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Hi all. I am getting sleeved tomorrow. I've had surgery before but this is different. My mom went on for surgery on April 3rd and got a blood clot and passed away April 4th. Just about 2 months ago. She was my main support. My in case of emergent person. I've found myself breaking down. Now I'm mostly afraid of dying and leaving my 3 year old daughter alone. She's lost 2 people in the past 8 months. I'm just stressed and can't sleep.

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Hi all. I am getting sleeved tomorrow. I've had surgery before but this is different. My mom went on for surgery on April 3rd and got a blood clot and passed away April 4th. Just about 2 months ago. She was my main support. My in case of emergent person. I've found myself breaking down. Now I'm mostly afraid of dying and leaving my 3 year old daughter alone. She's lost 2 people in the past 8 months. I'm just stressed and can't sleep.

I'd be more concerned about a person who wasn't scared the night before. Sure it's risky and complications can and do happen. This surgery gave me my life back. I wasted 10 years on the sofa eating myself to death. I'd gladly have this surgery again.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I think most of us were scared but i can especially see why you would be. I was very scared as well. I just had to hold onto the belief that I was giving my children the gift of a full, rich, active life with me.

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I just had surgery today and was scared like yourself. I can tell you know there is nothing to be afraid about. I feel great considering what i have been throught.all the gfear was a waste of time. You will do find and have a full life ahead of you to spend with you children and family, but youll be more healthy annd receice more fufillment.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Sending many prayers your way. I, too, am very fearful but being active on this forum has helped balance my fears with reality. Concentrate on the joy you will feel when you are able to fully enjoy life with your daughter.

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Hi all. I am getting sleeved tomorrow. I've had surgery before but this is different. My mom went on for surgery on April 3rd and got a blood clot and passed away April 4th. Just about 2 months ago. She was my main support. My in case of emergent person. I've found myself breaking down. Now I'm mostly afraid of dying and leaving my 3 year old daughter alone. She's lost 2 people in the past 8 months. I'm just stressed and can't sleep.< /p>

Check in when you can and let us know how you're doing!

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Hi all. I am getting sleeved tomorrow. I've had surgery before but this is different. My mom went on for surgery on April 3rd and got a blood clot and passed away April 4th. Just about 2 months ago. She was my main support. My in case of emergent person. I've found myself breaking down. Now I'm mostly afraid of dying and leaving my 3 year old daughter alone. She's lost 2 people in the past 8 months. I'm just stressed and can't sleep.

My condolences to you sweetie

Where do you live? Maybe theres a support group on this site for your area.

I wish I had done this when my son was younger ... I wouldve been a better mom. Dont give up.

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Sorry for your loss. I know you are scared but I glad you are pushing through. There is a lot of support here and like the previous post said maybe you can join a local support group. I know the support is important so don't hesitate to use all of us. We are here for you. Prayers coming your way.

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Still in preop. Delayed another hr. Ugh. :-/

Just checking in to see how you are doing.

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Still in preop. Delayed another hr. Ugh. :-/

I think that hour has passed! :lol:

How are you doing after surgery?

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