OK I WAS BANDED A WEEK AGO. MY DISCHARGE PAPERS SAID NO SEX BUT IT DIDNT SAY WHY. TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY. IT SUCKS. WHEN CAN I HAVE SEX?????? AS LONG AS IM NOT IN PAIN CAN ME AND MY MAN GET IT ON ???:tt2::cool2:

LOL i think i want to joke mine also. haha. i'm mean like that. :crying:

BUT MANNN!!!! i am getting surgery ON my bday. and no freakiness!?!? lol. i am going to have to... make some kind of arrangement, ie: go to his house the night before. LOL, wake up, get crazy, then go home? HAHA. get ready for surgery @ 2pm. :redface: *gasp* lol.:thumbdown:

Kristy, LMAO, just remember, "liquids" the day..(night) before.

what kinda liquids you talking about harleynana!?! lol!!

I'm still waiting for Aug the 18th to be banded. My say in this is, if the doc says no physical activity (actual sex) go for the next best thing. Oral. have him go down on you first and if you feel like it afterwards, (so you don't have to bed over any) lay flat on the bed and get him to get on his knees next to your head and give him what he wants from the side. It works for me and my hubby with no complaints at all

I absolutely :wink2: this forum!

I will make sure I ask my doc (I'm sure he's gotten the question before) and I'll talk to hubby as well. We're pretty *ahem* experimental, so it'll be a new challenge finding positions to get into without affecting the port.

Guess I'd better tell him to ramp up his bench pressing again so he can hold himself up...:crying: And work on his flexibility:tt1:

My doctor didn't give me any restrictions in this department. I was able to go out walking 4 days after. Swimming 4 weeks later. As far as sex goes, I waited about 2 weeks. Maybe a little less. I just adjusted the positions. My husband was very gentle, and concerned with my comfort. It wasn't any big deal at all, with the positions we came up with. Missionary was DEFINATELY out. It was actually kind of fun coming up with some new ways to do it. I wasn't uncomfortable. He was terrified of my port. To this day he will not touch it. It freaks him out. My son calls it my alien thingy.

For me we waited about 9 days after surgery. We did it standing up in the shower. I got him all worked up and then we did a modified doggy style, and it didn't cause me any pain . The next time we were lying down at less than 2 weeks and I had a BIG O and that was painful. I was sore for a while afterwords.

Everyone is different, but the main thing is to take it easy the first few times and give yourself time to heal.