Hey guys. I have been thru this process before. My insurance has approved and last minute I backed out from the fear of anxiety, panic attacks, extra skin, looking sick and so on. I don't have much support. I am 35 with three kids that are very dependent on me as we don't have much family. I know that I hate my stomach. It's so affected me so much I have stopped having sex. I hate my body is gross. And I am ashamed of my hubby looking at me. I want to be content. But fear has paralyzed me. I saw my surgeon last week and was looking forward to getting the lap band but I was told that she would recommend the gastric sleeve as my BMI is 44. She said that the risk of the band are slimmer during the operation but they are higher as time goes on due to the foreign object in my body... So the sleeve it will be. I need motivation from those who have had the surgery.

Thanks guys. ????????????

backed out anxiety, panic attacks, extra skin- don't have much support

@@mariela_n3

third time WILL be the charm

getting cold feet before surgery happens

no more!!! ok??

busy with 3 kids

only imagine how hard that is

not much support??

what are we

you have finally taken yourself off the back burner

right to the front where you belong

but i know you can and will be a success

as you start losing weight, you will gradually feel so much better

being able to run/play with those cuties

do you have an official date??

you are on the way to a healthier, longer life

who deserves it more?

good luck

kathy

Edited February 9, 201511 yr by proudgrammy

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Edited March 5, 201511 yr by Mom0f3inOC

I have to say this surgery was by far the easiest thing I have ever done. This was easier than my complete hysterectomy.

I would encourage you to start to love yourself now. Your body is not gross. Your body is beautiful. It brought 3 lives into this world. Contrary to what magazine would like us to believe there are no perfect people out there. Have this surgery to be healthy. To be the person you need to be in order to take care of your children. Love yourself for you.

Thank you so much. That means a lot!!!

Does your surgeon have support groups available that you can join? Or anything like that? Or maybe you could have a few sessions with a health psychologist? Not saying that online support doesn't help - I've found it very helpful - but I've been in a support group previously for anxiety and depression and it really helped a lot to have a group of the same folks to see for support and feedback.

Thank you. I currently see a therapist for my anxiety and marriage issues. But she has no clue that I am getting this done. I'm hoping to talk to her this week about it. There are support groups ️available will start joining soon. Thanks girl. ????

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