Disappointed in Myself

It's been one of those days. I had a dear friend that had a nervous breakdown last night (husband left after 34 yrs marriage). It was so sad. Five hours in the hospital then to a facility for her to rest. Three hours of sleep then to work. I just ate 1/2 a cheesburger and 8 french fries. I am paying for it too! I never really thought I was an emotional eating, but I proved to myself I am. I am so disappointed that I did this! When am I going to learn! I also have a painful heel spur and can't walk right now. Just needed to whine a little... :cursing:

I'm sorry it's been a bad day! But not too long ago, if you are like me, you would have had a Supersized Meal and a large soda by now. I just got done with my psych evaluation yesterday and the lady talked about knowing the difference between LAPSING, RELAPSING and COLLAPSING. She said LAPSING will happen and those "All-or-Nothing" type people like me have to accept those speed-bumps and not let it short-circuit us to the COLLAPSING stage. Hang in there. Remember where you have been and where you are going and just remember these "LAPSES" are just that and are NOWHERE near what a Day in the life of you BEFORE would have been like.

If I were you, I'd be proud of myself, not disappointed. The band is not meant to prevent you from ever eating anything tasty ever again. I'm still on mushies but I look forward the the day when I can eat the foods I like again. I expect to be able to eat things that are "bad for me" on occasion. It's nothing to be disappointed about. And here's what you should be proud of--you had 1/2 a burger a 8 fries. How long ago was it that you would ahve eaten the whole burger, a huge serving of fries, sugary soda, dessert and want more? I know for me it wasn't very long ago. Don't be so hard on yourself or you will never be happy with your success.

Let yourself off the hook....I KNOW I could have (and have!) eaten a ton more than that! its just not a big deal...the only big deal is if you let yourself feel like a failure because of it...PLEASE read JazzyMom's blog today about the concepts of 'lapse, relapse, and collapse'...you just had a tiny lapse I think!!! Cali

I have never heard the analogy of lapsing, relapsing and collapsing. That is great. How insightful! Thank you so much for sharing that. I appreciate all your comments. Thank you for your support, JazzyMom17, ALuv82 and Cali! It means so much. You are right. I could have ate double what I ate just a few weeks ago. :cursing:

Dear Diappointed.

Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.

It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections. Life has it's challenges and there will be ups and downs for you, your friends and your family. We didn't get to where we are cuz we did everything perfect, we made our share of mistakes and learning curves. Take one day at a time. If we fall off the horse, we have to have the courage to admit our short comings and get back on and try again. They say... admitting is the first step to recovery.... Your fine, tomorrow will be a better day....

We all fall down but its what you do after that. At least your realized you made a mistake. If that was any of us before this surgery we would have been like okay well i messed up on another diet, ill go ahead and polish this off and start a new tomorrow but does that really happen? Take your time and dont beat yourself. We are our own worst enemy.

"What we need is not the will to believe, but the wish to find out."

I truly believe that you, me and everybody that has stuggled with our weight are finally finding out what it means to truly live. Take care of yourself and be good to yourself.

LAter, B.

wow that is great never in my life could i have eaten 1/2 a burger and 8 fries its always been 2 burgers and xxl fries with xxl coke dont get too down on yourself thats still good hope you re feeling better

someone please tell me where to begin to get back on track. i've fallen and can't find my way back. i was banded 9/30/05 and only lost a grand total of 45 lbs. i've since gained back 14 in the last 5 months. my last unfill was 8/08 (yes unfill i was too tight) at that time, the small unfill felt and turn out to be a total unfill. i have not been back since. i want to start ANEW and get back on track and really commit. is it too late for me, do you think my band still works?? any advice would be very appreciated. TRULY DISAPPOINTED.

Don't give up! You may want to go into the Dr. and get a fill and see how things go. I just had a fill (4th one) today and am at 6.8 in a 10CC band. I had begun to gain because I didn't go back when I first noticed I was getting hungry and eating the wrong things.

So I'm back on liquids for 24 hours and then mushies for a day or two. That always jump starts weight loss for me.

I was banded 9/08 and have lost 37 pounds. I was getting discouraged, but the Dr. says that is still doing well.

I think we all just get too high of expectations. I am just glad I have lost what I have lost and hope to keep going down.

Be good to yourself. I am going for a walk.