I know surgery changes your life in a big way!Just wondering if anyone gets told theyve changed so much im not tslking about physical appearance.I get told not the same person my thoughts my actions my reactions to people.Im told im more irittitable more straight forward contradictive, antisocial at at times a crabby person.I have a well balanced diet alot of exercise daily is it me or not any idea what i need to doso many people say they want the old me back.Thanks in advance

2 hours ago, wayned said:

I know surgery changes your life in a big way!Just wondering if anyone gets told theyve changed so much im not tslking about physical appearance.I get told not the same person my thoughts my actions my reactions to people.Im told im more irittitable more straight forward contradictive, antisocial at at times a crabby person.I have a well balanced diet alot of exercise daily is it me or not any idea what i need to doso many people say they want the old me back.Thanks in advance

It's normal for people who were part of your unhealthy habits to not like the new changes in your life. That doesn't make you a bad person. It means you're in a different season of your life now, and honestly, they can get onboard and support you or they can move along. Does that seem harsh to some? Sure. But sometimes relationships that were unhealthy, unsupportive, or even toxic can and will fall by the wayside as you become a healthier, happier version of who you used to be. My entire life has been completely overhauled. I'm really active now. I eat extremely healthy. I workout 4-5x per week. I'm pursuing a career that I thought I would never get to do. I shop differently. I look at food differently. I cut out so so many bad habits and had to work really, really hard to retrain my brain to see food as fuel and not as an addiction or drug (yes, food was almost like a drug to me). Because of these changes, I have no tolerance for anything that can derail me and set me back on the path I was on before. Does that rub people the wrong way? Yep. Do I care? Nope. It's my life and I have to live it the best way I can for me.

Agree totally with @SleeveToBypass2023. Also add that consciously or subconsciously many of us were more agreeable, more compliant, pretended to be happier, etc. when we were large so we wouldn’t draw attention to ourselves, or restrict what others wanted to do, etc. I used to ensure I worked harder & longer than others so no one could think I wasn’t pulling my weight (unfortunate pun) or my weight limited me from doing my job. You are likely feeling more confident about yourself too & so more confident & stronger about sharing your true opinions & feelings & not just going with what others say as well.

Just like you’re learning & discovering things about yourself, your family & friends will need to learn about the real you & the you are becoming too.

@SleeveToBypass2023Love that post. You have a great attitude and I know it's going well for you. You didn't like the "old you" and now you have a "new you."