So thought I'd start this thread for those who are currently in maintenance (or are trying to be ), there are not as many active maintenance-ers on here, but I'm hoping for the ones that are, they can chime in and impart their wisdom for those are trying to achieve that coveted balance of weight stability.

...or we can just chat about whatever. LOL.

3 minutes ago, Cheeseburgh said:

I’m not suggesting she do anything different, I’m sincerely curious if that is sustainable. Everyone is different, Relax.

I don't thing you are. And I'm not picking nits. But I honestly am wondering like, "So what if it isn't sustainable..." Cuz you know, what's the alternative? If it's not sustainable and a person gains at 900, 1000, or at 1100 where you are. Then what are the choices?

Just wondering out loud. Truly not trying to disagree. It's a philosophical question. Right? I told my PCP, that I didn't want to be one of those people who only maintain at 900cals. And that I didn't want to eat only 900 cals per day.

He told me, that right now, that's my reality. If I want to change that, I have to do something differently. I can choose to eat higher and gain. I can choose to start building more active muscle to try to raise my metabolic rate and have more calorie burning muscle (and be hungrier from the workouts), I can do more cardio (which might not work cuz of the whole CICO/hormone thing)...or I can do what my body is telling me and figure out a way to be happy on an average of 900cals/day.

Right? Or is there another option I should consider?

1 hour ago, cupcake817 said:

I'm currently in maintenance phase I have upped my calories (currently 850) I do go gym and tone and twice a week I pick up a HIT exercise that's currently all the cardio I do I've been holding at 126 for past 3 mos

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BTW! Welcome to the group and congrats on your maintenance!!! Woooot!!! Congrats on making goal!!!

1 hour ago, VIKING 0424 said:

my dr was not on board at all for me to do this surgery so i changed drs lol

You go, brother. Advocate for yourself and seek out those who will support you...shrug off the ones who won't.

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1 hour ago, FluffyChix said:

He told me, that right now, that's my reality. If I want to change that, I have to do something differently

Everyone's weight loss journey is soooooo different...and this is the sobering fact of life. What works for Jane doesn't necessarily mean it will work for Jack. Some of us accept this in stride, some of us need more time to get used to the idea, and still some of us rail against it and lament (or rejoice) the fact their experience is not like another's. One person gains at 1300 cals/day, another maintains, and then still another would lose at this level. Not to say this won't change for any of them in the future, but that is their reality, right now.

Which is why everyone tells us time and time again not compare ourselves to others. But lets face it, we all do, it's human nature. I guess maybe a better thing to say is, "When you compare yourself to others, use it as a motivator, not as a deterrent to get to (or stay at) a place where you are happy with where you are".

Dunno why this made me sad writing this. Gonna go post something lighthearted now!

❤️

Edited October 23, 20196 yr by ms.sss

34 minutes ago, ms.sss said:

Dunno why this made me sad writing this

@MRS.SSS

REALITY SOMETIMES HITS US IN THE FACE AND STIRRERS UP EMOTIONS BE IT SAD HAPPY OR ? EVERTHING YOU STATED IS THE TRUTH AND COMPARISON TO OTHERS IS WHAT WE DO EVEN WHEN WE ARE TOLD NOT TO CARING FOR OTHERS IS A GREAT THING. DO WHAT YOU CAN FOR THEM JUST REMEMBER YOU MUST PUT YOUR OWN HEALTH FIRST TO HELP OTHER S EFFECTIVELY A PHYC( NUT ) ONCE TOLD ME NEVER WORK HARDER THAN THE PERSON YOU ARE TRYING TO HELP

Interesting discussions.
Okay, so I’ve been a big chicken to get on the scale since I hit GW.

I know myself too well: if I were to have any kind of gain, the sky is falling, I’ve “failed” at WLS, I’m doomed to be able to never go >1200 cals per day, etc...

