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Facing Reality

OK so like most of us probably, I hated taking pictures before (honestly I'm not crazy about it now) but in a conversation with my therapist the other day, I realized I am still not connecting either with how large I originally was or how thin I am now. So I am not posting these for compliments. I am just posting so I can see the reality of the 2 pics side by side and hopefully start to really understand both where I was and where I am now....

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  • Thanks so much guys! What's strange is I honestly see pretty much the same thing in both photos. What I mean is that when people say they don't recognize me, it is hard to understand because I feel

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    I absolutely get your former and lingering discomfort in front of the camera. Internalizing and reconciling the before & after women isn't easy. Having pored over my photos got me nowhere. Inste

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    I too have and am going through body dysmorphia. I did not realize till I looked at pictures of myself, just how large I was. Nor did I recognize the thin woman I became. I was and still am, in ther

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Lol @VSGAnn2014a. Exactly!!

Thanks again to all for the comments and complements (except @KindaFamiliar)! And can I just say that each day I am reminded how amazing this journey is regardless of my new figure (though that certainly helps!). I have just moved 13 bags of mulch each weighing at least 40 pounds and I'm not even out of breath! Seriously the most amazing part. I moved 16 bags mulch to the front yard last week and had to go up a slight hill and while I was more out of breath then, I wasn't sore the next day! Used to when I did yard work, I could barely move for 3 days or more later! And PS despite the gross loose skin, when I am working in the backyard alone by the pool and gates closed, I wear a bikini top win my shorts to get some sun! Quite shocking to me that would EVER do that!

@@melyssafaye - thank you! And what a strange story! How could they mistake you? Damn kids! ???? (seriously that's just offensive. Clearly you looked nothing alike but they chose not to acknowledge you. Just rude!)

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Daisee, your summer this year sounds a lot like mine: lots of physical labor doing stuff like hauling bags of mulch while wearing bikini tops.

What a different life, eh?!

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Yes ma'am! Very different!!

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@@Daisee68

I'm no expert on such matters of course but in my defense...

Before one can win the heart of a lady one must win her attentions...

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think I just did precisely that...

Not that winning hearts is my aim...

I've won the heart I need...

But i am the (alleged) resident creeper after all...

So I've a reputation to live down to...

And you're one of the nicest creepers I've ever "met."

@@Daisee68 you look fabulous. really look objectively at what we see....

OUTSTANDING!!!!

great job GF!

jane

@@OKCPirate keep adding your thoughts because as a guy it helps us GFs when we are telling them how "hot" they look post WLS.

@@jane13

It's an honour to be held in such high regard...

@@Daisee68

Apologies for the momentary hijacking of your thread...

@@Daisee68,

You look fantastic – just as one might expect given your hard work and tremendous accomplishments! Congratulations on your weight loss and on getting past goal weight. I hope you can start to see how far you have come and you can be proud of yourself – because you deserve it, and because recognizing your hard work and its payoffs will help motivate you to keep the weight off for the long-term.

You look great! My therapist said much the same. I'm a cheapskate and was avoiding buying clothes unless they absolutely were falling off. She told me the people who have the most trouble are ones who do just that. She suggested I wear appropriate sizes and get used to seeing real self.

I hit goal in February 2013, and it took quite awhile before I saw myself realistically. When I see my before pix, I can't imagine I was that big. Sometimes even now I will notice someone looking at me and I think my dress is stuck in my panties or something, my friends have to tell me...no, you and your porn star hair (running joke) are being checked out

Photos help, time helps!

Congrats on your success!

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You look great and must feel great too. What an amazing transformation! It takes time but your brain will eventually catch up to where your body is. I just visited "Model My Diet" myself today to get an animated picture of what losing the 95 lbs I have lost looks like to others.

@@Daisee68

Wow! You are my hero :)

You look amazing and beautiful, and have done so well. Mega congratulations to you!

And thank you for your kind advice and support in my very early days in this WLS journey.

You Rock girl! xxxx

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