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Edited September 11, 201511 yr by ladivaluz806

I am so sorry to hear this happening to you. Take a step back and take some time for yourself. Refocus on you and your weight loss. It's what is important right now. I had to learn through this process that this time is for me. To focus my priority on my health and losing weight. You owe it to yourself. Get reorganized and back on track. It is definitely going to be his loss! I wish you the best!

That's tough. Sorry about that. Personally, and I'm sure you'll agree, you're better off without him.

I agree with @wantingabetterlife. Use that emotion and focus it on your WLS journey. It will help take your mind off of things and in the process make you feel better about yourself.

Hang in there! We are always here if you need to vent!

I understand how you feel and the desire to eat your feelings. This week things ended with the man I had been dating and historically I used break-up to eat my feelings for a few days and then to fuel a furious diet and workout for a few months. Now though, I'm at my goal weight and all of my feel good food makes me barf so I was forced to deal with the problem without my two best coping mechanisms. So...basically I cried a lot, lol. Our situations are different, I was not engaged and the person I was dating is someone I can look at and see that he is nice to have as a friend but we probably wouldn't have worked long term, but I still feel a loss and without food and a crazy desire to kill myself at the gym so I could show him that I magically got hot as was always the case in the past, I was a little at a loss.

My advice is to take a few days, eat the food you want to eat, and then get rid of it. Use this weekend to have yourself a big sad fest, watch some movies, cry, eat some ice cream....then Monday get back on the wagon and use your sadness to motivate you to continue to work toward your weight loss goal. There were two quotes that I thought about a lot this week...this first one is "don't be reckless with other people's hearts, and don't tolerate those who are reckless with yours" and the second is that poker song, "you gotta know when to hold em, know when to fold em, know when to walk away, know when to run". I think one of the biggest lessons you learn as an adult is how and when to walk away when a situation is no longer giving you what you need. You did that. The hard part is done. Now you're only left to walk toward that something better that is right up ahead on your path.

Thank you, each day is getting easier and I would hate to gain back what has been very tough to lose. I just didnt give a crap for a few days, but i feel better now. In the grander scheme of things I know in my heart I am better off. Thanks for providing the shoulder ladies