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A little bummed out...

So I went to the doctors today. I had my Sleeve on June 27th and I'm down 23lbs! I'm pumped, but she said by my 2 month apt I should really be down 40 lbs.. now I feel pressured and I'm not doing as well as I should be! Anyone feel that way?

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  • gwbicster
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    I find it odd that a doctor would set a specific weight goal. Everyone loses at their own pace. Don't let this discourage you.

  • RedOrangeSunrise
    RedOrangeSunrise

    Sorry to hear you're feeling that way. I, personally, have so much shame and guilt about my weight to work through that I would've been really upset. I would hope that the doc had some constructive a

  • Thanks!! It's so silly to feel this way! I just need to focus on the 23lbs since June 27th!! ?

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Sorry to hear you're feeling that way. I, personally, have so much shame and guilt about my weight to work through that I would've been really upset. I would hope that the doc had some constructive and useful feedback regarding some adjustments you might look into. Losing 23 lbs in 2 months is still pretty darn good!

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I find it odd that a doctor would set a specific weight goal. Everyone loses at their own pace. Don't let this discourage you.

Oh for crying out loud. You are certainly SUCCESSFUL! Congratulations and keep it up. Obviously the doctor needs some kind of sensitivity training or something--or (s)he is just plain unhelpful in the post-op world. Ignore the comment if you can and move forward. You will prevail.

What else did the doctor say though? It may be that at whatever your weight was it is "normal" to be down more. It just may mean keeping a food diary to show your doctor in case tweaks need to be made. I don't think the doctor was necessarily shaming you but was more stating what they considered to be medically average and it may mean for them to be aware if you are having any difficulties, vitamin deficiencies or depression. I would recommend speaking with your doctor regarding what they meant by their statement and how it made you feel.


That does seem odd since my doctor won't even talk about weight goals yet, though I'm a few weeks behind you (July 17). His nurse cautioned me to "keep my goals close", basically to keep them short-term and easily achievable and don't worry about the big picture, long-term right now.

The surgeon was much more focused on what I'm doing. Not only is that what is going to determine your long-term success, it is, in fact, the ONLY thing you have any control over.

He reminded me yet again to exercise/walk and be sure to measure everything I eat, not just eyeball it and that was really about it. He didn't comment on the weight loss amount at all.

As long as you're doing everything you can to follow the program and do what you're supposed to do, I wouldn't worry about the exact number even if you're worried about what your doctor will say. I think a lot of times, they don't realize how much impact what they say and how they say it can have on their patients and how much damage it can inflict on their patients' psyches.

Stay focused on doing the right things and the weight loss should follow.

p.s. I'm not a doctor and have no idea where you started, but 40 lbs in 2 months seems like a lot! I know we hear magical stories of massive losses at the beginning, but from some of the posts from doctors I've seen don't estimate that high. I've seen anywhere from 15-30 the first month and 8-12 in subsequent months. That puts 40 at the high end.

https://www.realself.com/question/bay-saint-louis-ms-realistically-after-gastric-sleeve-pounds-dropped-weeks-post



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So I went to the doctors today. I had my Sleeve on June 27th and I'm down 23lbs! I'm pumped, but she said by my 2 month apt I should really be down 40 lbs.. now I feel pressured and I'm not doing as well as I should be! Anyone feel that way?


Yes my HW 238 SW 209 CW 180, it seems like I'm not losing enough weight either, my Dr said the same thing to me anyone have any suggestions?

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I'm thinking about skipping my 3 month doctor appointment for this reason. I'm at 12 weeks post and I've only lost 22 pounds since surgery. I don't need them to remind me of how big of a failure that I am.

I know how you feel but that's exactly the wrong thing to do IMO. Let them give you some guidance and insist that something has to change with their plan. They have some culpability in this journey too- don't beat yourself up!

I really think its awful that a doctor or nut would make anyone feel that way after all, you just took the biggest and main step into your journey and towards your future goal. Dont let anyone distract or discourage you. Your body will go at its own pace. Drinking lots of water and getting your protein in will aid to losing more lbs.

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I'm thinking about skipping my 3 month doctor appointment for this reason. I'm at 12 weeks post and I've only lost 22 pounds since surgery. I don't need them to remind me of how big of a failure that I am.

Skipping appointments is never advisable. Don't worry . go with a food diary.

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If it were me
I'd prefer to be told so I can just check I'm staying on track
Its easy for little treats to sneek in. So it would help me stay on track. I know they are there to help
My surgeon doesn't mention weight. I see him 6 weeks then next 6 month's. My nurse and dietician at 12 weeks
Keep going you got this. Dont feel discouraged. If your sticking to the plan . getting enough fluid's. Keep on as you are. Some lose faster some slower but we all get there.

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