I'm due for my surgery on the 21st of this month and I'm really starting to get second thoughts about this. Everyone around me is so excited for me, telling me how much better my life will be and I can't get that excited. I'm super nervous, worried and just feeling an intense need to back out. I'm having a hard time focusing on anything but the negatives I'm seeing in my future. The super restricted diet, having to take so many vitamins, the cost (paying out of pocket for the whole thing), the way I'll look after (excess skin), even a bit of worry that I won't be me anymore. I've been overweight my entire life so, in my mind, that's who I am. I also have a bad habit of running away from 'hard' choices and taking the easy path. Has anyone else felt like this? How did you handle it?

Edited March 11, 20197 yr by MichellePDX

Yes, those are perfectly normal and natural feelings and concerns to have pre-surgery. Most of us have had them too. I can tell you that I worried about undergoing a "needless" surgery with possibilities of infection and dying just for weight loss, but then I recognized that weight was related to health and I wanted to be healthy and live longer. The first day after surgery and the nausea makes you question your decision, but each day after that solidifies the good choice of having the surgery. I'm just shy of 50 pounds down now and looking forward to another 50! I couldn't have done that without surgery.

Yes, I felt the same. Anxiety about any surgery is normal. Change is hard. Being obese is also hard. Choose which hard is a happier path in your life. Surgery is not for everyone and that’s ok.

Know that you are more than your weight. Heavy or thin you are the same person with the same core values. You will not lose yourself after weight loss

Never stop making positive changes and learning life’s lessons. We are all headed to the grave…Have no regrets.

Wishing you the best in whatever you choose,

Jenn

03/11/2019 09:22 AM, MichellePDX said:

I'm due for my surgery on the 21st of this month and I'm really starting to get second thoughts about this. Everyone around me is so excited for me, telling me how much better my life will be and I can't get that excited. I'm super nervous, worried and just feeling an intense need to back out. I'm having a hard time focusing on anything but the negatives I'm seeing in my future. The super restricted diet, having to take so many Vitamins, the cost (paying out of pocket for the whole thing), the way I'll look after (excess skin), even a bit of worry that I won't be me anymore. I've been overweight my entire life so, in my mind, that's who I am. I also have a bad habit of running away from 'hard' choices and taking the easy path. Has anyone else felt like this? How 

And I noticed you are in the first few days of your pre op diet. This is the roughest week other than your first week post op. Good luck with whatever decision you make. 

I agree with everyone, its a not the easiest choice to jump right into. You will know if its right for you the further into the process you get. The choice is ultimately yours alone. Best of luck on whatever you choose. But consider the reasons you got this far in the process to begin with. Its a slow process for most & usually backing out means starting the process all over again. If you need more time to think speak with your team to see if you can postpone the surgery for a further date instead of cancelling all together.

We support you ❤

30 minutes ago, Dabeyhive said:

My surgery is May 6th and i scheduled far out due to fear. I completely understand where you are coming. Every time i think about my surgery i get the nausea and butterfly feeling. Almost like i want to throw up.

This lifestyle is very expensive. MY dr said realistically within the next 2 years i will be spending way more out of pocket to keep up with this lifestyle.

I've been overweight all my life so to even imagine about this major transformation im about to do to my self sickens me .This website has gave me good and bad vibes. i see so many peoples issues on this site.

I def have cold feet. But i came this far. i might as well finish it

Glad you can balance the good and bad experiences

Many of us had no complications and are maintaining. Most of the vets and people that maintain leave the site because life has become normal. Many of the people you talk with are new, in weight loss phase, had a weight gain or complications.

IDK about this being expensive. Almost 5 years out and that’s not my experience.

Once I got to real food stage it's cheaper on groceries. You ditch the shakes and meal replacement products with whole foods. I eat less and my family eats pretty much what I eat. Example: Chicken fajitas. I give the family tortillas and I go without. Vitamins are my only expense at $29.00 a month. Some have found better prices.

Congrats on your surgery date.