Hi all-

I've read the posts regarding support from friends and family members when you have your surgery. I see the need to have this support after you get home, but I'm one of these people that when I'm sick or having surgery I just want people to leave me the heck alone! Are you required to have a support person at the hospital if you don't want one?

Thanks for any input....

hi, well that would be up to you, i thoguht i would be ok, i live with adult children. but now the house is a mess cos the dishwsher is broken and no one is takign care of the place, i generally am a bit of a loner but if someone would help me change my sheets and brush my hair id be so happy. ive been going through all sorts of pain, both phuysically and emotionaly and i coudl do with the company to tell the truth, but as long as they left me alone to sleep!

Hi JRT Mom, I am the same as you mostly I just want to be left alone with a stack of books and DVD's! I have decided to have my friends and family at the hospital just because its so far and I know I will be kicking myself if I don't.

But after I am released I plan to go back to my place where I live alone and just have them pop in to check on me once a day.

Good luck

Ki XX

I am a loner too, I prefer to be by myself (I don't see that changing when I lose the weight either, I just don't like people en mass) BUT since I have young kids for the first couple of Days my Mom will be here with me, then I have a friend who has the non adjustable band picking up and dropping off my kids from school (until her TT that is) but by then I should be right as rain (almost anyways) so I can drive them to and from school.

my doctor will NOT do the surgery unless someone is there...plus with all the medication, i don't know if it would be a good idea to try and drive yourself home...

I am going to Mexico for my surgery, and doing it alone...that was one of my concerns, but I posted a thread here about it, and received many replies that reassured me I would be fine. Btw...I am the same way...I don't want anyone to see me in discomfort or pain, I would rather do it alone.

You need someone to drive you home. They don't have to be there for the entire surgery though. Heck, you could use a taxi service if you really wanted to. But having a friend or family member drive you home may be cheaper. :smile: