I think I have lost someone that I thought was a close friend. She's been kind of 'short' with me lately and I finally asked her if something was wrong (family, job, etc.).

She blurted out that she can't believe I had the surgery done, that there were so many other (better) options for me.

Luckily this was via a text message. I don't know what I would have said or done if it had been face to face. But am glad I was sitting on the couch because my head spun and I felt so ... Fill in the blank: angry/pissed/disappointed.

I just responded that I did what I personally felt was the right thing, for me, and it is a decision that I will have to live with.

I'm not at all unhappy I did this. Sure, there were some bumps along the way, some things I wish could have been different regarding my hospital stay. But all-in-all, I'm thrilled to be off medications that were no longer working well for me.

I don't know how I can mend the friendship, but at this point, I have no desire to.

Lyrics from a song that Celtic Woman sings pop to mind: "I've lost the friends that I needed losing, found others on the way."

I guess only time will tell if she will remain a friend, or one that 'needed losing' in my journey.

I have not spoken to this friend further about the surgery or the wonderful "side effects" I have experienced (no more meds necessary for blood pressure or diabetes).

Not sure how long I will need to check my blood sugar levels, but I still get a thrill seeing a reading of normal instead of having to calculate what amount of short term insulin to inject. I still get some lows due to low caloric intake and walking or riding my new recumbent bike (Xmas present to me and must be peddled if watching any TV hehe).

You will run into so many people who don't understand your decision. I can count on one hand the people who totally embraced the idea of my surgery. My family, my best friend, even my boyfriend don't understand it. My boyfriend is having the hardest time dealing with it out of anyone. But it's your life and your choice and you need to remember that you're allowed to take care of yourself and choose what you think is best for you.

I had my VSG January 2015, I am only 23 and have had some negativity from family and a few "friends", but the amount of positive support and response I have gotten weighs out the negative by a landslide. You are the only one who knows your body completely and you know when enough is enough. You made a decision to better your life and you have had success, nobody else knows the way you physically and emotionally feel, their opinion is just that, an opinion, you are doing great! maybe when you're feeling upset by this reaction, it would be a good idea to make a list of the post-op positives to reflect on...negative responses can muffle all the positive ones, don't let that happen.

I had my VSG January 2015, I am only 23 and have had some negativity from family and a few "friends", but the amount of positive support and response I have gotten weighs out the negative by a landslide. You are the only one who knows your body completely and you know when enough is enough. You made a decision to better your life and you have had success, nobody else knows the way you physically and emotionally feel, their opinion is just that, an opinion, you are doing great! maybe when you're feeling upset by this reaction, it would be a good idea to make a list of the post-op positives to reflect on...negative responses can muffle all the positive ones, don't let that happen.

This made me feel better and great tip! Thx

Friend not supportive

I am getting sleeved in 4 weeks. I am not hearing a lot of support. My parents do not have enough Information to know that this will extend my life. Boyfriend afraid I will leave him. Some females I think are just jealous. I am going to be 50 years old. 110% ready to do this

My parents turned out to be very supportive once I told them (not until 1 week post-op). They have not always been supportive in other decisions I have made in the past, so decided to wait until afterwards to mention why I had surgery (they knew of hernia but turned out it didn't need repaired surgically afterall). I just didn't have the energy to defend my decision to anyone at that point.

Thankful every day for the love and support of my husband. He is my rock!

surgery done 6 months ago my wife she had not had a follow up and was not taking vitamins now scores all her body hair loss theeth turning brown throw up all food water bowl movement metal mood swings ans so on could it be life threathing she is very tierd

I had my VSG January 2015, I am only 23 and have had some negativity from family and a few "friends", but the amount of positive support and response I have gotten weighs out the negative by a landslide. You are the only one who knows your body completely and you know when enough is enough. You made a decision to better your life and you have had success, nobody else knows the way you physically and emotionally feel, their opinion is just that, an opinion, you are doing great! maybe when you're feeling upset by this reaction, it would be a good idea to make a list of the post-op positives to reflect on...negative responses can muffle all the positive ones, don't let that happen.