Laura,
I can help! My husband and I both needed to do something about our weight and our health. We had tried many "diets" without doing well enough to say they would work for the rest of our lives. We both are diabetics, he was about 150 lbs overweight and I am about 100 lbs overweight. He thought a pop with cherry flavor is a fruit and corn and potato is a vegetable. He did not and would not try to understand eating right. He still argues with me what a Protein is! Now me, I am a nurse and understood a bit more about nutrition I just like to eat! So that is a short history of us.
On September 21, 2006, he had a RNY, gastric bypass. He has now lost over 90 lbs. He feels the results! It is obvious to him now that the weight was killing him. It took drastric results to figure out what a protein was and that the weight was killing him even though the food was great! Me on the other hand, I felt the GB was a little drastic for a person like myself (smart and all, haha) anyway I felt I didnt need the immediate results that he needed. He needed a slap in the face and got it! He now is the most compliant person with his diet! Yes, he has to do the protein, Vitamin, Calcium and vitamin B supplements for the rest of his life, yes he has dumping syndrome and yes he needed the rapid weight loss so he could SEE the results instead of being patient and knowing the results. Plus, he could take off work for 6 weeks to recover and I only had two weeks to do this in!
That in a nutshell was what helped in our decisions and I hope it helps you. I know we both will do well now and we both made the right decisions. If for some reason I ever need the slap in the face like him, I can still have the GB.
Good Luck in your decision. Melanie