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Regret before surgery

Hello all,

Please tell me I'm not the only one. I am two weeks away from VSG and I am regretting my decision already. The first thing that comes to mind is that I could do this by myself. I know that is a lie because I've tried so many things in the past. I assume that this feeling is coming from the fear of surgery, I honestly don't have a clue. The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that the surgery as well as diet and exercise will ensure some weight loss. Please tell me I'm not the only one with this feeling......

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    No regrets here regarding having surgery. I DO, however, regret 20+ years of obesity and yo-yo dieting. I do regret the irreparable damage I've done to my joints. I do regret 15 years of rarely app

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    If you ask most bariatric surgery patients what they regret most about their surgery, it's that they didn't get it done sooner. The difference between dieting and WLS is HUGE. It is still hard and

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Hello all,

Please tell me I'm not the only one. I am two weeks away from VSG and I am regretting my decision already. The first thing that comes to mind is that I could do this by myself. I know that is a lie because I've tried so many things in the past. I assume that this feeling is coming from the fear of surgery, I honestly don't have a clue. The only thing that keeps me going is knowing that the surgery as well as diet and exercise will ensure some weight loss. Please tell me I'm not the only one with this feeling......

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My nutritionist gave me a scenario asking how many pounds a year I would gain/lose in a year. At the rate I was going I would well over 150 lbs to lose and very likely lose all my mobility. With all the important people in my world I want to show them that I am proactive in using the tool of bariatric surgery. If I have surgery and gain weight I will never be as heavy as the rate I was gaining before.

I am 4 days post surgery. It is tough but with support and education i will save and enhance my life. I feel I am being respectful towards myself. God bless you.

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Thank you. May God bless and heal you!

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Found this on Pinterest....explained lots

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You are definitely NOT the only one with these feelings, but that doesn’t mean you should ignore them. Take all of your doubts just as seriously as you did when you were first considering the sleeve.

It sounds like your thoughts are just like most other people’s. On the one hand, you feel that you should be able to do this on your own without surgery; on the other, you feel that with the sleeve, you can be sure your dieting efforts will work.

Back to being able to do it on your own: have you tried? Of course you have, right? Haven’t you done a million diets? Did they work? No. And why not? If they didn’t work then, do you have reason to believe they would work if you tried them again? If not, it’s not realistic to think that you could lose weight without the sleeve, right?

By the way, remember that your decision does not need to be final until you are under anesthesia. Don’t ever worry about “looking silly” for backing out or about “not following through.” Only worry about what is best for you, whether or not that includes the sleeve.

Good luck! It’s a tough and agonizing decision, but you will make the right one for you.

Wow LipstickLady you were actually describing my life. I feel scared and nervous but not a second thought about how overdue this is. I am 53 how many more years am I going to yoyo diet and miss out on life. Clearly I CANNOT do this on my own. For my first child I was a very involved parent (she is now almost 20) but my 2nd. (now 15) I have missed so much bec. I am embarrassed of the way I look so I don't want to participate in any school events, I don't want to take a picture bec. I am ashamed of how heavy I am, my joints hurt bec. of the extra weight which makes my a tired lazy parent who often says NO more times than I should when he asks me to do something. That needs to change now while I can salvage a little of his youth and leave him with some positive memories. I am tentatively sched. for July 14th. 2016.

Go Addgirl06 go. I wasn't nervous about my op but I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.......and in pain........and embarrassed..........and depressed..............and everything else negative. At the age of 59 and nearly nine months post surgery I can only say that if I had done things sooner I would have saved myself so much misery! I'm a very happy sleever. My life is getting better with every ounce that drops off me. Each glob of fat that detaches itself from my carcass switches on the smile on my face. I have to admit my weight loss is slow but very steady but I am spending most of my time walking around with an idiot grin on my face!

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