I am going to miss a few days of work because of the surgery. I don't want to lie to my boss but I know she will tell everyone and I don't need or want that type of pressure. What can I tell her that will be factual without telling her that I had lap band. I don't want to lie but I want to keep this private from work. Help.

I told my boss I was having 'female surgery'. Gall bladder would work, too. Or, abdominal surgery

I don't see that as lying in either case; it is protecting my privacy. Especially if you do not feel your boss would keep it private.

Since my place at work is busy with all these busybodies,i told my boss it was "gall bladder ". I know that the ladies would have put me to the test.I got some much good ahead of me don't need their negative energies mess up my life.memom

I just said, Abdominal Surgery - none of their business, and they ARE NOT ALLOWED to make you say more. Just saying abdominal surgery is not a lie at all, and people tend to get more imaginative - they start assuming it's something female, and once they think that they don't want to know the details. :-)

I acutally didn't tell my manager anything. All I said was I would be out for x days and I've completed my FMLA request. I was concerned that the fmla would be denied because it wasn't within the 30 day rule, but it wasn't.

So yea, I didn't say anything. No one even knows I'm out having surgery.

Thanks for the advice. I think I will use abdominal surgery as the reason. I think that covers it nicely.