I just finished reading a couple of posts and I couldn't do anything but say to myself, "Seriously? Really?"

I know there are going to be some people that will probably what to take my head off for this one, but I just have to ask... Are there really people that frequent this website that are so weak-minded and sensitive that they can be absolutely devastated and sent into an uncontrollable bout of depression over something someone wrote in a thread?

If someone that you don't know, have never met, and they know nothing about you, can cause such an emotional reaction in you, I personally think that you don't even need to be considering WLS at this point. You really should be seeking out the services of a therapist to figure out what makes you give away your personal power to a complete stranger.

I hear people say how "mean" some people are, and how rude others are. People are only to you what you allow them to be, and they can only take control of the power you give them.

I have never testified that I know everything about everything, but to the contrary I'm not dumb as a box of rocks! Bottom line, stop letting the things these people on this site upset you, or even get your dander up. You never know, they may come here just to see what type of drama they can get started. If you find something of value to you, keep it and cherish it. All the rest of this mess is nothing but chatter.

This post may not have been directly toward you, but if the shoe fits, feel free to lace that b i t c h up and wear it.

Question, what's the right way to to the @ when there is a space in the users name? Thanks in advance.

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@@CLOE's mom got it thanks. I only found that other post after you quoted it. Thank you for doing that. Seemed like a pretty tame post, don't you think?

Yes her post was tame and certainly not deserving of some of the comments some people made.

I guess I though the responses in that other post (four month out...) were pretty tame, at least when not taken out of context.

@@GreenEyes604 I gotta ask.....is the original poster you are referring to with starting this thread even aware of the epic battle being waged in her name lol!

@@wannaBthinsoon Hell I don't know what's going on! I can't keep up with it all...something about Red Robin and broccoli is all I got along with some potential flouncing ( Or perhaps it was made good on?) due to hurt feelings and some depressing red robin chicken maybe?? Throw in two therapist / and 5 mind readers.......blue is purple because Red sat on a roof?? That's all I got

Thanks for making me laugh....

damn... I need to start hanging out in Sleeveland.... Lapbandland is not this fun anymore. We use to be... lol

I started reading this, and then had to stop, but man am i glad i got back too it. I wish i could find an old post that was about this same issue. anywho... I agree with the OP... I have also been accused of being a "bully" and all those other names... but i just call it "being honest". Like my grandma says... It's easier to keep up with truth's than lies.

There was this LB girl that use to get on her high horse when she thought people were being "rude".... Now i can't remember her name.... Damn getting old sucks.

b-52, help me out... Who was she?

Edited March 24, 201511 yr by bayougirlmrsc

@@GreenEyes604 I gotta ask.....is the original poster you are referring to with starting this thread even aware of the epic battle being waged in her name lol!

That is a good question. I think the OP of this thread should tell us the person(s) to whom she was referring when she started the post so that person of persons can at least defend themselves.

Edited March 24, 201511 yr by Cleo's Mom

Like my grandma says... It's easier to keep up with truth's than lies.

Nothing in this thread is about truth vs lies. It's about how people post their remarks and if someone interprets them as rude then that's their fault because they're thin skinned, mentally unfit for WLS, get out of the kitchen if you can't stand the heat - well, if you've read all the posts here you know what they've said as well as defending their comments when someone thinks they're rude.

Like I've said before - those who post suggestions in a civil, mannerly and polite way never have to defend them. Guess what - it can be done and many do it. It's not hard. I suggest everyone give it a try.

And btw - look at what Alex, the founder of bariatric pal, posted in the "Jumping to conclusions" thread. He is exactly right.

Edited March 24, 201511 yr by Cleo's Mom

@@GreenEyes604 I gotta ask.....is the original poster you are referring to with starting this thread even aware of the epic battle being waged in her name lol!

That is a good question. I think the OP of this thread should tell us the person(s) to whom she was referring when she started the post so that person of persons can at least defend themselves.

