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The Struggle is REAL

Hi everybody. My surgery was 12/16 - gastric bypass. I'm feeling ok, just some soreness and overall tiredness.

I am struggling very much with my break up. It happened a month before my surgery. My boyfriend who had spent the past 8 months preparing with me blindsided me and broke up with me. Changed his number, etc. just disappeared. It's been very hard because now that I'm recovering, I am longing for him to be here. I just plain miss him. And since I'm recovering, I can't do much to keep my mind off of it.

I just want to eat. I want to go stuff my face until I feel better about my break up. That's my go to - I didn't get to 465 any other way than emotional eating.

Anyone have any advice? Tips? Helpful comments? All are welcomed.

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  • 1 month later...

Yup, that was a lousy thing for him to do. But he was likely going to run at some point if that's the way he acted. Better sooner than later.

But of course, that doesn't stop you from missing him, or wishing it were different. Those are normal stages of grieving. Just do as others have said here and allow yourself to work through it, and don't think food will help. You know in your heart it won't...it never really has. A therapist or a support group would be a great option.

Hang in there, wonderful days are ahead...this is just an early Spring storm...plan ahead for Summer!

On 12/21/2016 at 6:18 PM, LittleBill said:

Your best response to your former boyfriend will be to live life well to the fullest.

Yup, I love the adage: The best revenge is living well! LOL

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