My husband refuses to stop buying junk food. I'm 10 days post op, still on liquids and he's bringing home funnions and ritz crackers and liters of soda. PLUS he expects me to cook dinner every night when I can't even taste the food and it's really bumming me out. I have told him how hard it is for me to not eat junk food and he tells me I have to have will power which I understand but if I had willpower I wouldn't have reached 300 freakin pounds!! I understand he's not on, nor does he need to be on a diet but I am so hungry for food right now that I feel like I need to move out or something to stick to my doctors instructions. Just felling totally unsupported and needing to vent :-(

Get another refrigerator.

Tell him to cook his own meals.

People can only treat you how you let them.

At the time of my surgery I was living with my partner and two grown sons and my oldest sons girlfriend. They were supportive but of course still wanted to eat!

One of the things we did is put "temptations" in a cabinet that I never opened. Out of sight out of mind helped because it was driving me crazy seeing and smelling crackers, chips and junk food all the time.

Also, I gave over cooking duties.

When we went out to eat, they were great about sharing meals or otherwise making it so I could be successful there.

I would try to appeal to him for some support but I kinda agree with lipstick lady too. I mean, we had the surgery,not them. We are the ones with the issue and at some point you have to really develop a certain mental toughness about your own priorities. I had the advantage that I was so "over food" by then - it was like the bad boyfriend that needed to be kicked to the curb if you know what I mean. I was really really really motivated.

I kinda liked her suggestion about cooking too... haha... mushies - yuck!

Its possible he wants you to keep cooking dinner (even if you don't eat it) because he feels food was one of the stronger bonds between the two of you and he might be afraid that will go away. I say still cook him dinner, just cook healthier versions of what you normally would. It will give you good practice for cooking healthy when you can eat fairly normal again, and he might even decide he likes some of the healthier options.

I think its equally important for us to support our significant others as it is for them to support us. We often forget they are going through some massive changes too, and our relationships will be more likely to last if issues are addressed on both sides.

I had this issue from the beginning with the food and I had to realize my weight and food issues were mine not anyone else's. The two week pre-diet of straight liquids my family went to our camp and let me tell you it was some cooking going on. I cooked something for every meal. I watched them eat and said that is what got me to this size in the first place. I loved my family and friends time before the surgery and they still had to eat. At the hospital my husband would go to the cafeteria and bring it back to my room. Only once did the smell bother me but my IV had blown and I wasn't getting my nausea meds. After coming home I slept for the three days just getting up to sip my drinks. Then the forth day I cleaned house and he was so mad and I told him I have to move to lose. I don't cook everyday he and our grandson eats a sandwich or grill a piece of meat and a salad but I still cook. I am his wife and I love to see their face enjoy the meal. I have found on Pinterest a WLSRecipes for the sleeve and they are great. We have tried several and my family loves it also. Also I get free books from book buds.com to my kindle and have gotten several cookbook for WLS and paleo diet. Just remember this you have to find your reason for eating your feelings and the world is going to keep eating while your looking for your answer.

My family and I have discussed not bringing any tempting foods into the house at least for the first few months after surgery while I'm getting used to my new eating habits. I asked them if they are going to have junk foods to please eat them elsewhere or just hide them and don't let me know they exist. They're on board with that. My husband and 13 yo daughter LOVE veggies and salads so I really don't foresee a problem...fingers crossed.

I didn't expect my husband to switch up his lifestyle just because I chose to have surgery. It was my choiceto jump through the 6 months worth of hoops, go under the knife for the 13th and hopefully last time and change my mindset towards food. Because this was my choice, I did not change what I normally did for my family. I still cook dinner every night....although I may double up on the veggies & skip making the starchy sides for them.

The interesting thing is my husband began to adopt my lifestyle in small ways over time. He has since lost over 60 pounds. While I appreciate the support...I didn't change my lifestyle for him. I did it for me.

One of my (nearly useless) nutritionists once said (pre-op), "Oh, as a bariatric patient you'll find grocery shopping easy. It's no different than planning your husband's meals."

I LOLed!

One of my (nearly useless) nutritionists once said (pre-op), "Oh, as a bariatric patient you'll find grocery shopping easy. It's no different than planning your husband's meals."

I LOLed!

LOL! Before surgery, I would just walk up & down aisles getting whatever I thought we needed. Now, I have two lists. One for the family & one for me. And I spend waaay more time in the grocery store reading labels...kids don't even want to go with me anymore.

By now you have probably left him. Or you won't make it. Perhaps he'll change. Probably not. Too bad but you deserve better. He is not a honey or a good guy if he won't change

My kids will still want what they want. I'll try cooking it. Thank goodness my daughter can cook some things now.

Maybe if your cooking really started to suck, he'd start making what he wants.