Saw the most idiotic guy on a date tonight. I just wanted to smack the young twit. He thought he was being thoughtful asking his date what she wanted, where to go. He was peppering her with questions, trying to be sensitive to her feelings. What an idiot, bless his heart.

Always remember, women use both sides of their brains all the time. This means they are not only wondering what might taste good but how you feel about what she suggests and then she'll start thinking about how her friends will react on where they went yadayada.

I'll slap you if you say that's dumb...it is just the way women are wired. That's why they can make everything beautiful when they are feeling safe and inspired. A date is the one time she can relax a little. Make the reservations. Get a baby sitter if you have kids. Just do it. It doesn't have to be extravagant, ubber thoughtful, just take care of everything so she can relax a little.

Little things mean everything to her. This does not mean unilaterally clean out the savings account to buy a boat. It means in these little things, just take care of it. It means everything to her just to be able to relax for a few hours every now and then.

So take a lesson from "Mr. Sensitive" idiot. Just take care of it. If you don't she will be tired when the evening is done and that kind of defeats the purpose. You want her to be relaxed and energized. (Yeah, wink, wink, woo hoo - trust me)

NOTE: If she objects to your decision, its for a reason she can't articulate, don't argue. So plan B's are a good thing to have too.

I can't believe it took me almost 50 years to really figure this out, but ever since I have taken this approach in dating, I have observed how the women in my life just relax and can be themselves. Test it out. Look into their eyes. You will see the narrow focus loosen up, their smiles will show in their eyes. The eyes sparkle. I hope you can see that deep joy in their soul. For most women, being taken care of is so different from everything else in their lives they absolutely love it and they have no idea why. Here's why...they finally feel safe and cared for. Occasionally be extravagant, but 99% of the time, little things mean everything.

Not much of a Guy's Room

LisaMergs

HEAR HEAR!!! Totally agree with you!! But....our generation ( I'm 60 and he is 66) just don't have much of a ROMANTIC BONE in their body!! My sweet hubby come's thru once and awhile, like I don't dare say I like something cuz he will get it one way or another. Also, each and every one of his Brother's ( real and 1/2 bro's) have not any romance in them either!! HHHMMM Makes you wonder if it is in their GENES!!!

What do you mean your generation! I'm only 10 years younger than you are and I KNOW my life at 60 with the man I love will be every bit as romantic and breathtaking as it will be at 55.... And so on.

So, if it is your man...fix him! If it is both of you... Fix both! But listen carefully: don't let these years slide by without love, drive and of course spontaneity!!!! You will be in the ground soon enough- do not miss out!!!

And I don't think it is genetic- I think it is CONDITIONED into them.

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It's my opinion that the ladies in here really need to respect the men's room. We should also expect the same from them in reverse. Just throwing it out there.

I love trying to figure out women and my GF in particular. Not claiming to have figured everything out

Let me save you the trouble, stop now. Only women understand women; and they hate each other.

There should be a way when you register, you click on if you are male and female. Then you cannot view or comment on the opposite genders room. Kinda sucky that people interject when its not asked to their gender.

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I really have no objection, esp. when the women give their perspective on the subject. If I'm wrong, I hope they would tell me, but if they are reinforcing a point that we men need to hear, I'm actually OK with it.

I really have no objection, esp. when the women give their perspective on the subject. If I'm wrong, I hope they would tell me, but if they are reinforcing a point that we men need to hear, I'm actually OK with it.

Then post in Mars/Venus!!! I want to input but I won't here.

I love trying to figure out women and my GF in particular. Not claiming to have figured everything out

Let me save you the trouble, stop now. Only women understand women; and they hate each other.

Ask 2 women what women want, and you'll get 14 answers, none of them actually correct.

"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

@@LipstickLady - Your point is well taken. I have done post in this section where I did ask for women's input. I was thinking this topic was going to go another way, but the best laid plans of mice and men sometimes go askew.

And @@BigViffer is going to rank my guy card and kick me out anyway, so we probably won't have this discussion down the road.

I really have no objection, esp. when the women give their perspective on the subject. If I'm wrong, I hope they would tell me, but if they are reinforcing a point that we men need to hear, I'm actually OK with it.

Then post in Mars/Venus!!! I want to input but I won't here.

Amen......well said.

Ok you Venus and Mars folks, what is between Venus and Mars?

Earth you dopes! And the sooner you realize this is where we all are, TOGETHER, and the sooner you search for things we have in common rather than in how we are different, the better your own personal life will be, and the world at large.

I work with special needs kids everyday and this is always my common matra with them.

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Ok you Venus and Mars folks, what is between Venus and Mars?

Earth you dopes! And the sooner you realize this is where we all are, TOGETHER, and the sooner you search for things we have in common rather than in how we are different, the better your own personal life will be, and the world at large.

I work with special needs kids everyday and this is always my common matra with them.

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Jeezus take the wheel. I need to unfollow this now.

Ok you Venus and Mars folks, what is between Venus and Mars?

Earth you dopes! And the sooner you realize this is where we all are, TOGETHER, and the sooner you search for things we have in common rather than in how we are different, the better your own personal life will be, and the world at large.

I work with special needs kids everyday and this is always my common matra with them.

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I must really be a dope.......all this time I thought I was from Mars......Good thing you came in here and straightened me out. Now my personal life will be so much better. Thanks ever so much.

Wow, those kids are gonna be some confused and dysfunctional adults after you're done with them.

I'm just glad I don't have to date anymore, man. That's all I know.

Saw the most idiotic guy on a date tonight. I just wanted to smack the young twit. He thought he was being thoughtful asking his date what she wanted, where to go. He was peppering her with questions, trying to be sensitive to her feelings. What an idiot, bless his heart.

Always remember, women use both sides of their brains all the time. This means they are not only wondering what might taste good but how you feel about what she suggests and then she'll start thinking about how her friends will react on where they went yadayada.

I'll slap you if you say that's dumb...it is just the way women are wired. That's why they can make everything beautiful when they are feeling safe and inspired. A date is the one time she can relax a little. Make the reservations. Get a baby sitter if you have kids. Just do it. It doesn't have to be extravagant, ubber thoughtful, just take care of everything so she can relax a little.

Little things mean everything to her. This does not mean unilaterally clean out the savings account to buy a boat. It means in these little things, just take care of it. It means everything to her just to be able to relax for a few hours every now and then.

So take a lesson from "Mr. Sensitive" idiot. Just take care of it. If you don't she will be tired when the evening is done and that kind of defeats the purpose. You want her to be relaxed and energized. (Yeah, wink, wink, woo hoo - trust me)

NOTE: If she objects to your decision, its for a reason she can't articulate, don't argue. So plan B's are a good thing to have too.

I can't believe it took me almost 50 years to really figure this out, but ever since I have taken this approach in dating, I have observed how the women in my life just relax and can be themselves. Test it out. Look into their eyes. You will see the narrow focus loosen up, their smiles will show in their eyes. The eyes sparkle. I hope you can see that deep joy in their soul. For most women, being taken care of is so different from everything else in their lives they absolutely love it and they have no idea why. Here's why...they finally feel safe and cared for. Occasionally be extravagant, but 99% of the time, little things mean everything.

Oh so right. That is what attracted me to my fiancé. He was a man with a plan. All I had to do was say yes when he asked and that was it. So refreshing. Little things do mean the most too.

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