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So, I got the most hated comment (for me anyway) the other day:

Someone congratulated me on my weight loss & asked how I did it. I'm always very open and honest about my surgery, so I told her I had the sleeve....

Her reply: "oh, I thought you did it yourself."

My head said "b*tch!" But my mouth said, "well it was a lot of hard work." -- I didn't look, but I could feel her rolling her eyes, but I beat her with the flames coming out my ears.

People have no clue.

I WORK at this-- the results speak for themselves. I don't have to explain myself to anyone.

We work hard. Pat yourself on the back! This life isn't easy-- it's high maintenance. Not everyone can do what we do. Don't let anyone's opinions bring you down.... Cheers to us!

:)

Misty

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Don't let anyone get you down! They always told me I took the easy way out. It wasn't easy thats for sure! You and I both know it took a lot of hard work!

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I agree, it isn't the easy way out. I made a post in my blog about this, in a way. So what if it is the easy way out? I use a remote control because it's easier than getting my lazy butt up to change channels. I drive a car because it's easier than walking. I use a washing machine because it's easier than using a wash-board. Almost everything in life is done for convenience and ease. Why not provide myself with every possible weapon I can to fight this battle?

I am not as nice as you and would not have been able to respond nicely. Kudos!

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If you didn't do it yourself, who did it for you?

OMG! LOL. LOVE THIS!!!

@@Sleevarilla - I think I would've gone off if I wasn't at work- gotta be somewhat professional. lol

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Pay no mind to ignorant remarks like that. You've worked hard to enjoy the success you've had. All the surgery did, was level the playing field!

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Folks I haven't seen in a while always ask how I did it. If they seem genuinely interested, I tell them...never know who might be considering surgery as an option and I will share my story in a heartbeat if I think it may help someone.

If however the person asking is the judgmental type, I simply tell them I've been eating less and moving more...it's the truth! ;) :P :lol:

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Hater ALERT!!!!!!...ppl think its just surgery they just dont know!!!!!...good for U!!!!...

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I really haven't had negative comments, but I had one person say they were sick of dieting and wished they could just have surgery like I did. She was just being a patronizing bitch, so I turned the tables on her and gave her my surgeons name and contact info, told her all about the the preop and postop diet and how lucky I was not to have any of the complications ( which I described in detail) How now I can eat anything I want, as long as it's not bread, Pasta, rice, potatoes, and sweets. Exclaimed how great I feel now that I can't drink beer and don't wake up with hangovers anymore. (She's a big partier). Made suggestions on the best Vitamins and Protein powders to get, talked about drinking at least 2 liters of Water everyday, and how many great bariatric recipe websites there are. Described how nice it is to only have to eat an appetizer at a restaurant, so I was saving so much money. The more I encouraged her, the more excuses she made of why she couldn't do it. I put a positive spin on my whole experience, but I think I made my point about how " easy" this all is.

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Some guy on my sister crew asked me how much i had lost and what I've been doing so I told him that I have been hitting the gym and really watching what I eat and I also had the sleeve surgery too. His response was "well if that makes you eat less, why don't you just eat less?"

Gosh why didn't I think of that? Smh!

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So, I got the most hated comment (for me anyway) the other day:<br><br>

Someone congratulated me on my weight loss & asked how I did it. I'm always very open and honest about my surgery, so I told her I had the sleeve....<br>

Her reply: "oh, I thought you did it yourself." <br>

My head said "b*tch!" But my mouth said, "well it was a lot of hard work." -- I didn't look, but I could feel her rolling her eyes, but I beat her with the flames coming out my ears. <br><br>

People have no clue. <br><br>

I WORK at this-- the results speak for themselves. I don't have to explain myself to anyone. <br><br>

We work hard. Pat yourself on the back! This life isn't easy-- it's high maintenance. Not everyone can do what we do. Don't let anyone's opinions bring you down.... Cheers to us!<br><br>

:)<br>

Misty<br><br><br><br><br>

EASY?? I had 48 hours of nausea!

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Anyone who thinks it's easy just doesn't understand how the surgery works. They think it actually is a magic bullet and all you had to do was go under the knife, then sit back and take a vacation while the pounds flew off. :rolleyes:

Edited by Spring Dixie

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Look how beautiful you are! You know how hard you're working! Don't let anyone steal your joy! :)

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That is definitely some serious haterade! You look so great! You are so right - this is major hard work. I was just talking about this with my sisters who have been extra supportive. Everyday is hard work. Making sure you are eating right and exercising but it's all worth it :-) I keep asking myself why I waited so long to get this surgery. Anyways you look amazing so keep it up!

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