I truly think that this is a natural human reaction. They mean well and want to support you but then feel that they are left behind and you are moving on to become a butterfly. Give her time and look to make new friends in a support group who are like minded. Your life did change and you can no longer be the eating out buddy you once used to be but you are going to be happier and some people have a hard time adjusting to that. I have not been visited at all by my dinner friends since I had the surgery. Strange but true.... they took my stomach not my heart which still makes me a great friend.

I truly believe that the sleeve changes not only you but the people around you. I have had tons of support, but now that I've lost 61 lbs I can see differences in some people. Even my husband got insecure for a bit. I did reassure him that I'm doing this for me, and not to find someone else. I don't think any of us are prepared for the changes the might occur.

Just make sure someting has not happened in her world that is bothering her more than you are aware of. It may be general depression, etc.

I find it easy to attach my weight loss to people "acting differently" or "treating me differently". Sometime it IS, to be sure. Many more it is not.

For instance, I don't want to socialize anymore over long courses of food in a restaraunt. Therefore I do not hang out with people that I spent years sharing quite a bit with. Due to that, they are often out of the loop of something bothering me, etc...

Either way I am sorry over your hurt feelings. I hope you feel better soon!

Thank you all and yes I've tried making sure I didn't offend her or something is wrong but if it has she won't open up which we've shared everything in the past so I'm just dont know anymore :/