In short, I needed a little bit of time and perspective to get a grip on the fact that I did indeed get to GW.

so since then (12 days ago) I’ve eaten on plan, with the exception of 3 days and I was horrible those 3 days.
As in 3-4 cocktails, beer chili, nachos and chocolate cake bad.
Those days were a birthday, football watch party, and hubs getting a huge contract signed “celebration” days

Each time after the 3 days in question, I followed them with 16:8 TRE, and meticulously logging and keeping it to <800 calories and < 20 carb days.
I’ve also had a few “normal” 900-1000 calorie days and an eating window between 8-10 hours for balance. Lol, I even allowed myself 1/2 cup tabouli salad for some extra carbs on one of those days

So today I got on the scale (no poop in 4 days ) also, so tomorrow is a MOM day
I’m down 1.2 pounds from the Friday the 11th.
Seriously this isn’t the worst news ever bc I’ve felt like I really messed up big-time and it’s nice to see that I can (at least for now) recover.
The part I was fearing the most was not being able to recover from a “feast” day and that I’d just continue to mindlessly eat, and eat, and eat.....

I know my body is still in honeymoon and that what works this month may not work 3 months from now, but it’s nice to know that I quite frankly had atrocious habits for 1/4 of the time and still could see some kind of loss. It was especially nice to be able to come back strong and get right back on track.

So, the movers came this morning to deliver our last items of furniture. (We recently moved from the U.S. to Australia.) One of them asked whether I have grandchildren here! AAGH! I am 60 years old, so I of course know that is physically possible, but I have always looked quite a bit younger than my age. That is no longer the case since surgery, which was proven by the mover's question.

But still--his first question is whether I have grandchildren? Why not children?! ☹️

@cupcake817 Dr. Weiner on YouTube has discussed African American women losing less percentage wise after bariatric surgery. They don’t know why. I found a Huffington Post story addressing the differences in weight loss. I found it interesting. Might explain why you maintain on a low calorie diet.

link below

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/african-american-women-weight-loss_n_4541535

15 hours ago, Recidivist said:

So, the movers came this morning to deliver our last items of furniture. (We recently moved from the U.S. to Australia.) One of them asked whether I have grandchildren here! AAGH! I am 60 years old, so I of course know that is physically possible, but I have always looked quite a bit younger than my age. That is no longer the case since surgery, which was proven by the mover's question.

But still--his first question is whether I have grandchildren? Why not children?! ☹️

I feel you. Unfortunately for some of us unlucky few, looking older WISER (lol) after weight loss is an occupational hazard. This summer, a house painter asked if my 30 year old neighbour was my daughter. Dude. I'm only 47. (EDIT: actually just realized that at the time he asked I was still only 46!!!)

Said neighbour attempted to soften the blow by saying it was more a compliment for her rather than a diss on me. Nice try, lady. You many look awesome for 30, but that doesn't make me less wiser-looking.

Edited October 24, 20196 yr by ms.sss

15 hours ago, Recidivist said:

(We recently moved from the U.S. to Australia.)

Btw, where in Australia did you move to? (We lived in Brisbane for a year... I never sweated so much in my life!)

15 hours ago, Recidivist said:

So, the movers came this morning to deliver our last items of furniture. (We recently moved from the U.S. to Australia.) One of them asked whether I have grandchildren here! AAGH! I am 60 years old, so I of course know that is physically possible, but I have always looked quite a bit younger than my age. That is no longer the case since surgery, which was proven by the mover's question.

But still--his first question is whether I have grandchildren? Why not children?! ☹️

What age range was he in?

My moment was with my dentist. He said... if you were MY mother, I would do X procedure. At least he didn’t say I could be his grandmother.

21 hours ago, Recidivist said:

So, the movers came this morning to deliver our last items of furniture. (We recently moved from the U.S. to Australia.) One of them asked whether I have grandchildren here! AAGH! I am 60 years old, so I of course know that is physically possible, but I have always looked quite a bit younger than my age. That is no longer the case since surgery, which was proven by the mover's question.

But still--his first question is whether I have grandchildren? Why not children?! ☹️

lol. Yeah so further reinforcement that face plastics are a necessary and GOOD thing.

It's been a year, people!

9 hours ago, ms.sss said:

Btw, where in Australia did you move to? (We lived in Brisbane for a year... I never sweated so much in my life!)

We are in Canberra. We lived here from 2014 to 2017 and fell in love with it!

9 hours ago, Healthy_life2 said:

What age range was he in?

My moment was with my dentist. He said... if you were MY mother, I would do X procedure. At least he didn’t say I could be his grandmother.

He was late 20's or early 30's. He also called me "Sir," but people did that when I reached 40 or so.