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As a child care professional it is my oppinon that there are several meathods of dicipline that does nothing. or in turn can actually enable more undesirerable behaviors. One of these is "smacking a child" By this i mean hauling off and smacking a child. A spank on the rump, one open handed is ok. and does deliver a message if it is needed( btw this is also what MN state law states or something to that effect) Often times children exhibit what can be termed experimental behavior or needs behavior. The thing to remember with this is that ANY time a behavior is shown t here is a reason behind it. Lonly. bored, curious, angry, hurt, ect.. In my oppinon the best way to prevent these behaviors or to correct these is to find an alternate positive behavoir to correct it. Another thing that i feel doesnt work and there is documetned proof is "Time out" sitting in the corner ect.. When this happens the child sits there and if the7y sit too long the forget why they are sitting there. what did that accomplish.:phanvan what we do in the classroom si a "cool down" if a child is throwing a fit:angry or hurting themselves or others then we tell the child they need to calm down and physically put the child in a corner with pillows, stuffed animals exc.. maybe books, this will help the child to calm down on their own and then when the child is ready to come back to the activity they are free to on their own and nothing more is mentioned. Please keep in mind that these sugesstions have been used on preschool and under. I have not worked extensivly with older children yet and so i can only give my 2 cents for this age group. I hope i didnt sound preechy i just know what we use in the classroom and it works.

HI! WElcome to LAPBAND LAND! Congratuloations for making the decision to have the band! I am still waiting to get my approval so you are ahead of me! from what i have read you want to be carefull about physical activity for the first few weeks but i dont know.. sorry... as to medications, they have tons of liquid meds now and tylonol is supposed to be a good one. I hope all goes well for you and your surgery.. where are you going? i am going to duluth:p

Wow... It is one thing to get crap from strangers and to have to put up with descrimination. and that is exactly what it is... but to have your husband, the one person that should be your biggest cheerleader say that.. it had to hurt. i hope he made it right. I have family that are awful..i mentioned it earlier... Just try to keep your head up. :mad:

WOW... ok so maybe the wait will be helpfull. i do have alot of things to change...I already have been working on some diet changes.. thank you for your tips... i just wish i had some sort ofchecklist of things to change... lol... as to wheetsin's question, I got o Bemidji State University. So im not sure if that is smurf turf or not lol...

Ok so i am starting this thread for those of us who are WAITING.... I am g etting impatient and it is frustrating to see people that get the band within a month of starting the process. Who else is waiting on baited breath for an aproval... waht goals do you have before surgery? I probaly have to wait till june or july to be banded and it is driving me nuts...:faint: My goals: Eat more fruits and veggies quit my late night snacking ( any ideas would be helpfull) work out 3 times a week...-*

I have had most of my dr visits, everything is done except for the surgon visit. they are telling me that i can probably look forward to a june date. I gues they are busy... I WANT IT NOW... not in 3-4 months. they say that the wait is to make sure that you really want this and are serious about the commitment. My file goes to review april 4th... has anyone else had a LONG wait? I first went to my info session in jan... then it took 2 months to get in to the rn and dietican... grr.... but i will wait.. it is worth it..

well i have struggled with my weight since i was a teenager and my step mom used to charge me for every pound that i gained. ( she is a witch) then a couple of years ago i went home to visit my family and she took me aside and said" you could have warned us about your weight" ooooo that pissed me off! Ive decied i am not gong home till i loose all of my weight... and they dont know about my having the surgery.. and they wont... on a lighter note...One of the funniest things i have had happen is i work in a day care with toddlers and one day i was taking them for a walk and one of them ( cute as can be) said "teacher, baby in tummy?" it was so darn cute. i was kind of taken aback but then laughed it off and said no no baby... then he insisted lol.. ( one of the other teachers is pregnant and he knew it) I guess i looked like her... kids dont understandt hat some people are fluffy... the one that i HATE the most is " you have a preety face and have a great personality!" GRRRR it drives me nuts...:angry

I know how you feel. I started dating my BF when i was a size 16-18 ( i miss those days). Although i did gain weight from a surgery on my knee which put me preety much sedentary for a couple of weeks, i do wonder what he thinks of me. I know he loves me and accepts me but at the same time i am not the skinny "girls " that he likes to look at. Sometimes i wonder if he is attracted to me and what will happen after my surgery and after i loose weight. However i do have the comfort that he does love me and loves me as i am... I guess the question here is "how do you feel about yourself?" I have struggled with this myself. i understand how you feel..

WOW... I saw this thread and read through it...I agree that i would rather give than recieve. I have been laughing my but off for the last hour or so... I didnt think of this being a problem afterr getting my band... hmmm i guess i will have to talk to my man... BTW I LOVE THIS SIGHT!

:eek: I HAVE A REVIEW DATE! I am so excited , nervous, scared... and so many other feelings. I am so glad that eveything is going smoothly for now. i pray and hope that it stays that way.... now i wait till april 4th for my review....I loved everyone there in duluth.. they were all sooo nice...Iam so lucky..

I HAVE A REVIEW DATE! I am so excited , nervous, scared... and so many other feelings. I am so glad that eveything is going smoothly for now. i pray and hope that it stays that way.... now i wait till april 4th for my review....I loved everyone there in duluth.. they were all sooo nice...Iam so lucky..

I will be going to the dietician and the nurse on march 16th. I cant wait! I am really ready to have this surgery and to start to change my life...soon... I am nervous of course but i know i will be ok... and that i am doing what is right for me...

I will be going to the dietician and the nurse on march 16th. I cant wait! I am really ready to have this surgery and to start to change my life...soon... I am nervous of course but i know i will be ok... and that i am doing what is right for me...

YAY! I am sooooo happy! I had my psych evaluation today and the doc said that i was a good canidate for the surgery... i passed! One step closer... i am sooo excited. tommrow is my seminar on the surgery in duluth... i feel like i am unstoppable! lol Lap band here i come!