Another 1 month Pre-Op

So yesterday I got a tentative surgery date for the 21st of March.  This one is hard.  It seems that with my new job, I don't have TDI.  So I need to file a ton of paperwork to see about getting donated leave to cover the 2 month recovery window for this revision.  So needless to say, I'm very stressed out about all of this.  I'm at a point where, if I can't get the leave, I can't get the surgery, because I can't go 2 months without pay.  Very upsetting situation to be in, finding out that I don't have TDI really changed this entire process.  I've been jumping through hoops for almost a year now trying to get both the insurance's and my surgeon's check boxes ticked off.  And I've got my own goals.  This year is my 40th Birthday and my 20th Wedding anniversary.  So it's a huge year, I was hoping to be back to what I weighed when I was 20, for my 40th birthday.  Not sure if that's going to happen now.  Frustrated, upset and a touch angry.