So where I just got sleeved they don't believe in setting goal weights because they don't like having people who lose 100 pounds feel like losers because they didn't lose 125. I understand their thinking, but for me, I do well with goals. And I know myself, if I don't make my goal, but know I gave an awesome effort, I'd still be thrilled in my accomplishment.

So, here are my numbers I'd you want to try and set my goal. Height 5'8" fattest 310. Weight day of surgery 283. Weight today, 10 days post op, 266

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I am 5,7, my highest was 242lbs, my goal is to be 155-165lbs. I guess for you 165-175lbs will be ideal.

Thanks. So is goal weight set at a certain bmi?

My initial goal was to get under and actually MAINTAIN under 200#. Since I had spent a lot of years in the 300+ range that was an ambition.

When i got closer to that, i realized I wanted more so I adjusted my goal to 158. i picked that number because it put me at 25ish BMI and it was a nice round 150# weight loss.

I actually got down to 140, but never changed my goal because I want to respect that I am still a success whether I have lost those extra vanity pounds or not.

My advice, set a realistic goal... and keep an open mind to change it.... or to keep it as the upper end of your bounce range. It can be a negative thing to keep over focused on a number.

You could set a goal that you think is healthy (perhaps based on BMI) and then change it once you reach it, if you want to. That's what I did.

I think your initial goal should be healthy and maintainable like 180, then once you achieve you can lower it if you want. I think having your first, second, then third goal and so on makes it easier for you to feel accomplished and not so untouchable.

Like many here, I have kind of set a goal of 199. There is something about breaking that 200 mark that I just want to achieve. My brother, who has very similar frame gets as low as 165 when he's skinny but usually bounces between 185 and 200. So if i hit 199 I would be at the upper range of what my brother is at, and he bike races and hikes frequently, living a healthy life. But sometimes I think 199 is too unrealistic, I haven't been that since I was 16 (40 now). Other times I think I want to shoot for the moon and break 180. I guess I'll just have a bunch of smaller goals and celebrate more frequently.

And don't forget that 199 can look very different depending on your body composition. If you just lose the fat and don't exercise hard, 199 might look "soft," but if you are exercising hard 199 and muscular looks very different. I think starting with "onederland" is a great goal, and once you get there, you can fine tune it a bit more