I am not banded yet. Just in the serious thinking about it stage. I've done a lot of online research, waiting for a book on it to arrive, and have seminar coming up next week.

I've only talked to my parents, husband, and one coworker about it. The coworker had gastric bypass in 2002, so she is very supportive. My parents and husband are wishy washy.

My husband tells my it's up to me, BUT makes sure to tell my that it's a huge lifestyle change that I will have to stick to and he's seen my quit everything else, blah, blah, blah.

Like I don't know all that already! If I was able to stick to any other diet plan, I wouldn't be looking into this!

My parents wish I wouldn't think I need surgery to loose weight. My dad keeps telling me to eat better/less and exercise. He's close to 300 lbs, diabetic, strokes, high BP, etc. He should know the struggle I am having.

I know this would be a huge lifestyle change and there will be ups and downs emotionally and physically. If I were to do any diet/exercise program, it would be the same. I am looking into lab band because I am tired of being fat and battling with my weight. I want to loose weight and be healthy, and from what I have read, the lap band would be the biggest committment for me and something I would HAVE to stick to. I would pay completely out of pocket, so I wouldn't go into this lightly and waste all that money.

Anyway, I'm just feeling really alone right now, as I am sure most of you have felt at some point. Thanks for letting me rant, a little! LOL! :biggrin:

i too have the same story as you and panda and many others here. my husband finaly came around to accepting i was doing this (the first few months i didn't tell him about my inquiries and consult), and when i lost 10 pounds during my 10-day preop, i got alot of "if you can lose weight now why do you need the surgery?". my daughters brought me to surgery yesterday, not my husband.... like i said "accepting", but i still ca't say supportive. my closest friends too are positive for my sake, trying to be spportive, but they all would "never do it".

my support is my dad, daughters and this site... and my absolute biggest supporter is ME!!! i did it for me and to be a healthier more participating parent in the lives of my 4 kids.

do it for YOU, your success is for YOU. the rest, your husband included, will see your success and be proud of you for it in the end i'm sure

:rolleyes2:Dear Frustrated,

I am going to get my lapband in Nov. late Nov. I NEED to get my health back, and my blood pressure down. At this

point for me, I will feel better, look better, and not worry about having the strokes my mother had. I don't know how

it will feel to eat so differently, and I will need support , but I have a chance at a new me. Remember negitive thoughts, are just that and we don't need them. DO this for YOU, not

anyone else, you are worth this! You are the one that will change, and maybe others will do the same after they see you and feel your Joy. We should pray for one another.:thumbdown:

Life style change Yes, but change is good and much needed.

Love You. Keep your chin up, and know what YOU want.