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I'm having a hard time today I feel super alone and emotional as you may already know im a single mom I have 2 teenage daughters and although they try they are not much help around the house I'm an only child and grandchild so no siblings or cousins in my life when your down and out or literally flat on your back you learn who your true friends are and I have one I feel guilty shes been here for me alot and I cant ask her to do more for me than she has already offered I really feel like I need to go for a long walk to clear my mind I'm going stir crazy in this room all alone I really thought I would be able to go through surgery and recovery basicly by myself and I'm wrong my house is looking terrible the laundry is piling up my room looks like the donation area of the salvation armyi havent cooked in over 3 weeks I miss work and driving this is me feeling sorry for my damn self so I'm going to clean myself up put a little makeup on and go for a walk after all my rant I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt emotional or depressed after surgery

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I'm having a hard time today I feel super alone and emotional as you may already know im a single mom I have 2 teenage daughters and although they try they are not much help around the house I'm an only child and grandchild so no siblings or cousins in my life when your down and out or literally flat on your back you learn who your true friends are and I have one I feel guilty shes been here for me alot and I cant ask her to do more for me than she has already offered I really feel like I need to go for a long walk to clear my mind I'm going stir crazy in this room all alone I really thought I would be able to go through surgery and recovery basicly by myself and I'm wrong my house is looking terrible the laundry is piling up my room looks like the donation area of the salvation armyi havent cooked in over 3 weeks I miss work and driving this is me feeling sorry for my damn self so I'm going to clean myself up put a little makeup on and go for a walk after all my rant I'm just wondering if anyone else has felt emotional or depressed after surgery
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Just want to say, "hello", and let you know there are people out here in cyberspace who care! I'm sorry you're struggling. Your body has been through a lot, and it's hard being a single parent. Try and take things one hour at a time, then get through the next hour. Be patient with yourself and the tidiness of your home. Going for a walk is a great idea when you're down. Things will get better!

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You will need support and if you can't get it in the physical form, watch a few inspirational videos (let it play in the background). Make a game of picking up a few items every half hour in your room. Once you start to clear your immediate space, clarity starts to creep in your mental.

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Well said Krimsonbutterflies!!! Sometimes our mind makes us feel so alone and hopeless but you just have to rise above it. I've found that this journey is more than a weight loss journey, it's a journey of self discovery and finding out how much and how far our minds and body can go or do. You will start to inspire and motivate yourself to do things or feel things you never thought you were capable of doing or feeling.
Journey of a million miles starts with a step. Start one thing without expectations of perfection and keep picking yourself up time and time again and before you know it, you have gone further than you thought you could.
You do have a lot of anonymous support here cheering you on as your journey is our journey!!
Cheers and good luck 🧡[emoji176]🧡[emoji176]🧡[emoji176]🧡

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32 minutes ago, Deedee12 said:

Well said Krimsonbutterflies!!! Sometimes our mind makes us feel so alone and hopeless but you just have to rise above it. I've found that this journey is more than a weight loss journey, it's a journey of self discovery and finding out how much and how far our minds and body can go or do. You will start to inspire and motivate yourself to do things or feel things you never thought you were capable of doing or feeling.
Journey of a million miles starts with a step. Start one thing without expectations of perfection and keep picking yourself up time and time again and before you know it, you have gone further than you thought you could.
You do have a lot of anonymous support here cheering you on as your journey is our journey!!
Cheers and good luck 🧡🧡🧡🧡

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Hi Deedee,

We have to unlearn the concept of perfection, its not real. I wanted to lay on my butt all day today, but that wasn't successful thinking. Acting up my thoughts of doing cleaned my kitchen and prepared 2 delicious meals for me today. We have to push and ask ourselves what motivated you to end up helping yourself. Apply that same concept to getting things done, which is a reward to self. Did you embark on the journey to keep living life the same way or to cultivate new habits and experiences??? Your new body desires a clutter free environment, whatever exercise you can do, better food choices, hydration, a new comfortable sheet set to lie down on after along day. Do you see where I'm going with this??? Make your tasks smaller in your mind as a way not to overwhelm your own mind.

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Don't take it personally but girls are that age just care about their boyfriends and their looks and their friends lol

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