OK so here's the story. Last night my husband was at school and I was getting my 10 year old daughter ready for bed. She wanted to know what daddy would have in a black back that she found in his car. She said she saw the bag and he tore it away from her and put it in his trunk. I quickly racked my brain and dirty magazine popped into my head. So this morning my husband went to work in his work truck and just for the heck of it I looked in his trunk and sure enough in a black bag was a VERY GRAPHIC PORNO magazine. This was not a Playboy or even a Penthouse, this was way more graphic. Anyway I was irritated, I mean true it wasn't in the house, but my little girl did almost see it. It also bugs me that my husband treats me like an absolute princess, and secretly he is more into dirty raunchy sluts! Anyway I decided the best thing to do was to shred it up in our paper shredder and throw it in the garbage! Now in many ways this makes me laugh, but I have to admit that while I was shredding I did feel a little over whelmed with guilt that I was destroying his personal property. What do you think, did I overreact with the shredding? Oh and by the way my plan was to not say anything to him at all because I KNOW he is never going to ask me if I took away his porno. Sometimes I feel more like the mother of a teenage boy than a wife of a 30 year old man! And yes I do know shredding the magazine and not confronting him is very passive aggressive.

Edited November 11, 200817 yr by Smartiegirl
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When we had our bigger house we had a massage table set up permanently in the spare room, and we bought it at Sams Club. It had heavy wood legs, and was solid!

When we opted to downsize, we went back to having only one real spare room (grandkids claim the other!!), so we found one through Walgreens, that folds, it holds up to 425 pounds . It is not wobbly or anything. It is not real easy to put up and down....so it remains up unless we have company or something.

We took a massage class, as well as reflexology classes through our local community college. My DH has degenerative bone disease in his neck, so I even had his PT show me how to best massage it.

One of the best buys we ever made! Years and years ago we quit buying each other gifts for birthdays and Christmas....and instead buy something together for ourselves or take a trip. Our birthdays fall 2 weeks apart. The massage table was one of our first combined gift purchases-----we filled one another stockings with oils and creams, made it a fun time!!! But WELL worth the $$$ spent!

Kat

My body is aching for a massage.

Kat, that sounds wonderful I know my hubby would love a massage table.:smile2:

I like it for relaxing, even if DH is not around....being able to lie face down and not wrench my neck.....and just concentrate on breathing deeply---almost instantly relieves my stress headaches.

Try looking at the chain drug stores on line---I bet you can find one!

Kat

Thanks Kat! :smile2:

You guys are freaks!!

I mean that in a good way.

I haven't read this whole thread, but Smartie, I think you shreadding the magazine was awesome. I don't think you should apologize, but you should talk to him. If you don't like him looking at that kind of porn, he shouldn't look at it. And he shouldn't allow it to come within moments of your daughter. What if he had run into the house for a moment and she had just opened it?

I'm talking about professional massages. I've heard that in some places they will ask if you would like a "happy ending" (jerk off). In that scenario, I don't consider it cheating. They've already had their hands all over you and while I agree that genitals are generally private and off limits, in this situation, where you have a professional utilizing their hands to take you to a climatic finish, it just doesn't seem like cheating to me. Hands and/or devices after a real massage--I think is OK. Oral or genital to genital is a definite NO NO.

Now, if it's a so-called massage parlor that really isn't one, that's a totally different story.

Okay, I know this is an old post, but I'm just catching up!!! I have to say two things - one, I've NEVER had that offer when getting a massage at my salon, I may have to speak to the manager, LOL - and two, if it was me getting the happy ending, then no, it's not cheating, if it's dh - then YES it is!!! He doesn't even like his back scratched, if I find out he's having massages I'll know it's just for the HAPPY ENDING!!!