I'm afraid that when I'm asked why I want to be banded that I'm going to have a break down. My reasons are many but a very important one is b/c of my kids. When I think about them having to grow up with a fat mummy I feel ashamed of myself and I break down and cry, even now as I'm writing this. Especially since I have a beautiful little 3 year old princess that I never want to feel like I do about her weight. My mum and gran are both fat so a assumed that I would be too and now I am. Maybe if my mum had learned the right way to eat and deal with her emotions she would have taught me how. So I want to learn how to control my eating habits and get active so I can teach her how now as a little girl so she'll never struggle. If I tell this to the surgeon or say it in my pysch eval will they hold it against me as an external factor? I feel this is a very justified reason but should I share it with the docs?

I think this is an excellent reason-but you are really doing it for yourself. You want your daughter to be happy, because her happiness makes you unhappy. Being a role model to our children is sooooo important.

My first reason is to be healthier for me but I know that my behavior impacts them so it helps drive me forward to being better.

To want surgery to be a healthier you and a role model for your kids, seems to be a very rational decision. How could a shrink (or anyone else) think otherwise.

With the band, hopefully you will feed yourself and the kids, healthly food in healthly size portions.

You're a mother...95% of what you do is for your children either directly or indirectly...I totally understand..

My parents died young (of lung cancer). My mom was 53 and my dad was 59..I was 21 when my mom died and 27 when my dad died...I don't want that for my three little girls (3,2 and 2)...I WILL do everything in my power to see my grandchildren..my girls graduate from college, their weddings etc... (Why ddi I put grandchildren first???Weird??)

I cannot think of a more rational reason...

Best of luck!

Rain

Maybe try using that as a reason, only word it differently.

For example: "I would like to be able to learn healthy eating habits so that I can teach my children a healthy way to live."