The Dora Milaje

I have dumping, but I had it for years (pretty much all of my life) before surgery so it's not surprising it would continue for me. I have dealt with this so long and any food can cause it for me so no rhythm or rhyme to it.

This video was what I needed to see yesterday. I have been struggling with some emotional drama with my SO and reverted to my old bad habits -- eating trash to deal with my feelings even though I felt like trash afterward. This was just Thursday and Friday so I didn't get all the way off course but he's right. I have to change my relationship with food AND with others. Have to.

Also, I realized I was self-sabotaging. I have been fat for so long (see first diet at 5) I'm not sure I believe I deserve to be a healthy weight. I talk a good game but deep down I have doubts. I need to work on showing myself the same grace I would show to a friend who was going through this process.

I will discuss with my therapist and I appreciate all the information and support here.

Love. This. I am type 1, first diet at 5.

On 3/26/2018 at 7:24 PM, mitchjoann132010 said:

I have my surgery coming up April 25th. I'm 5'0 and really scared I'm going to be an extremely slow loser.

Your numbers are a lot like mine. I'm losing slowly but steadily. Don't worry about it, you will be fine

No idea but whatever it is it works for me. I will say my NUT said that you get your monies worth from my surgeon. I will agree.

Come back and show us pics and progress!

Personally I said dump him because I assumed she had already discussed all of this with him since she has had the surgery already. The journey is hard enough why add on struggling with a boyfriend over it?

Sorry for the dupes

18 hours ago, Missytee said:

It’s my boyfriend

Ok well dump him. Don't even waste the energy trying to make him understand why you made the decision you did. Life is too short.

18 hours ago, Missytee said:

It’s my boyfriend

Ok well dump him. Don't even waste the energy trying to make him understand why you made the decision you did. Life is too short.

18 hours ago, Missytee said:

It’s my boyfriend

Ok well dump him. Don't even waste the energy trying to make him understand why you made the decision you did. Life is too short.

18 hours ago, Missytee said:

It’s my boyfriend

Ok well dump him. Don't even waste the energy trying to make him understand why you made the decision you did. Life is too short.

Girl you betta slay! Any "secrets" to your success that you can share with those of us still in the beginning of our journey?

Is this your boyfriend or husband? My answer varies depending on the level of commitment.

What would you say were the "secrets" to your success?

Flintstones w/iron chewables

3 hours ago, etc. etc. etc. said:

Many different plans seem to work, yes. The only thing that seems like an absolute is that the people who succeed have a plan, execute it as best they can, track their results, and hold themselves accountable. Slip-ups here and there, sure. Differences in approach, you bet. Creekimp and I eat very differently, but what we share in common is a that we follow a plan and give it a lot of thought and consideration and put real effort into making sure we stay on track.

Occasionally, people will say some very pleasant sounding stuff about "not worrying about all those numbers" and "just using your best judgment" ...and I have to bite my tongue not to remind them their best judgment made them a seriously obese person who needed major surgery to get their weight under control. Notice also how many of the "I'm not getting results!" and "I'm backsliding!" posts indicate the same kind of lack of plan and "going by what feels right" approach. This is not a coincidence.

There are many different ways to do this right. But they all involve putting in effort and holding yourself accountable.

Lots of roads to the same destination, but to get there, you have to get going, stay in motion, and follow your own map.

I noticed this, too! Which is why once I went back to soft food, I went back to logging because if "eyeing" stuff worked I wouldn't have needed a sleeve. I am still sort of amazed I can be sated on 800 calories but, when they aren't useless calories (junk food), well, that makes perfect sense. And today, I figured out how to get all my Protein in while drinking less of those sweet shakes (more creative use of my Unjury unflavored and chicken flavored powders).

If you're not getting 800 cals your body may be in survival mode. Just a thought but your doctors will likely be able to sort it out. Good luck.

I also am reminded as I read posts here that we all have different relationships with food. I have struggled with disordered eating all my life and watched my mom struggle with her weight and food too. My cousin did this surgery 7 years ago and said she never thinks about food and has to remind herself to eat. She has maintained most of her weightloss. I was hoping that would be the case for me but I am almost a month out and I can see that is not the journey I am on sadly. But I am determined to get to a healthy weight and to have a healthy relationship with food.

Anyway this is just me rambling.

Turns out I can eat and be full on 800 cals. And it’s good to me stuff. Fish, veggies, avocado, cheese. This is so cool.

I have more gas but it's not that painful. I just fart. It stinks more than it ever did before though, oowhee

My face. Then my fingers, hands, feet, ankles.

Flintstones chewable with Iron twice a day

In a week I can restart my calcium citrate with magnesium and vit D

I was able to have Decaf right after surgery. That's what I drink anyway (caffeine is like crack in my system).

Go back to the beginning. Measure, weigh, log, move.