kmt1973

Don't do it. Move away from the cake. It is not your friend! That being said.....That is one of the worst things you could say to a person. You should've told her, you would rather be overweight than have a black heart. Telling you to ignore her would be impossible but, don't let it rule you or your decisions. I am so sorry, you have to deal with someone like that.

You say it just started 6 months ago. Do you thinkk that maybe Curt is feeling some stress over another baby coming? People release stress differently, it kinda sounds like he might've tried holding it in and the dam broke so now everything makes him go off. I'm not saying he's cheating or not cheating, or its the new stress or not, but something new is going on. If this isn't how he normally is, I would seek counseling from a pastor or the like before you call it quits. p.s. You are definitly not complaining, you are reaching out for answers, and thats good.

I am curious to know the "WHY" you sabatoge yourself. I find myself not sabatoging myself but have a certain amount of fear about being "skinny". Maybe if I was closer to goal I would feel the need to. I am really not sure where my fear is coming from. Know this....you are not alone!

I'm telling you, we are a glutten for punishment. I have the lapband, I belong to healthy accountability on facebook and also belong to Dixie recipe swap. All those sweet southern recipes......yet its like a car wreck I gotta watch.... and see... and imagine....and fantasize....and....gotta go....headed back to dixie recip.......

Oh wow, I am in the same boat. Surgery 4/19/12, lost 21lbs. Gained back 4, and have absolutly NO RESTRICTION! UGH :...(

I think you should try to help her realise in some subtle ways that the band does not prevent her from eating food no matter how tight it is. Befriend her, I don't know? suggest you team up? Seems like total ignorance on her part to me. I wish few years back someone had told me or even suggested how this band really is supposed to work. I pretty much thought... I'm smart, I can read, don't need anyone to tell me how it should be done. Boy was I wrong! Try help her see the importance of sticking to some kind of plan! All the best..