and I'm going to have them take a look at it. I'm afraid to mess with it because I'm worried about infection. I have been putting Bactraban on it 3 times a day. My other two incisions are healed and not even noticeable. They are almost the same color as my skin.

Has this happened to anyone else? If so, what did your surgeon do about it? I start my new job on Tuesday and hope this won't interfere. I'm just now feeling great after struggling for so long. The only real pain I've had since about 2 days post op is occuring now. I did take some pain meds so I can lay down without hurting.

Thanks y'all!

Breakfast: Sugarfree Carnation Instant Breakfast mixed with 8oz Skim Milk

Lunch: 3 oz. snow crab legs

Dinner: 2 oz. refried Beans

64oz of Water

Going to try to squeeze in more Protein. Maybe more crab legs for a snack

BTW 6 weeks post op.

Finally off of liquids and so happy I can post here

Breakfast: 8oz skim milk with sugar free carnation instant Breakfast added

Lunch: 3oz baked tilapia

Snack: 1 oz baked tilapia

Dinner: refried Beans (homemade) 2oz. with 1 tsp of greek yogurt added

lots of Water

taking vites soon

ETA: I am only 6 weeks out and have been on a liquid diet for the past 4 weeks!!

I'm just wondering how to determine what a serving is. Is it a cluster or just one little leg? The box just says serving size 3 oz. but doesn't indicate what that is. And of course I don't have a kitchen scale yet. I plan on getting one tonight.

Thanks y'all

Easy way out, like H E DOUBLE HOCKEY STICKS it is!!! UGH that's all I got. I'm steaming mad!!!!

Thank you all so very much!!! 2 weeks ago I would of never thought I'd be able to go to a restaurant! I was doing good to get in 4 oz of Protein Shake. Even though I did have a rough time at first I am so thankful for the sleeve! Especially now that I am down 35lbs in 5 weeks!! WOOHOO!

Today is my husband's birthday and we decided to go eat at a seafood restaurant in our town. I told the waitress that I recently had weight loss surgery and I can only eat a tiny bit. She suggested ordering off the kids menu and that she would ask the chef to boil 4 shrimp for me. I was stoked that she was so accomodating. Well the shrimp came and I found them to be a bit to chewy. BTW this was the first time to eat meat Protein so doing it in a restaurant was nerve wracking! Anyway, I decided I would try some of my husbands baked flounder. I was able to eat about an ounce and a few bites of baked potato (swiped off my daughters plate ). I was so happy everything went down great. I definately feel like I got fuller faster. I can usually eat 2 oz of refried Beans without difficulty, so I was a bit surprised to only eat a tiny bit of fish. However, I have some yummy leftovers that is going to make a wonderful bedtime snack

Just wanted to share......this is a huge deal for me and I am so happy!

I am finally (thank the good Lord) able to try eggs. My plan says I can have poached, scrambled, or soft boiled. I have been stressing all day over how to cook the sucker.

So my question to you all is: How was your egg cooked the first time you ate it? And did you tolerate it? I've never in my life had a poached egg and to be honest it doesn't sound appealing. I'm thinking I want to do a boiled egg and then puree it...make a sort of egg salad minus all the mayo and pickles.

Thanks everyone!!!

Thank you for the tip on the roast! My plan won't allow me to have roast or steak for 10 more weeks!! AGH!

Thanks all for the kind words. And 'imawhodat' as far as your quote:

'I have to cook meals for my family and have stood in my kitchen and cried as I pulled that gorgeous roast out of the oven and had to walk away and let my husband finish up dinner. That part is getting easier though. I have to keep reminding myself its not forever. The thought of going to a restaurant gives me the willys! I think that would be absolute torture for me this early out. '

Roasts go down BEAUTIFULLY with the VSG, at least for me. Crockpot Carnitas, also. chicken is the only thing that gives me trouble, it seems too dry. Although, I have no trouble with Turkey. In fact I substitute turkey breast for chicken in most meals. And I am a crockpot fiend! I find if the Protein slow cooks in it's juices, plus a little acidity (lemon or lime or vinegars) it makes it very tender and goes down very well!

First let me say....HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!

I was sleeved June 16th and my diet is still somewhat limited (lots of complications). I am just now starting mushies and limited ones. I can't answer your question, but I wanted to add that I am having lots of anxiety regarding my birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. I will cry lots of tears if I am unable to tolerate a bite of my favorite foods. Just one bite, thats all I want. I'm sure I am borrowing trouble and shouldn't be worrying about.

Hopefully as your sleeve matures and the further out you get you will be able to tolerate small amounts of the food you love. I don't think you are whining, I think its a very good thing to get these feelings out, especially here where we are all experiencing similar struggles. I tell you, the first time I had refried Beans I got teary eyed. Luckily that was one of my favorite foods pre surgery and I eat them all the time now. It makes me feel normal. I think that is the hardest part of this, is adjusting to the lifestyle change.

I have to cook meals for my family and have stood in my kitchen and cried as I pulled that gorgeous roast out of the oven and had to walk away and let my husband finish up dinner. That part is getting easier though. I have to keep reminding myself its not forever. The thought of going to a restaurant gives me the willys! I think that would be absolute torture for me this early out.

BTW Congrats on the 60 pounds in 3 months!!! That is incredible!!!! I really hope things get easier for you. Just know you are not alone.

Well, yesterday was my 42nd birthday. And honestly, it was kind of a bummer. I am thrilled that I had my VSG on May 5th and that at almost 3 months I am down 60 lbs. I am happy for the energy I now have to work out a minimum of 5 hours a week. I love the loose clothing. That being said, I am mourning the fact that I miss certain foods. I am a huge foodie, and all my friends are foodies also. We like to get together for pot lucks and dinners. This birthday was rough, my best friend wanted to take me to dinner to Celebrate. But I talked him into just getting some take out and catching up on 'True Blood'.

I did this because, it seems like an INCREDIBLE waste of money to go out and eat when I can only get down a few bites, can't enjoy an appetizer. Hell, I did not even have a bite of anything sweet because pastries, cake or anything with flour pretty much makes me dry heave until it comes up.

I guess I am mourning the loss of comfort foods, and it sucks, and I should not whine. I guess it is just hard because yesterday really drove hope a feeling I have been having that this is just a diet. The thought of another 50 something years dieting, well, it sucks.

Don't get me wrong, i am happy with my WLS decision, it is just this mind set battle can suck sometimes.

When did your 'New Life' stop feeling so restrictive and depriving like a diet?

I was able to eat about 2oz of refried Beans with a tiny bit of cheese and sour cream. Brought a tear to my eye I tell you! So it took me almost an hour to eat it, and I KNOW that's not what most of y'all have been told to allow for meals. But this was my first time eating it and I didn't want to rush it and get sick. I needed to know how I would tolerate it...and I did just fine Tomorrow I will reduce meal time. I'm so excited! Who would of ever thought 2 oz of food would make me this happy, but after the road I've been down with this sleeve it makes me wanna jump for joy!

I agree about the commercials! It's torture for me. What is even worse is I am still cooking these delicious meals for my family that I cannot eat yet! But I really enjoy knowing I'm cooking them healthy meals and I get some enjoyment from watching them eat. Is that weird? LOL

My husband brought in a bag of Dorito's the other day and didn't put them away. He left them on the table for the entire day. I couldn't bring myself to look at the table. Finally my daughter opened the bag to get a few and I got one out....and LICKED it. I'm was happy to throw it in the trash! I had no intention of eating it, I just thought tasting the flavor might help and it did! Gag!