Hi. Just a quick intro. I'm 33 and weigh 250. I'm 5'6". I'm desperate to lose weight. I'm a mother of 4 and my mother in law lives with us. It's been a struggle to lose weight this time around. I'm so busy I can't find time to shower most days, not to mention excercise. Also with 6 other people in the house it's not feasible to make my meals separate from everyone else's. It just doesn't work. I feel so bad about myself. Nothing fits me in my closet. I have zero energy. I can't breathe. My back and feet hurt all the time. I'm just now considering (what I call) drastic measures. I'm really not sure where to start after checking with my insurance company. I never wanted to have to do this. I feel like I'm giving up in a way or that I'm just being lazy even thinking of going this route.

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Hi????

I also felt this way..258 highest weight ,5'4 and half..yes half????..and I thought about my decision for 2yrs..researched, fought with myself and everything..my children are 20,12,10 and 9 and I'm 47 and was giving up on doing anything with them which is theost active times of their lives...I chose the gastric sleeve on Nove 9th and I was a roller coaster before. That time but I have no regrets..of course I doubt myself but everyday I find ways to beat the negative and it all works out???? I will not lie ..its hard..because we are programmed to eat on the run and just for fun so to get out of running errands and stopping to feast will be hard but it gets easier...I'm in the pureed phase of post op..so I still cook for my kids and guess what.. I puree the dinner I fix and kids say gross n laugh but not bad..so you will fill the change in you and LOVE that journey....Hopefully your decision either way ..surgery or not... Helps you and you don't wait until you're my. age..but this way I got another 47yrs to get out and start living ???????? This site helped me before, on and during this journey..reading other peoples ups and downs help me because I don't have a big support base around me.

HW 258 SW Pre op (nov 9th) 233 and CW (Nov 21) 219.???? Good Luck

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Join the club..... I've been feeling the same way, everything in my life was going crazy and the one thing I thought I could control was my weight. Well that didn't happen so here I am.... Trust me we'll get it together

I think we've all been there. I would search for your local center of excellence or check your insurances web site for what their requirements are for the surgeon. Then call their office to get into a seminar. They will give you more information there on the process.

Not making your meals separate from your families isn't necessarily bad. Especially if you are the one cooking, that just means everyone will be eating healthy. You'll just be eating far less than everyone else. I crack jokes all the time because I have a Chihuahua that is awful about begging (my fault) and his meals are actually larger than mine.

First of all, I can assure you that this option is not the easy way out, so you can stop beating yourself up about that part of it! :-) Reading your post, I was transported back to when I felt the feelings you are describing. It is a horrible place to be stuck in. But the good news is, I got out of it and so can you! Do all the research you can, be as informed as you can be, and then be assured that you are doing something amazing and wonderful for yourself and for your kids. I was about the same as you when I had surgery, mid-30s, 4 kiddos, lots of stress and about the same weight (I was a bit higher at 278). I can tell you that 4 years later (from my first pre-op appointment) I have never regretted this for a moment. I actually just posted my 3 year surgiversary update on my blog with some reflections on the process. Feel free to check it out. Good luck to you! It's a tough decision, but being informed will help you make the right one I"m sure!