OK so here's the story. Last night my husband was at school and I was getting my 10 year old daughter ready for bed. She wanted to know what daddy would have in a black back that she found in his car. She said she saw the bag and he tore it away from her and put it in his trunk. I quickly racked my brain and dirty magazine popped into my head. So this morning my husband went to work in his work truck and just for the heck of it I looked in his trunk and sure enough in a black bag was a VERY GRAPHIC PORNO magazine. This was not a Playboy or even a Penthouse, this was way more graphic. Anyway I was irritated, I mean true it wasn't in the house, but my little girl did almost see it. It also bugs me that my husband treats me like an absolute princess, and secretly he is more into dirty raunchy sluts! Anyway I decided the best thing to do was to shred it up in our paper shredder and throw it in the garbage! Now in many ways this makes me laugh, but I have to admit that while I was shredding I did feel a little over whelmed with guilt that I was destroying his personal property. What do you think, did I overreact with the shredding? Oh and by the way my plan was to not say anything to him at all because I KNOW he is never going to ask me if I took away his porno. Sometimes I feel more like the mother of a teenage boy than a wife of a 30 year old man! And yes I do know shredding the magazine and not confronting him is very passive aggressive.

Edited November 11, 200817 yr by Smartiegirl
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A son could have just as easily asked about the tampons he found under your sink when he was bored.

What? How is that the same? Knowing about a period and hard porn are a little different to me. I believe in age appropriate education about sex and the human body.

Got a dairy he hasn't read?

I keep my dairy on our desk wide open he reads it if/when ever he wants, I don't care. He also helps himself to anything in my purse/wallet he wants. The fact that we have so few secrets is one of the things that shocked me the most about the whole situation.

Who knows, it might not have been his but the buddy that got a ride with him.

It could have been, but I was pretty sure it wasn't. If it would have been his buddy's I would have told his buddy to keep his private stuff to him self. Then I would have personally gone out and purchased him a replacement.

Then I would have personally gone out and purchased him a replacement.

I don't know you smartiegirl, but the thought of you personally buying a HARDCORE porn mag made me laugh a little. Sexist? Yes.......but I still think it's funny.

Overreact? Maybe. But you were right to feel uncomfortable about the whole porn issue.

If he feels he needs to bring that into the picture with out involving you in the process this shows trust and intimacy issues. If you and he used something like that to spice things up a little I don’t think that would be a problem but the fact he had it hidden in the car in a nondescript bag tells me he doesn’t feel comfortable about some aspect of your sexual relationship. If he wasn’t hiding this like a 15 year old I would not think this but when in a relationship intimate things like this become secrets or get hidden this shows a serious lack of trust and can only be exacerbated by the shredding of the evidence. My honest opinion is to bring it up in a non accusatory manor and see if you can’t get to the bottom of the necessity of the porn. Don’t get me wrong I am all for spice in a relationship but when you spice things up and leave the partner out of the loop you are not far from looking outside of the relationship for the spice (Infidelity) if you catch my drift.

Heck for that matter Two can play that game just for giggles replace his porn with alternate gender porn instead of hot chicks see how he feels about a bag full overly well hung studs in his car. Just tell him that if he wants to spice things up a little it might as well be something you can enjoy also. Or just keep shredding things and ignore the whole thing.

Edited November 14, 200817 yr by Firedad53073

Hi Kat I just read your post, we just spent the last hour and a half reading this thread and talking about it.

see a happy ending....:tongue2:

glad it all worked out,

Heck for that matter Two can play that game just for giggles replace his porn with alternate gender porn instead of hot chicks

This did actually cross my mind :tongue2:. It is something funny/sarcastic like I would do, but ultimately decided that was a little mean even for me!

Hey Donna 113, I've let the subject marinade and the way you described it is most definitely cheating. But I tell you what this would make a nice fantasy. I can just imagine a significant other posing as the hot sexy masseuse giving the tired, overworked, stress, tensed and frustrated wife/mother a pleasureable and satisfying full body massage and then just when she thinks the massage is over he leans in and gently whispers in her ear "Do you want a Happy Ending." Yes! Yes! Yes! :tongue2:

Damn does anyone know where I can find a massage table?

Edited November 14, 200817 yr by Melolo

Melo, now you've got me all hot n bothered! :tongue2:

Melo, now you've got me all hot n bothered! :tongue2:

Donna, I got myself all hot and bother. I'm serious I need a massage table. Because I really do enjoy nice massages both public and private. Oooohhh! I need a cold glass of Water. LOL

Damn does anyone know where I can find a massage table?:Dancing_sorry:

costco used to carry one, but I'm not sure if they do anymore...lol :Dancing_wub: Good luck and have fun

costco used to carry one, but I'm not sure if they do anymore...lol :Dancing_wub: Good luck and have fun

I'm going to check that out. Thanks for the info. My ultimate fantasy of a massage table in my bedroom. I know they fold and unfold. You know I'm going to have some BIG fun. :Dancing_sorry:

HOT DIGGITY DOG!

Donna113 I would like to thank you for making me realize my fantasy of giving and receiving private massages can come true. I will be purchasing a portable massage table. Oh the fun Hubby and I are going to have...Yeeaah! Yahoooo!

Thank You for the info Rodriquezequal.

Thank You to all of the other little people that made this fantasy come true. :Dancing_sorry: I hope I can be an inspiration to you all when it comes to making your freaky fantasies a reality as well. Yes! Yes! Yes! :Dancing_wub:

Melo, you crack me up! :Dancing_sorry:

Melo, you crack me up! :Dancing_sorry:

Donna just think how crazy I'm going to be when I get all of this extra weight off. Oh Boy! We may need to start a thread title "The Secret Lives Of The Lap Band Houswives." or here's another one "Sex and The Lapband," you know a spinoff of "Sex And The City." :Dancing_wub:

We've unleashed a sex fiend! :Dancing_sorry:

This massage thing might be a gateway thing... you know, it starts with an innocent massage and before you know it, it's orgies or nothing at all! :Dancing_wub:

Donna let me correct you. You didn't unleash a sex fiend you've uncovered a sex fiend. Ok! I guess I had to confess.:Dancing_wub:

And I will definitely keep you posted on the adventures of the massage table. Well let me reiterate that and say I will let you know whether the fantasy gets out of hand. :Dancing_sorry: I'll also let you know which title I will identify with...Housewives or Sex And The Lapband.