Hello everyone, I was banded this past Monday and I am feeling much better today physically but emotionally have gone downhill. I got a text message from by boyfriend this morning telling me he wants to break up and that he has meet someone new. This came as a total shock due to he has been calling me every day since surgery and sent me the most wonderful flowers on Monday when I was in the hospital. He has been telling me how much he loves me. I tried to call him but he won’t take my calls I am so shocked and don't know what to think I thought he was on board with me through the surgery and weight loss process.

I need to share my story because I don’t know who else to tell how much I am hurting.

breaking up is very painful and 10 times worse when you find out that your bf has found someone else. time will heal but it is not easy. you may want to call someone to talk to and stay busy because you will become obsessed w/it. remember also your body will not heal if it is feeling alot of stress. sorry for your sadness, i've been there.

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this right now. Remember you did this surgery for you and your health. If your boyfriend is willing to go off with someone he just met and text you regarding breaking up and refusing to answer your calls, he is not the kind of person you need around you in the first place. Believe me when I say most of us have to go through some worthless men to find a good one. It trains us what to watch out for in future relationships. Just focus on yourself and healing and working your band to get the best result. And for added incentive just thing about the look on his face when he eventually sees how wonderful you look and and sees you having a wonderful time with the right guy.

I know you will do wonderfully in your weight loss journey.

I am now banded too as of September 24th. Feeling wonderful and for several days after surgery, I had absolutely no appetite. I was having to struggle just to get enough protein in me. Now that I have healed pretty well and alot of swelling is down, I feel like I am at a standstill. Lost maye 2 pounds in 10 days. Don't go in to see doctor until November 5th where I will get my first fill. Trying to remain positive and optimistic.

Are you sure the text was truly from him? You said you have not talked to him since you got it...could someone have gotten hold of his phone and sent it, not him? Just food for thought. On a happier note, the band is wonderful, enjoy your weightloss.

thats sad about him breaking up with you,but now your on your way to a new you.and besides once a cheat always they say.can only hurt u once.stay strong

How chicken is that to break up with you by text! Who needs a guy like that. Best revenge: concenrate on getting healthy, lose the weight and get a great new guy in your life or several new guys in your life and forget that loser. Hold your head high and don't even bother to call him any more. You know he and new woman are getting laugh at your calls. You need this time alone to get to know the new you that you are going to become. He will probably want you back when you lose the weight and you will be the one to turn him down because you know you can do better than that loser. Good luck with your band and new life!!

It's been years ago, but I once had a guy dump me after I lost a lot of weight.. His reasoning was that I looked so good now that soon all the guys would be after me and he couldn't handle it... It was a horrible event in my life.... and of course I started eating again... that night.... Don't let this guy get to you.. If he was the one, this wouldn't phase him... He would continue on supporting and loving you.. There is someone better waiting out there for you.. There was for me!!!!!! My husband would do anything for me and loves me fat or skinny, but wants only for me to be happy... Take care and keep your head up....high.... Julie

Let go and Let GOD. Focus on yourself and the pain will eventually go away.

I want to say thank you to everyone for you words of encourgement. I am gonig to spend this time getting my weight off and yes it will be his loss and not mine.

I AM SO SORRY THAT WITH ALL THAT IS ON YOUR PLATE THAT THIS HAS HAPPENED TO YOU BUT YOU NEED TO FOCUS ON YOU.YOU ARE ON A NEW PATH IN LIFE AND THERE ARE GOING TO BE SO MANY CHANGES WITH YOUR BODY AS WELL AS YOUR EMOTIONS AND NOW YOU HAVE TIME TO GET TO KNOW YOURSELF AND THAT WILL MAKE YOU THAT MUCH CLOSER TO FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON FOR YOU.

GOOD LUCK!