OK...here goes nothing. I haven't posted in quite a while because I have been dealing with some real shit at home. A month ago I found out that my husband of almost 10 years has been having an affair for the last year and a half. :mad:That's right...while I was losing weight and looking great, that pig went out seeking an affair and here I was scared of how I would act after I started to get attention from others when I started to look nice. I am hurt:crying:, angry:mad2:, sad :cry_smile:, devastated:cursing:, sick and every other emotion (other than happy). I'm now on Xanax for my anxiety and I am completely obsessed with this crap. How can someone go out seeking an affair when they have a wife and two beautiful children? Do people care anymore? Do vows mean anything? What the hell is wrong with people? Of course now all of a sudden he wants the marriage to work. Well damn...you should have thought about that before porking the skank!!!! I want to freaken scream. I want to hurt them both. How the hell do people get on after things like this happen to them? Is it possible? We are in counseling, but should I even bother? Will he do it again? What about my kids? Damn...I need some serious help. This really sucks. I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of the chest pains and the anxiety. I want a fairy tale ended but unfortunately my marriage will NEVER be the same. I can never look at him the same way again. Do I give up and start my life over with my boys? Can someone wake me up from this horribe nightmare????? Why me? In the last year I have gone from a size 22/24 to a size 10/12 and I have lost 106 pounds. I thought that my husband was proud of me and thought that I was looking good...guess not, huh? Joke's on me!!!

Hey there! Long time...no post. So...here's my latest situation...

Last week on Thursday I emailed HER husband telling him of the affair (she said that he already knew). Within ten minutes of hitting the SEND key, she was calling my husband and my boss (what a dumb you know what). Anyway, he either didn't know or he didn't know how long it went on for. He didn't respond to my email but that's alright...at least I know now that he is aware. I felt a huge lift off of my shoulders. My email was very polite and professional. It didn't bad mouth anyone and I told him that I understand the hurt and pain that he is feeling and that I hope he and his family are doing well. It was hard to write such nice things knowing that she was going to end up reading it.

So...fast forward to the next day. Friday morning she started calling my husband again at 7:30 in the morning yelling at him and complaining about me. Then...she calls me on my cell phone. She says, "I'm gonna get you fired from your job"...."I'm gonna sue you". WHATEVER!!!! She swears that she's so damn smart but she's actually pretty damn stupid. So...she ends up hanging up on me because she didn't get the reaction that she wanted. She continued to call my husband (he didn't answer the phone but he documented every time that she called). She left two more voice mail messages which was very stupid on her part. She's trying to get me in trouble for harassing her (I didn't even contact HER) yet she's calling my husband all day long and leaving nasty messages. She's brillant, isn't she?

So...seeing just how freaking stupid she is made my day. I feel like I can finally concentrate on me and my marriage. My husband is doing everything in his power to make this work and I can tell a HUGE difference in him. Saturday is my birthday. He hasn't said that we were going to do anything special so we'll see what he's got in store. I'm going to get a full body massage, a manicure and a pedicure with my sister-in-law. I'm very excited about it. It's going to be a "ME" day.

So...I'm feeling great (even though the scales aren't moving) and I know that my husband is completely embarrassed by the actions of the other woman. She's a total train wreck. He didn't realize just how much of a gutter rat she really was. Boy, she let her true colors show and I love it. Well...that's where I'm at right now...feeling great and loving life. I feel HOT and I just love to get out of the house now. I feel like I have nowhere to go from here but forward. Yeah for me!!!!

Thanks everyone. I will continue to keep you guys posted. I'll be sure to let you know if he does anything special for my birthday. I'm really curious. I hope that everyone else is doing well. Take care, guys!:thumbup:

Happy b-day early.Hope you have a blast! You deserve it. Sounds like things are going great for you. I am so happy for you. Sounds like you hit a nerve with her. LOL. If her husband knew she would'nt have come un-glued. I am glad that you feel better for sending the email to her husband.

Have a great birthday, and enjoy your pampering - you deserve it!

I'm sure you are keeping the v-mail messages she leaves, as well as keeping a log of all calls...given her reactions, she may in fact go too far, and you may have to get legal intervention (i.e. a court order) to keep her away. These documents and retained messages will be powerful proof of her stalking and harassing you/your husband.

Take care - you are doing so well, and it is uplifting to sense your renewed confidence and positive outlook.

I'm so glad that you are doing so well. I've been following this thread and am glad that you have come out on top! She's a silly woman. And, I commend you on having the guts to tell her husband. I am in a similar but very different situation right now seeing a friend being unfaithful to another friend and I don't know whether its my place to tell him....its so hard to take the higher road, you know?

But the best of luck and wishes to you and your family in dealing with this.

Thanks everyone. By the way...I don't know if I mentioned this or not but she recently moved 5 states away (with her husband). Woo Hoo!!!!! When I first talked to her she said that he was moving but she wasn't because he kicked her out. Funny how things work out, huh? :biggrin:It's funny how she wouldn't say those things to me when she lived here but now she has the courage to say something. What a chicken s**t!

Tina!

First Happy Birthday! YAY! :crying:

Secondly, I am glad you did what you needed to do to move on! I am glad it worked out for you! I am happy to hear you feel better, I was seriously worried it would make things worse!

Lots and lots of hugs!

xoxoxx

I am in a similar but very different situation right now seeing a friend being unfaithful to another friend and I don't know whether its my place to tell him....

Ouch....SS, you are in an unenviable position there. Good luck with that.

Tina, you go girl! I would love to be a fly on THAT wall!

Happy Birthday and have a wonderful day!

Ouch....SS, you are in an unenviable position there. Good luck with that.

Thanks Plain. I'm hoping she comes to her senses and ends it either way, before its gone on much longer.

Good morning and happy Monday. My birthday was WONDERFUL!!! I spent the day at the spa with my sister-in-law. I had a full body massage, manicure, peducire, eyebrow wax and makeup application. Then...when I got back home, I opened the door and "SURPRISE"!!! My husband had a surprise birthday party for me. There was a DJ there and everything. I saw people that I haven't seen in a long time. Some folks didn't recognize me. It was wonderful. It was a great time and my mother made sure that I knew that it was ALL my husbands idea. What can I say...it was probably the best birthday that I have ever had. He's trying his best to make things so much better for me. I danced the night away and didn't want the night to end. It wa great!:thumbup:

That's wonderful! I am SO glad to hear that your day was special - you certainly are deserving of it.

I am so happy that you had such a wonderful birthday! Sounds like you had a blast.

I thought that I would post some pictures from Saturday night. Here goes...(The first one is from when I first walked in the door and everyone said, "Surprise") Sorry that the second one is sideways, I couldn't figure out how to put it the right way. I'm sure that you can see that I had a great time.

TINA!

YAY! I am so happy for you having such a great time! WOO HOOO! :thumbup:

YAY for hubby making it such a great day! YAY!

I am so happy for you!