Does anyone else feel like they are postponing life until after the surgery? I know surgery is not a magic pill but,

every time someone asks me about any kind of goal or interest I always say "ill wait until after my surgery"

is this common?

I have done that all my life. "Once I lose 50lbs", "this time next year when I am slim", "if I could only lose *** I can start living life".

I haven't really done that with the sleeve. Now I just say 'soon' because it WILL happen, it's not just a pipe dream. Not only is it going to happen, it will stay that way. I have no intention of going back and yes I know people gain, they fail and go back to what they were weight wise but thats not even going to figure in my life. (I am trying positive picturing lol).

Best of luck in your journey

I put off my life for a year post-op.

I didn't feel like my weight was low enough to seek out a new job, get out and have fun, or try dating.

I think it's pretty common, much like the way people order a new "as seen on tv" exercise tool.

And then wait for it to arrive before starting any kind of exercise program.

I know I've done it.

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I got to a place where I had to. Because of my weight and mobility issues, I am on disability and am unable to work. Even now, post-surgery, I know there are things that I can't physically do. But, I can look forward to a time that I can with confidence now that I have had the surgery and am starting to see results.

It took about nine months from the time I decided I was going to have surgery until I had the surgery (jumping through insurance hoops). It was much like having a baby. It's on your mind every day. You can't make a lot of plans because you don't know what the future will hold, but you "dream" about it. You feel like you can't wait for it to get here, and it will take forever. Once you finally get there, it feels like the time flew by!

On another note, so many of us have gone on diets in the past and failed. So any pronouncement of what we're going to do or what our goals are feels too much like the past, a past when we failed. We all have those thoughts of "what if it doesn't work for me?" "what if I have surgery and don't lose weight?" Making any goals before surgery made me feel like I was going to jinx myself.

Well, in my case, I feel like I was in the 'on hold' mode most of my life. Not because I was obese (I never had mobility problems or other physical issues related to my weight), but because of how it made me feel. I always felt there were so many things I couldn't do because I was afraid of humuliation.

I think this changed for my after the accident I had 18 months ago, which caused a partial motor dysfunction of my left arm. For about a year I was postponing all my plans and focusing on full recovery, until I realised that's just ridiculous and may never happen. So I stopped caring so much about how other people would perceive me. I figured I can wait for something I have limited control over, or I can just enjoy what I have now.

I joined a salsa class (something I haven't done for 15 years). And then I had an epiphany - if I don't mind dancing with a slightly disabled arm, why the hell do I care that I'm fat? I can still swing my hips.

I went and got a degree in massage therapy and because of my weight and health issues I can't do anything with it Right now. I would love to get use out of my 13000 education and I will once I lose the weight and do more pt for my back

I'm guilty of this. It is literally all I talk about

I feel bad for the people around me.