I find it absolutely hypocritical that you of all people would actually want me to tell you who I was referring. After ASSuming that you knew who and what I was referring to. At least whoever I was referring to doesn't know that I was referring to them, so they can't be hurt any further by my so called "rude" and "nasty" comments. But no…. you want to know who it is so they can defend themselves…. SERIOUSLY? REALLY?

Your comment is just another example of posts that I real that make me say EXACTLY what I said in my original post. What a hypocrite you are. And just for the record, I'm NOT going to tell you who I was referencing. What someone doesn't know won't hurt them, they don't know and you don't know either!

Time for you to move on to something else!

Just what I thought - deny it was the thread "4 weeks out and depressed" but then feel strongly enough about someone or more who posted something that you felt so strongly as to start a thread unrelated to WLS but to what you perceive as people who are thin skinned and weak minded.

@@GreenEyes604 I gotta ask.....is the original poster you are referring to with starting this thread even aware of the epic battle being waged in her name lol!

That is a good question. I think the OP of this thread should tell us the person(s) to whom she was referring when she started the post so that person of persons can at least defend themselves.

I find it absolutely hypocritical that you of all people would actually want me to tell you who I was referring. After ASSuming that you knew who and what I was referring to. At least whoever I was referring to doesn't know that I was referring to them, so they can't be hurt any further by my so called "rude" and "nasty" comments. But no…. you want to know who it is so they can defend themselves…. SERIOUSLY? REALLY?

Your comment is just another example of posts that I real that make me say EXACTLY what I said in my original post. What a hypocrite you are. And just for the record, I'm NOT going to tell you who I was referencing. What someone doesn't know won't hurt them, they don't know and you don't know either!

Time for you to move on to something else!

No YOU are the hypocrite. If you had a problem with something someone posted then say it to their face on the thread they were in. But you took the coward's way out.

This isn't about not hurting anyone with your rude or nasty comments. What they don't know doesn't hurt them, blah, blah, blah. What a total cop out.

I knew we would never get a truthful answer out of you.

Keep hiding. And btw, I got a private message today from someone who supported me - but she also assumed that those who post like you are veteran WLS people. I corrected her on that assumption about you.

Edited March 24, 201511 yr by Cleo's Mom

No YOU are the hypocrite. If you had a problem with something someone posted then say it to their face on the thread they were in. But you took the coward's way out.

This isn't about not hurting anyone with your rude or nasty comments. What they don't know doesn't hurt them, blah, blah, blah. What a total cop out.

I knew we would never get a truthful answer out of you.

Keep hiding. And btw, I got a private message today from someone who supported me - but she also assumed that those who post like you are veteran WLS people. I corrected her on that assumption about you.

@@Cleo's Mom

You seem emotionally invested in this thread and may not realize this, but (in my opinion) your remarks above are abusive.

Maybe you should consider taking a short break.

Best wishes to you.

I see no abuse in @@Cleo's Mom's posts. It started off as simply asking for a little civility and understanding when replying to posts, nothing more. I applaud her efforts and whole heartedly agree that this site could certainly benefit from the overall message of "doing onto others" a little bit more.

I never said any one was not being truthful.... What i did was compare being truthful and being rude... What i said was..... some people say im rude... i say im just being truthful... BECAUSE it's easier to keep up with truths than lies.... If you ask me i will tell you, Yes that dress does make your ass look big.... even when i was big. but my friends knew that if they wanted some one to be honest, i was the girl for the job. So that being said... had some one said... I don't know why im not losing weight... all i ate today was a few donuts, hand full of chips.... etc. .... then i would say, it's because your eating CRAP... Im not going to say.... (insert sweet voice) well maybe you should think about what you ate today and write it all down and analyze it.... UGH...

A few years ago when this use to be the LB forum we had a girl ... that would attack people for going against HER view of what she thought was right and wrong....

Off subject question for you Cleo.... do you work outside the home? just curious....

People need to walk on gravel to thickening up there skin... JS