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I’m back to being single, I was in a relationship with a Con-Artist and just found out a few months ago, has anyone dated after surgery how did it go...

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@Lena809 Sorry you were conned by a jerk. I have no dating stories/hints/tips but I hope you find the right person for you. We all deserve to love and be loved.

Are you happy being single though? I always find people meet nicer partners when they are happy in their own company. But this can be hard if you feel lonely. Anyway good luck :)

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I’m happy to be out of that terrible relationship but I feel lonely 😞

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3 minutes ago, Bastian said:

@Lena809 Sorry you were conned by a jerk. I have no dating stories/hints/tips but I hope you find the right person for you. We all deserve to love and be loved.

Are you happy being single though? I always find people meet nicer partners when they are happy in their own company. But this can be hard if you feel lonely. Anyway good luck :)

Thank you

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On 9/4/2019 at 9:41 AM, Lena809 said:
5 minutes ago, Lena809 said:

I’m happy to be out of that terrible relationship but I feel lonely 😞

Sorry, you feel lonely it is hard I understand. Sometimes you just want that 1 person there to share with or have them look after you when you need it huh

I know it isn't the same but do you have a good friend and family network to ease it a little bit?

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3 hours ago, Bastian said:

Sorry, you feel lonely it is hard I understand. Sometimes you just want that 1 person there to share with or have them look after you when you need it huh

I know it isn't the same but do you have a good friend and family network to ease it a little bit?

I don’t 😢 that’s what makes it so hard

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we all need some sort of support in life reach out to a support group ? just a thought maybe you can meet someone through the group can give advise (still wont put myself out there to meet ) have a great day cheers

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1 hour ago, VIKING 0424 said:

we all need some sort of support in life reach out to a support group ? just a thought maybe you can meet someone through the group can give advise (still wont put myself out there to meet ) have a great day cheers

Thanks I won’t put myself out there either, it’s scary

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i think we all will find the one when it is meant to be souls searching will find the one they desire

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Hi Lena,

ive trier but have yet to find that special someone. It’s hard to relate. However my confidence has gone through the roof lol

seriously if you need to talk Let us know. I’m in Montreal but I’m always open for conversation :)

you deserve to be happy and treated right. Never settle for less.

Mike

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Hi Mike,

thank you! I’m feeling great about how I look but due to my breakup from the man I was with for 7 years has me still emotional. I had to let him go due to him threatening to kill me and bury me in my backyard. It was a real relationship to me but I know now he was a con-artist. So rough but I need to move forward

lena

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42 minutes ago, Lena809 said:

Hi Mike,

thank you! I’m feeling great about how I look but due to my breakup from the man I was with for 7 years has me still emotional. I had to let him go due to him threatening to kill me and bury me in my backyard. It was a real relationship to me but I know now he was a con-artist. So rough but I need to move forward

lena

Hey I’ll write to you in a message. See if we can discuss :)

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I’m back to being single, I was in a relationship with a Con-Artist and just found out a few months ago, has anyone dated after surgery how did it go...

I separated feburary of 2020 and started a new relationship a month after. Everything has been great besides my beau's ex girlfriend has been harassing and stalking me . I already got the police involved. We just dont know what anybody is capable of nowadays. Like that creepy saying , if I cant have him no one can kind of thing. I just hope and pray that everything goes well .

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I'm kind of in the same boat. My marriage feels over I've tried a million things for it to work but I'm the only one trying. He was with me at the hospital for about 30 mins the day of my surgery and that's it. My daughter had to care for me. I wish I could find someone who truly appreciated me and truly cared and showed it! I guess people just change.... :(

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10 hours ago, Christina Phillips said:

I'm kind of in the same boat. My marriage feels over I've tried a million things for it to work but I'm the only one trying. He was with me at the hospital for about 30 mins the day of my surgery and that's it. My daughter had to care for me. I wish I could find someone who truly appreciated me and truly cared and showed it! I guess people just change.... :(

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stay positive life does go on and think of the valuable lesson s learned it does not stop the hurt however chin up we are here if you need to vent or chat

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