my b/f doesnt want me to go through with this. the price for the fee is so much (more than i can afford). i keep thinking i can do so much for $300.00 (its an enrollment fee they charge). im on the fence again. i dont know what to do..im on day 2 of liquids and so damn depressed its killing me. my daughter is crying because in 2 weeks she's turning 13 and she really doenst want me doing this and no matter how i explain it, she s sad....im 240 5'3..not HUGE..but enough to make me sick when i look in the mirror...i have no health issues..other than im fat....this decision is killing me. i dont know if im doing the right thing...

I think the questions you need to ask yourself are you doing this for yourself or someone else? Are you happy with the way you feel about yourself? Have you tried everything that you can to lose the weight on your own and been unsuccessful? Why is my b/f so opposed to my having this surgery? Is my b/f jealous and afraid that you will get skinnier that them? I don't understand your daughter, I have an eleven and eight year old and they didn't want me to have surgery either because they love me the way I am. I just explained to them that I was doing this for myself and I wanted to be able to be more active and get out there and do more things with them. It was a very hard decision for me too and I paid for the whole thing no insurance. I wish I had done it a year ago. I hope I helped you a little, but you are truly the only one that can know if this is the right thing for you. If you aren't doing this for you then ultimately you will fail. I know that sounds harsh but the band is only a tool. I wish you all the luck in the world with your decision whatever it may be. God Bless.

I hear you girl! My grown children did not want me to do it either. However, I ended up doing it for myself. I feel good and do not regret it either. You have to weigh the advantages against the disadvantages. I am so glad that I had the banding, and now my boys are okay with it. They were just scared of the unknown. As far as the b/f, you do it for your self. I have the same feeling about looking at myself in the mirror, because I am fat, although I am only three inches taller than you, but I weigh the same. I am also older, and I wished I had done it when I was younger. I will be thinking about your and you are in my prayers.

Wow! You're three inches taller than me and same weight as me *GRR you and your tallness!*

I think that you need to do this for yourself. I mean, when you feel good, other people feel good too.

I kind of know how you feel because my 'rents don't want me to have the surgery and the relatives I've talked to, think I'm fine. I'm in your position: not "oh my god" bad looking, but bad enough to feel bad about myself and it has SUCH an impact on my self-esteem, that it's not funny.

I think (but don't know your family, so just speculating) that since your daughter is so young, she might get over it pretty quickly. Besides she might like it if her mommy can run really fast after her to play tag!

In all honesty, just try to think of what would be best for you because how you feel matters; your mental health is just as important as your physical health, if not more. So if you need the surgery done because you are "obese" and your self image is in tatters, go for it! Most people will warm up to you losing weight. Good luck!

Sorry for the long post!

JRG

thanks girls for all your feedback...(never thought of myself as tall...lol)...I apreciate the feedback so no post is long..i decided to not go through with it...this was my 2nd time..i honestly believe that through talking with ppl who love and care for me, and my doctor..that i did make the right decision...I am greek, we love food.. you can't tell me not to ever eat spanakopita or greek potatos..oh no no no..(LOL)..thank you for supporting me and all your feedback. I think i just need to go buy some clothes that fit me well, and feel better about myself internally, then maybe one day if it gets to that point i would reconsider (a thrid time?!?!)...

Keep praying for me..

*hugs*

Kat

(greekkatgirl66@yahoo.com)