melzie_99

You guys have made me glad I joined this forum; thank you for your kind words and sound advice. You're absolutely right; part of my problem IS putting the opinions of others first...time to do something for me for a change. Will continue to try on my own until my dr's appointment and see what happens, but think I'm officially over the fence. Good luck to you all and I wish you continued success!

Minus the kids part, your story could be my own (lol). I keep telling myself I can't have kids until I lose weight (at this rate, it might be never). From reading all the good (and bad) stories, I really think the surgery might be a helpful tool but will also force people like us to deal with our emotions head on instead of automatically running for food. Please stick with it and stay determined, and know you're not alone!

Hi all, I'm new to this forum but have found a wealth of info so thank you. Here's my story/question: I've been overweight almost all my life. I managed to lose 30 lbs in high school from a horrible low/no fat diet regimine my mom put me on after seeing a nutritionist; gained a lot of it back. Got to college; was a poor student so lost a LOT of weight and actually got down to about 165; family thought I had an eating disorder or something. Fast forward about 8 years and now I hit 278 at my highest (I'm only 5'5, mind you). Was sent to a diabetic dr (not diabetic) who stuck me on 2 BP meds due to my family history, have developed sleep apnea, suffered with depression in the past, and generally hate what I see when I look in the mirror... Long story short (too late, I know), a dr suggested the lap band to me during a checkup; though I've comtiplated WLS it scared me and I always saw it as the "easy way out". Mentioned it to my husband who informed me I could do what I wanted but he'd have no respect for me if I took this route. Got an equally negative reaction from one of my sisters; have stopped talking to family about it. Everyone seems to think it should be so easy for me to lose weight if only I was "more dedicated". While I manage to lose about 10-15lbs with diet and exercise, I never seem to get past that mark. No one seems to understand how hard this journey has been for me and I'm tired of trying only to fail. So here's my question (I know, FINALLY...lol): how do you get your family to support you, and was it a difficult decision to make to have the surgery? Part of me thinks this will force me to be disciplined with diet/exercise, but then looking AT the restrictions wonder "If I can do all that, couldn't I lose weight WITHOUT the surgery"? I don't know. I'm trying to schedule an appointment with my dr, but just feel really unsure about it all right now; thanks in advance for your time and for letting me vent. :eek: